life is a crazy thing and i have pritty much seen it all. I have lived all over the country and have had and still have all different types of friends. if you have a problem concering anything i bet i have an answer. just keep in mind that there are only 24 hours in a day, and no matter how bad things get, there is always a way to get through it.
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Age: 20
Member Since: December 30, 2004
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Last Update: January 2, 2005
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last nite, the guy i like (lets call him bob) asked me if i liked him... im starting to get over him, but i still like him. bob is a sophmore and im a freshman but we are good friends that get along great. i know bob doesnt like me becuz i asked him who he likes... (its sum girl who alredi has a bf) i kind of want to try to get bob to like me even tho i know he doesnt. last nite wen he asked me if i liked him, i said no... i was wondering if i made the rite decision because, now i know bob wont like me becuz he thinks i dont like him... but i dont rele want to tell him i like him because i dont want things to change between us... WHAT SHOULD I DO??
-- confused girl w/ a 1-way crush (link)
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first off make up your mind on what you want. do you want to kiss this guy, have a relationship with this guy and think of him as more than just a friend or not?
the fact is if you can't date a guy and expect nothing to change between you even if the change is positive. it sounds like he may be intrested or he wouldn't of asked if you liked him. like you did, he was just testing the waters before he takes the plung. good luck
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ok my boyfriend i love him to death and he really loves me...but like i feel like i annoy him...so i dont like calling him....i talked to him about it before and he was like aw baby you dont annoy me i love it when you call me i love talking to you...i was like ok...but it seems like whenever i call him hes eating....ill be like are you busy?? and hes like no im just eating..and ill be like oh...want to call me back or something then? and hell say yea ill call you in a bout 20 minutes...and he doesnt call for like another 2 hours....i called him at 3 3o and its now 4 30!! i mean come on....thats kind of rude....what do i say? i dont want to be like...WHY DIDNT U CALL ME BACK IN EXACTLY 20MINS?! and like possesive....but hes kind of pissing me off!!!!!! (link)
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wo now, you seem to be secound guessing yourself way to much. he has already told you that you don't annoy him, SO STOP ANNOYING HIM with the same question and bring it up over and over. and secoundly the " likes" have got to stop. try talking to him with out say like. that my help. and finnily its ok if he dosen't call you right back, your not the only person on his mind and sometimes he may forget or get busy, if your really upset that he didn't call you back then just call him!
one more thing, not to be mean or anything but you need to take a break from him and get your self in order first if a lously missed phone call is getting you this upset.
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I don't have any guts when it comes to dumping a guy. Well.. OK I must admit this is my first time and we never went out on a date. I just don't want to be in a relationship right now. So, do you think it is ok to write a note to the guy I want to dump and say I don't want to be in a relationship? Or, does anyone know another way where I don't have to talk to him face-to-face. Or, do I have to talk to him like that! PLease help! (link)
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there is nothing worse than a person that connot face there problem and be able to stand up for what they feel. You need to talk to him face to face, no notes. no friends. just you and him. you said that you don't have the guts, but stop thinking that way! you are a strong individul, don't be a push over. He had the courage to ask you out, show him that you have to courage to tell him that you have changed your mind,(and you have every right to cange your mind). just be calm, reherse what you are going to say, be nice, don't mud sling and give hime the same respect you would want if you were in his place. you will do fine.
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Well I am kinda in a long distance relationship and it is hard because i dont get to see him like everyday. I am only 13 and i am a female and I think he is the one and I love him every much. Do you think this will last forever????? NEED HELP FAST!!!! (link)
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i saw the other people's comments on your question but there is one thing that we cannot provide for you, and that is a definate answer. You are young, with your whole life ahead of you and forever is a long time, just keep that in mind. also everyone has there own story about long distance relationship, some work other don't but that is just the way of life, it has a funny way of directing you in to the path of your future. maybe the fact that he is so far away will help you be able to learn self control, how to be trust worthy and trust other. or maybe in the end you will learn that some things just aren't ment to be but whatever happends be happy.
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My friend and I went to the movies at the mall and after it was over, we saw my crush and his friend there too. I know that he saw me, because he knows who I am because he goes to my church and all that stuff. Well, after we went to the bathroom, he was still there. I know that he looked at us a few times. What would that mean? And, my friend and I were smiling and whispering to eachother and looking back at him. She doesn't like him though. Anyways, what would that have said to him, us smiling and looking at him. Would it have told him anything? And why was he looking at us (me)? Thanks and I rate. Oh, he's a year older and we're in jr. high. (link)
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well to really answer that question i asked a guy friend what he thought and his first response was Yes he think that you like him by the way you acted at the mall. next time try talking to him.
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me and my girl are realy close but lately about 3 other girls have been hitten on me. including like my best friend. i dont know how 2 let them down couse ive told them i have a girl
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ignore them, if they know that you are dating someone and they are still comming on to you then they are not only distrusting in your dicision for a girlfriend but just being disrespectful.
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Well, I got into a fight with my friend , shes been my friend since 1st grade. and i'm in 9th grade now. I got into a fight with her because she gave my purse to someone without asking me, and she wouldn't tell the person to give it back. so i said until she gives it back im not talking to you. she started flipping out swearing, calling me fat and ugly and i couldn't get a boyfriend. THEN, i was going to forgive her until she told my other ex-friend marie that i talk about her all the time, and told her everything i said about her (which was true), but i don't think she should do that, i can't trust her or anything . i don't think i can forgive her.. what would u do?! (link)
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I have told many people this so it is time i tell you too, Some friendships don't last forever. It is time for you to go out and find new friends. what your friend did to you was rude and you have a right to be mad not her! she even took it a step further by calling you names. she dosen't deserve your friendship if she can't be a friend first. but look on the bright side now you can find a friend that is better than her, maybe even a whole new group of friends.
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Hey, im 16f and am really interested in becoming a personal trainer, could anyone give me any tips or advice on which route would b the best 2 take and wether its a good job? thanx (link)
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being a personal trainer is a great job. you can start out in High school working as a trainer for the football team and other sports programs in your school. they will teach you alot. also consider going to the gym and seeing a personal trainer in action so you can get a really good idea what they do on a day to day basis if you don't already know. the next thing you need to do is GO TO COLLEGE. you can major in sports medicine or another type of mayor that would fall in that same line. good luck
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This is really embarrassing but i need some advice when i go to have sex i can't perform
i have trouble keeping an erection even when i masturbate i have trouble getting an erection
its worrying and im not sure what to do about it
also my penis is only just on 3 inches long when erect its really embarrassing what can i do?
Could i be impotent? (link)
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go to a doctor. only they can really answer your question correctly.
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I'm 35, and married for three years. I got married cause I was lonely and married the first guy who came around after my boyfriend and I split. In the meantime, boyfriend married someone else and has two kids. Recently boyfriend and family needed a place to live. They now live with us. I'm still in love with him. We've had sex, with our spouses approval... It was awesome as always. I want him more than my husband... husband is lousy in bed. Boyfriend loves his wife, and really only wants her, and a traditional marriage... without his ex being in love with him. I just need some advice... or a friend... someone to understand me. (link)
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i sort of had the same problem. You are unhappy with your current guy but instead of looking forward you are thinking in the past and past loves. first think about what is going on in your marrage. is bad sex the only issue if so then talk about it go to a sex teacher, give him advice, and try to make what you have together better than when you were first married. If sex is not the only issue or it is just not getting better and you find your self always unhappy then maybe it is time you talk about divorce. to some people divorce is such a bad word but it dosen't mean that it is a bad thing when it comes to your happieness. then go for someone new not old.
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I am 23 years old. I have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. He's the only person I've ever slept with, and vice versa. I'm having problems because sex is very painful with him and I don't enjoy it. His penis is very large and it hurts a LOT. The length isn't so much a problem, but the girth. Neither of us has any STD's or anything like that. I love him a lot and we've even talked about marriage but I can't imagine a life of not enjoying sex. Any advice? (link)
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you need to take a trip to the gyno, they have seen it all and know how to help you. if you get the help u need u will find that you will be able to enjoy sex with him. just be careful and smart about it.
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ok well my question is a bit complicated, see im 15 years old and theres this guy I like hes 16. we grew up together ive known since ive been 4 years old and ive liked him. Ive always had a crush on him since 4 years ago..so 11 years. weve been best friends. well he found out i liked him and was gonna ask me out...i know this for a fact. well i go to meet him and theres some chick with him and its his new girlfriend...shes 14 and he said he wouldnt date a younger chick. his words to me were "i like you still but i like her more sorry...can we be friends?" then she comes over and starts kising him adn they start making out in front of me....and he keeps calling asking about friendship i keep ignoring the call or haning up...im so hurt..i mean 11 years! is longer than a chick he just met....i just dont get why i cant have a bf and keep one! what to do?
-Advicegivers0601
(my username on advicenators) (link)
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you gave him your friendship for so long and now he is just throwing it all away by acting the way he is. you have good reason not to want to talk to him. not every frenship is ment to last forever just think of it as his loss and not yours. if he is still calling you then tell him that you thought that he would have more respect for you, because from what i an reading he seems to be really rude to you by making out with another girl in front of you. There are always going to be people out there that take more than they give. it sounds like he is one if them. just don't dwell on thoughts of him. and as far a keeping best friends well i promise you that there is not a bf shortage going around, maybe through this experience you can grow as a person and find a friend that will do the same with you. good luck
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My ex-bf and I started talking again online. Sure, we worked everything out. It still feels funny when talking to him though, especially if I still like him, and he has no idea. Well last night, I asked him wut he was doing online, he told me he was talking to people and "his" girl. At first I thought, "is he refering to me?", but then I was like no, he can't be, he has another girl in his life. Well I was babysitting today and i was watching 3 kids play outside in the front, and what do you know...my ex comes walking down the street (he lives in my neighborhood) with 2 girls. I pretended not to even notice him because, look at me, I'm a loser babysitting, and look at him hanging out with girls from MY school and MY classes. I KNEW he saw me because right when he was in front of my house his face was no where near the direction in looking at me. So my questions are,
1) Should I ask him what he meant by "his" girl? I don't wanna look nosy though...can there be a way to make it sounds "non-nosy??"
2)Why didn't he even bother to say hi, or call my name, even if I wasn't looking his way?
Thanks soooo much
and you'd never guess who'd be asking this question...yes, I am a person on advicenators who gives advice :) (link)
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1) no
2) because you didn't bother to do the same. it takes two you know. and you seem to be hung up on this guy. just forget about him. both of you have moved on and it is time for you to realize that
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17f, i know i had my whole entire life to live, and im still really young, etc.. but i havent been even close to having a relationship in SO long.. im very good looking and smart, and have a great personality and respectful... i feel like every single time i walk out of my house to go anywhere, like the mall, gym, store, just anywhere, i always hope to meet someone.. when im just driving in my car, i always look around me to see if they are any cute guys in their cars next to mine, etc.. I try not to and I hate it because the thought of meeting someone is always in my head, and i DONT want it to be, i want to meet someone when i least expect to.. any tipz on how to get this out of my mind so much? thanks =] (link)
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you said you are always looking for the hot guys but there are more qualities in a man then just their looks you my be plesently surprised if you stop looking for mister right in a crowd. in fact just stop looking because what if someone already has an eye for you are your to busy looking the other way?
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MY DOG is 12 years old and is suffering from arthritist.and last year he started to eat charcoal and vomiting it out.Do u think this is normal?does your dog do this? (link)
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when a child sometimes eats something that is a poison, their parents or even a doctor with make them eat liguid charcoal, because it cause a person to vomit. the same thing is happening to your dog. they have a way of takeing care of themselves so he maybe doing that because he feels sick and eating charcoal and vomiting is making him feel better.
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There's alot of things my boyfriend doesn't know about me, like I have a Psychiatrist and I was abused and stuff. I keep it close between me and my friends because I know I can trust them. I very much trust my boyfriend, but I don't just want to tell him straight up like when we're hanging out or something. I think it's only right if he asks me personal questions and then me respond. Does that seem right? Or should I tell him straight up? (link)
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i am sure there are things that he hasen't told you about him. if it happends to come up then explain, but don't feel obligated to tell. but when you do tell him and he seems to not like that part of you then he dosen't need to be with you.
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theres this friend I have.. she hates being fat.. she gains weight really quickly.. recently shes been purging.. I tell her the stuff that can happen from doing that and i want to help her stop.. shes been doing ok but she made herself throw up again on christmas and boxing day cuz her parents made her eat alot and she didn't wanna screw their xmas up for them.. I want to help her but i really dunno what I can do for her now...she doesn't listen to what I say about what could happen to her health cuz shes sticking pens down her throat and stuff.. her parents force her to eat meat and she hates meat so she wants to throw that up too.. please give me advice on what I can tell her to help her stop or what I can tell her to tell her parents to be more understanding about her being a vegeterian without letting her parents no what my friend is doing.. thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I hope that you reply to this with helpful advice.. it would be greatly appreciated.. thanks - happy holidays! (link)
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if she will not listen to you then it time you find someone that will listen. you can talk to your parents about it, or hers. if not that then try your school counsellor, a teacher, or even try a teen hotline in your area. just whatever you do or what ever happends it will be for the better good of your friend.
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does braces hurt when they tighten them and o yeah what are some good colors for them 2 and well not being racsit but i need some people who wear braces to tell but if anybody elese wants to answer feel free. (link)
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it dosen't really hurt at all just a little tight and as far a colors don't get white or clear. your shool colors are always a good idea. or any sport team that you are on.
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I'm overweight... I participate in a lot of sports and i think i get enough excercise... i could be doing more... but my big problem is sweets... its like an addiction... i just cant seem to stop eating them!!!!!! does anyone have any ideas on how to help me eat more healthy? (link)
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i now how you feel it is so hard sometimes to give up something that is everywhere like sweets. but who said you have to go cold turkey. first you need to think about how much sweets you eat or drink (softdrinks where my thing) an then think of a way to slowly cut them out. for me it was stop drinking softdrinks during lunch, then cutting down from there. it tuff at first but soon you will be surprised how easy it can be
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OK, I said yes to this guy when he asked me out. Now, I don't want to go out with him.. so I'm going to, well not exactly dump him cuz we didn't go out by tell him I don't want to go out with him. I still want to be really really good friends with him. How do I say that I don't want to go out with him? (link)
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you already said the you would so you at least own him one date, just make sure that you are open with him and tell him that you did give it a chance but you would just rather be friends
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