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my dad..
ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long..
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Well for starters I don't think you should be a "Girly Girl". not there is anything wrong with it, from what you told me, it’s just not you.
Start off telling your dad EVERYTHING you just said, then never let him you who you are, That is not HIS PLACE!
I’m sorry you have such a dad, I have known many that where just as bad, if not worst. but keep this in mind, you’re only stuck with it for a while.
I hoped this helped and that it works out for you. Let me know how it goes and if I helped.
~Teen Guru~
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i guess yah, he seems like the kinda dad that thinks you should try girly sports but from the looks of it, you dont seem like a girly girl, i hate softball too..damn balls too big..lol
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if you love baseball then certainly play baseball. its illegal to keep you off a baseball team. tell youre father hes being sexist and that girls showed a long time ago that they could and should be allowed to participate in those kinds of sports. i know a couple girls that choose baseball over softball and they're really good. and next time youre at the batting cages yell at him to get his attention. tell him to watch you and see how good you are. just prove to him you can do it. if you ultimatley cant get his support then pursue it yourself.do it for you. dont let him stop you.
*SaRaH*
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well you could say next time if you go again while your hitting the base balls say ''hey dad whatch me!''
hope i helped. and good luck
rkgurl13
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next time he does something like that accuse him of being sexist, that'll get his attention. When you have his attention show him what you can do and he'll be proud.
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He encouraged you at softball because softball is what girls play when they play baseball. So, softball is the one you need to learn to hit. He wasn't being mean he was being helpful. If you want to play ball....practice the softball! :)
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There is fast-pitch softball which may be more to your liking. Some leagues also have girls baseball. Have you saw the movie "A League of Their Own"? If you haven't ask your dad if he'll watch a movie with you and then pop this into the VCR or DVD player. Many men have misconceptions on what women can do so showing them that you can do it too will help. I myself played football with the guys when I was younger and my dad was proud as can be since he played high school football.
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Old habits are hard to change and your Dad probably doesn't mean anything bad by his suggestions or ideas. Just talk to him and tell him what you're all about, what you like, dislike, etc...Either way don't feel to bad if he still doesn't see things or understand where you're coming from. You aren't going to change what you think or feel because of him and you should expect him to do the same. Just remember that you do what you do because you like it and not for your father's approval.
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I think you should talk to him and tell him how you're feeling about this. Explain to him that by the way he acts you feel like he doesn't think you can do certain things, just because you're a girl. Tell him you were doing great at batting baseballs but he didn't get to see, since he wasn't paying attention. Then when it came to softball, he watched, but you sucked at it. I think you should go back to that baseball batting cage with your father, and show him just how good you are at baseball. Or you could always do a little baseball batting around your yard with your father.
♥ Krissy
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talk to him maybe? but first wait for better answers before you try mine, cause thats all i can think of
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