Depression can be very overwhelming, especially when you don feel that anything or anyone can help you. Death is never the answer, if you feel that you are a threat to yourself tell a parent or a professional. Life always has a meaning..the only way to fail at life... is just simply to give up, and not live it. I'm sure confussion and insecurity are part of what makes a character stronger. Although you feel as though life doesn't make since and neither do you sometimes.... You'll find that if you just cope... the stage will pass. Don't give up hope seek professional help....

Anything that you do that leaves you feeling remorseful or with doubt, is unbearably wrong. Sometimes men tend to lose respect for women and seem to use them for the essence of pleasure. We as women tend to be vulnerable to the situation and confuse sex with and emotional link to a fantasized depleted relationship. After this type of situation is done repeatedly is difficult to even have a faint memory of what values are, or how to stop the cycle of maltreatment . My advice to you is to put a stop to his type of relationship, its not fair to you and It's not fair to the other girl. You've involved yourself in dysfunctional love triangle, the longer you wait the harder it will be to get out.. Tell him straight out what you feel, but stand in what you believe don't let him make you think that what you are doing is in any way sane...

Depression is very common in peoples lives, most people aren't open to admit it.. You've taken the first step to overcoming it. In all actuality sometimes life's basic habitual activities can be overwhelming. Maybe you feel depression because you feel like nothing is going right, at the wrong time. Maybe your comparison to other peoples lives have triggered this emotion. Maybe you just are romantically deprived towards this guy... The truth is that if your emotions incline you to think that this guy feels romantically connected with you. You should just do the basic dynamic of asking him how he feels... Express to him your feelings as well, not only the positive ones but also the pessimist side of the situation. Communication is one of the main factors in a successful relationship. If he agrees to your relationship then commit, if he doesn't move on...as cold as that sounds. Sometimes closure is the answer to depression. After this happens and you still feel depressed and feel like your life is unresolved.... you should try to dispute every aspect of your life and set aside what you feel makes you unhappy... Sometimes the answer to your problems is right in your heart...

I really dont know if I can be much help to you here... I didnt go to prom.. I've heard its a very special dance, My advice to you is to make your priority to just have plenty of memorable fun.....

Although ones memory can be precious for its contents of its superb occasions. It can also be our worst enemy when you just want to forget... There something that I've learned in life and that's forgiveness.... Ones soul needs to feel untamed with, and able to incline itself with new emotions and relationships. It's perfectly normal for you to remember your ex. Although whatever the situation was with him, he touched your life even though it was in a traumatic way. My advice to you is to learn to forgive, not him.. But forgive yourself for entangling yourself and letting yourself cope with that type of relationship. As for him don't hate him for what he did to you, I was always taught that when someone causes unbearable pain whether physically or emotionally, It's best that you don't allow them to hurt you anymore and the best way to cope with what they have done is to make them insignificant to your life. Don't think of what he is doing or how much he hurt you or even how much you hate him. A person like that does deserve you thinking about them not even negatively. This new guy in your life that reminds you of him don't let it get to you, I mean the things it reminds you of your ex are not negative, as long as this new guy has respect for you and you like him you should not let anything especially reoccurring memories of your ex ruin that. Might also need time to heal what your ex made soar. Follow your intuition and if you want to be with this guy..don't let anything interfere.... If you cant help but to compare then just be optomistic and think of him as your ex but without that abussive flaw..

It obviously sounds like your mom is emotionally abusing you. The sad thing is that she probably doesn’t even know that she is having this affect on you. I think its time you speak up and tell her all the emotional damage that she is putting you through . I understand that it might be a difficult issue to talk about, you have to make her acknowledge what she is doing and how she is hurting you. I guarantee that by communicating with her she will think twice before she is rude to you. If she doesn't listen to you try catching her attention by saying something traumatic....... The only thing that can make this situation better is if you all express your feeling on what is going on.....

The beauty of a mature relationship with a friend is being able to appreciate contradicting ideas as well as opinions. I have no right in telling you are right and he is wrong., But I am entitled to my opinion. A persons sexuality should not define their character. We are all human beings and with that comes originality, and uniqueness comes in various shapes and forms.There is nothing worse than being common. Tell your friend that part of a friendship is having respect for one another, and each others opinions. Express to him that its not important who’s right or wrong. Try to talk to him, and its sad to say but if he doesn’t reason to your words than he is not worth your friendship, he cant imply you never tried to work things out....

The first thing that you have to do is dispute with yourself whether when you touch your friend its a friendly touch, or you lurking for much more.... Physical touch can be expression of ones own inverted feelings but sometimes you can be mislead by your emotions. What exactly goes through your mind at that exact moment when you two are engaging in this activity... Is one of the main keys in solving this dilemma. At least at this point that you might feel some sort of contradiction of your character. You are basically stranded in the thought of being a lesbian or straight.... Since the mind is beautiful but fallacious you should find comfort in knowing that life is not always black and white.......but an in between exists. You might want to consider the thought of you being a bisexual ( meaning you are sexually attracted to both men and women). If this is the case don't be ashamed of what you are feeling , remember you are your own worst enemy. Make sure that you communicate with the friend that these occasions happen with ...Maybe she's feeling the same way.... That way you can both help each other with this issue..... Hope I've been of some assistance.

I'ts never a brilliant idea, to just simply give up... In any situation you should be prepared to give it your all in order to reach your desired outcome. In love its basically the same thing, you have to remember that no matter how fantasy perfect you wnat any relationship to be.... Its doesnt exactly work that way... You are dealing with human beings and with human beings their is always flaws...mood swings and most of all mixed channeling emotions. Thats why most relationships fail because of the lack of a very simple factor "COMMUNICATION". In other words my advice to you is to talk to this guuy ask him what his thinking? and what he is feeling towards you? Don't give up without at least knowing why.... That will just leave you with the feeling of the twisted emotions of what could of been in that possible relationship........

I'ts perfectly normal to day dream and long for someone that hasn't the slightest clue that you admire them. Now there is two outcomes to this type of situation. You either have a clarification of what will never be....and you are okay with him not corresponding with your love, And keep him strickley as a crush...and let it be fun. Or you tell him of your enfatuation towards him and prepare yourself for a let down or a mutual love satisfaction.... I mean even if he has a girlfriend just express your feeling towards him... Be very careful that you tell him that what you want to tell him should strickley be between you and him.....and be careful not to imply for him to break up with his girfriend...because even though you might want that!!! Its not very classy to let people know.....

I think you should recognize and simply analize what is it exactly that you fear about love. I know that for some people it might be a shock, on why you have never had a boyfriend... To me its completely reasonable not to lack what you have never experienced. It seems to me that you are contradicting yourself a bit, are you either waiting for the right person and the effects of being in love with that special someone... which by the way is very admireable..Or have you created an unhealthy complex with does not allow you to love. In all actuallity i believe it is very smart of you to not try to love someone because it seems you havent learned to love yourself. Your first step in this is to try to build up self-confidence and try to understand yourself and most importantly love yourself. Dont fall into peer pressure, your older.... that should not be a problem, dont let your friends pressure you into committing remorseful mistakes. It's perfectly normal to worry about staying alone for the rest of your life, but always remember you have friends and family, who will always be there. My advice to you is to focus on yourself for now, and then when the right person comes you will not have emotional baggage to deal with...... Love will come....it always comes unexpectedley

It is said in the most beautiful love stories that your first love will be endured and left intact in ones memory....precisely how it is left whether you loved and lost or just loved. I can assure you that the feelings you are experiencing are completely normal. Your first love represents memories that once took your breath away, for the very first time. The emotions that you felt are difficult to overcome. Although, I cant assure you that you are completely over this guy... I'ts perfectly sane to say that you do like this new guy, and comparing him secretly in your mind to your old love is also completely inevetable. Don't worry, be optimistic and relieved you actually have someone else, and are not completely dwelling over your first love......Like most casses Time will be the answer to everything...just be patient and let fate take its course.

You should try using a straightening balm or palmade before you straighten your hair preferably before you dry your hair with a blow drier. I suggest that you also use a ceramic flat iron, That keeps your hair smooth and silky and the ceramic material will not harm your hair.You might also want to use a heat activated shampoo, like Thermasilk or pantene pro-v's smootha nd sleek shampoo. i hope this solves your hair dilema.

I dont believe that you can get your belly button pierced at claires, but my advice to you is to buy a belly button ring, you like at a jewerley store... and then go to a tattoo place that does body piercings... the cost for piercing your belly button will be around 15 dollars... but they overprice their belly button rings. So thats the smart way to do it.....Although you do need to be 18 or over or go with an adult,...one thats older and related to you......thats if you are underaged.

Sometimes is normal for relationships to have unbalanced feelings. It is said that the best relatinships are based on mutual feelings. My advice to you is to just communicate with him and tell him that you dont want to be with him. In all actuallity its not fair for him to be so committed to you, when you dont feel what hes obvious feeling for you. Be straight foward with him, tell him whats on your mind.... and make sure you tell him that you dont want hurt him. My overall advice for you is if you dont like someone dont commit to them, its not fair because they can be putting all that effort to a relationship that really matters. THis way it works best for both of you, he can move on..... and so can you....

It sounds like this problem might be out of my reach... You should really go to GYN, to see whats wrong....

The best action you can commit, is telling her the truth..... I know its hard. Reality is harsh you made an adult mistake, now you must deal with the adult consequense...at least you are not pregnant....

At your age, Boys arent mature enough to surpass superficial behaviors. I do believe you are a good person and I assure you that The right guy will come along..one that will accept you for who you are and even the way you look.Beauty is completely in the eye of the beholder. Just remember that you can always change your appearance, but a good heart is hard to come across. Love yourself, and then someone will come along to love you too. Patience is all that awaits you, but dont rush the wait will be worth while.

This situation tends to happen when their is a third party in relationship, I mean I know it was an accident that your mom saw that conversation... But when you ever have a fight with someone try not envolving people that care about you . They always try to protect you from the person they think hurt you. In all actuallity they dont realize that you probably said some hurtfull things. My advice is for you to explain to your mother that you both exchanged some angry thoughts but you both apologized to eachother, and now are treating eachother differently. Tell her that you want to be able to show her how your friendship with this person has changed and you would like to invite her over. I am sure that your mom will understand....

Loosing your virginity, To my opinion is not something that can be planed out. I mean Im sure you have always heard, That when you are ready, You will Know. I completely agree wuth that. Sex is a very huge responsibility, Even if you use contraception there is still that possibility of getting pregnant,or getting an STD. So I mean make sure that not only do you love the person you want to give your virginity, but there is mutual feelings...especially respect. I think that sex needs maturity because you need to be ready emotionally and physically if anything where to happen. Thats why most young people are left with regret and no self respect after losing their virginity. So my advice to you is wait till you dont have to question yourself or anybody else about when is a good time to loose your virginity... because when the right person comes and the right time approches you'll know....

Life can be complicated... in the eye of the beholder....But the deep penetrating thought of someday being completely satisfied...keeps us going....I want to help you find that reason to keep on going....

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