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Don't know what to do
I don't know why but I am scared of love, but I want it so bad. I am 19 and have still never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss because I want my first kiss to be special. I am considered an attractive girl and guys like me and I like them too but I won't let anything happen because I personally feel like I don't carry enough self-confidence which my friends get angry about. I think I worry about life in general and I'm scared that I'll just end up alone forever. What should I do?
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Your 19 and havent kissed yet?? wow thats rare. You just need to be more confidennt. If guys like you the you must be hot. so you just have to ask yourself; whats holding you back?
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Your problem is you are afraid you will get hurt by the one you love. That's why you don't want to take the risk.I say, take a whack at it.
You may not be ready for your first kiss and save it for someone you truly love. Tell me how it works on my feedback or inbox.
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I think you should recognize and simply analize what is it exactly that you fear about love. I know that for some people it might be a shock, on why you have never had a boyfriend... To me its completely reasonable not to lack what you have never experienced. It seems to me that you are contradicting yourself a bit, are you either waiting for the right person and the effects of being in love with that special someone... which by the way is very admireable..Or have you created an unhealthy complex with does not allow you to love. In all actuallity i believe it is very smart of you to not try to love someone because it seems you havent learned to love yourself. Your first step in this is to try to build up self-confidence and try to understand yourself and most importantly love yourself. Dont fall into peer pressure, your older.... that should not be a problem, dont let your friends pressure you into committing remorseful mistakes. It's perfectly normal to worry about staying alone for the rest of your life, but always remember you have friends and family, who will always be there. My advice to you is to focus on yourself for now, and then when the right person comes you will not have emotional baggage to deal with...... Love will come....it always comes unexpectedley
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I suggest that you quit guys because u obviously do not know how to be social with them. i would advise that you be a rug-muncher instead then u could kiss your first lips
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I think you need to get out there and start living! Don't let worry keep you from having fun. Life is much to short for that. You will get hurt in relationships but you will also make lifelong friends. If it truly causes you this much anxiety I think you need to seek some professional help. You really have to get past this. Good luck. :)
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Well i can understand why you might be afraid of love cause alot of marriages are getting ruined.. and nobody wants to be alone.. i think you should wait til you find a good guy that you like and jus do what you want when YOU think the time is right and with the RIGHT PERSON.. dont let friends push you into relationships or anything cause then you'd probably be in and out of bad reltionships which nobody wants and most of the time girls get hurt real real real easily.. but i would try if i was you maybe not right away but when you feel READY..much luv dez x0x0
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hmm, seriously.. if a guy doesnt fight for you.. he isnt worth having..
like me, if I like a girl, like really like her, I wont give up on her! if she says she doesnt want a relationship, its just coz she scared or soemthin, so I fight for her to show her how much I care, if you can find a guy that fights to be with you and wont give up.. then you got a keeper.. hehe... it may not be true its just a guess but yeah.. hope it helps..
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Try not to worry about being single forever. Jst remember that when the real true love comes, it'll come. When it comes, don't push it away. Like me :(. Now, i've suffered enough to know how important real love is. Stay just what you are and if you don't like to engage in a relationship then don't. Sooner things will change and the one that's meant for you will come.
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Love sucks. I should be asking you for advice, not vice versa.
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You don't have to worry about being lonely for the rest of your life! You are only nineteen. You have plenty of time to find your soul mate. But the first step you need to take is to love yourself and not worry about what people think about you. If you don't want to get involved with someone because you're worried about how the relationship will turn out or if you'll kiss horribly, or etc, you're MISSING OUT. The whole point of dating is to gain more experience, bond with someone, find out what you want in a relationship, and find your soul mate. It doesn't always have to work out at first. Just go for it.
My brother is twenty three and he still hasn't found love. I'm not sure if he ever will because he pushes away everything and thinks marriage is stupid. That doesn't mean his life is worthless. You don't have to get married just to be happy. There are many people out there that are not married. Your life doesn't have to revolve around a man. And if you have excellent friends you can live life happily without being tied down to a guy.
So whether you find someone or not, you will be happy, as long as you try to be and work for it.
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You need to learn to love yourself. How can you truly love someone else if you can't even love yourself? I'm sure there are tons of things that you like about yourself ... think about it. You even said in your question that you think you are an attractive girl ... good starting point! :D Don't worry about everything soo much. Once you relax about the situation everything you want will happen before you know it. I'm sure there are plenty of guys waiting in line so we know that's not the problem. Just lay back, relax, and enjoy the ride! :D Just don't do anything you don't feel right about. Trust your instincts! :)
Hope this helps you!!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
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It's better to start learning now before later, hearts heal and for every guy you loose another one ten times better comes along. And dont worry about first kiss either! It's not first kiss in general that's most meaningful its the first kiss between two people that start that spark. I bet you most people think they're first kiss was not with someone truly 'special' and they prolly think it was a dumb boy to do it with but thats ok cuz our lips dont break they'll be just as good for the next guy that comes along. Your pretty girl! guys like you! A lot of people would wish for that! take it as a gift and start the lessons on relationships that will help you find mr right in the end!
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listen if your atractive use it ok you should be confident cuz if ppl like you then you should like yourself and also i understan you not having a kiss but listen just get to know some1 and you will love him after awile and your first kiss will be special and well your just gonna half to get to know some1 and care for them and after awile you will get confident because you will know him and he will know you and you will know him and you will get closer and closer and then it will come natural.
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