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Should we be on Jerry Springer???
I'm 35, and married for three years. I got married cause I was lonely and married the first guy who came around after my boyfriend and I split. In the meantime, boyfriend married someone else and has two kids. Recently boyfriend and family needed a place to live. They now live with us. I'm still in love with him. We've had sex, with our spouses approval... It was awesome as always. I want him more than my husband... husband is lousy in bed. Boyfriend loves his wife, and really only wants her, and a traditional marriage... without his ex being in love with him. I just need some advice... or a friend... someone to understand me.
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wowerz!!! sounds like jerry springer to me!!!
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You aren't really being fair to an innocent party in all of this, and that is your husband. Whatever your reasons were for marrying him, his were most likely honorable. You made a commitment, and I know this is America, and commitment doesn't mean anything to anyone, but darnit, you shouldn't get married out of loneliness, but out of a desire to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Your ex is out of the question, period. So get him out of your life, you can't heal from someone when they are living in your house. This will continue to cause you pain and torment and continue to spawn negative feelings towards your current husband.
Now you need to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with your husband. Do you want to be with him enough to work through problems such as an unsatifying love life. I mean you can go to sexual therapists, however whether they work or not is questionable, some people just suck in bed. If this is someone you want to be with (not just someone that makes you not alone), then put your heart into the marriage, and don't sleep with anyone outside of the marriage with or without permission. Every polygamous marriage I have known has failed miserably. If you don't want to be with this guy, quit wasting your time and his.
Don't worry about being alone if you leave him either. Some of the best relationships I've seen in my life were by people that obtained them when they were older.
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hold up your husband and you ex's wife gave you guy permission 2 have sex. thats messed up. but i know its nice 2 offer him a roof but if it is causing you emotional strain i would find him another place 2 stay.
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i sort of had the same problem. You are unhappy with your current guy but instead of looking forward you are thinking in the past and past loves. first think about what is going on in your marrage. is bad sex the only issue if so then talk about it go to a sex teacher, give him advice, and try to make what you have together better than when you were first married. If sex is not the only issue or it is just not getting better and you find your self always unhappy then maybe it is time you talk about divorce. to some people divorce is such a bad word but it dosen't mean that it is a bad thing when it comes to your happieness. then go for someone new not old.
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hey i understand you! if u ever need to talk i can be your friend just im me or leave one in my inbox! misshell1433
((x o ♥ Michelle))
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jerry springer sounds like the ticket. until get as much sex as you can out of your ex so your happy.
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Well, maybe you should have your ex boyfriend move out because if he doesnt want a relationship with you..and you do..that will cause problems if your living in the same house. Maybe you oculd help them get a palce to live or something? If your husband is lousy in bed..I think you need to tell him..well dont tell him straight out because that will break his heart. But ask him if you cvould try new things..you know? And yeah it sounds like jerry Springer but Jerry Spriner is fake because not that many people wanna marry their moms and stuff!
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