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Does anyone else feel this way?
When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f
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marriage is hardly like what it was years years ago. vows, commitment, people dont give much thought about that crap. but "love" isnt always permanet and people are allowed to feel differently every now and then. it hurts, and yea it affects their kids. but for both parties its a matter of going through a challenge and experience. if it works out then yay for you but if it doesnt, so what, we all move on right?
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It's true, there are always complications in life. In everything we do, and say, and are. Marriage was once a blissful thing to engage in, it was BASED on love, and happiness. It was basic instinct once, you were born, grew up, got married, then came the children. It's a simple society based myth. If you feel you don't ever want to be married, then don't. Marriage is a choice, not a requirement in life. It's a right, not a guarentee. So feel how you will, if you don't want to be married, then don't be. Be free in the world and experience life.
..ashleigh
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i'm in the same boat as you.
except for i want to get married,it's just scary because both of my parents had many failed marriages,and they aren't together anymore.
&yea,christianity sets good standards for marriage,but that still doesnt assure you that it won't fail.
some people don't ever get married,and that's okay.
it's your choice.
i advise that you pray about it,& ask God to shine some light.
hope i helped. :]]
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Hi, that is fine. Good on you for being honest. Alot of people feel the same way, I for one for example don't want sex but that is my opinion. It's your choice and it's good that you've thought about it. Daniel.
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You aren't alone in not wanting to get married, but do yourself a favor dear and drop the word never out of your vocabulary. Never is a very long time and people respond strongly to the word.
This marriage argument you are having with people is pointless, avoid it. Simply changing your language and telling people "Marriage doesn't interest me" rather then "I will never get married!" will stop many people from arguing with you about it. You aren’t alone in feeling like marriage isn’t an arrangement that will work for you, just make sure you recognize that that is what marriage basically is, the title of an arrangement between people and there are many different kinds of arrangements that people call marriage. Don’t get too hung up on a title that means a lot of different things to a lot of different people.
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Christianity sets a good basis for marriage, so i reccomend that but some people just don't feel the need to get married, you know. It's like they don't crave that other half to "complete" them.
Loads of people don't get married, they don't feel the need to and it is not one of those things that you have to do.
God didn't intend for us to get married, only if we wanted to....due to feeling lonely. He wanted us to remain single and unmarried which, to me, is fucking scary. But everyone has their free will, just do what makes you happy.
Besides, you don't know what is going to happen in your future. You might meet someone and totally change you outlook on marriage...who knows? :)
Vick x
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well its mainly on one persons opinion if they want to get married are not i mean what you said is a great thing it made me think alot but... sometimes what you say always doesnt happen i know this as a fact when you find someone well even if your not looking he will come along that mean god is saying he and you belong together but you dont have to get married marrage is about love and trust like you said it seems people dont think marrage is a big deal i know you hear this all the time but mr right will come along and you know you loe him when even though you seen him every day you still get nevous to talk to him hope you liked what i said this is my first time giving advice
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Ever since my best friend was 7 years old he vowed he would never marry cause girls were icky. he is now 17, loves girls, and is in a relationship with some one he considers really special, although all this has changed, one thing remains, he refuses to consider the thought of merredge. you are not alone, sure its a great experianse for some people to settle and get married, but that just isnt were your at at this time in life, and you may never want to get married, is not a bad thing, i suggest you do wat you want in life as long as you are happy. best of luck :)
Tianna Audra
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i have a friend that never wants to get married or wants to have kids. shes felt this way since like 5th grade and shes gonna be a freshman. so yeah your not alone there are other people that feel this way. but like if uve ever had a boyfriend.. you know how like there mite be one that you really like and maybe you culd think about spending the rest of your life with him. one day u mite find a person that you dont think you could ever live without. well.. good luck
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a fw weeks ago i said am never goin to have kids.i noticed that alll kids are not he same.the people who tell you not all marriages end the same are right so i think you should get married when you have the chance because gettin married might reslove all your problem and expaned life.
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