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Ok I have a fiancee for 10 months. We get along well, but he reminds me of my abusive ex so much sometimes. He isn't abusive, he just listens to the same kind of music, has the same hairdo, plays the same games... etc etc. How do I get over this .. I can't forget my ex, but I don't want it to ruin my current relationship! Help!
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Although ones memory can be precious for its contents of its superb occasions. It can also be our worst enemy when you just want to forget... There something that I've learned in life and that's forgiveness.... Ones soul needs to feel untamed with, and able to incline itself with new emotions and relationships. It's perfectly normal for you to remember your ex. Although whatever the situation was with him, he touched your life even though it was in a traumatic way. My advice to you is to learn to forgive, not him.. But forgive yourself for entangling yourself and letting yourself cope with that type of relationship. As for him don't hate him for what he did to you, I was always taught that when someone causes unbearable pain whether physically or emotionally, It's best that you don't allow them to hurt you anymore and the best way to cope with what they have done is to make them insignificant to your life. Don't think of what he is doing or how much he hurt you or even how much you hate him. A person like that does deserve you thinking about them not even negatively. This new guy in your life that reminds you of him don't let it get to you, I mean the things it reminds you of your ex are not negative, as long as this new guy has respect for you and you like him you should not let anything especially reoccurring memories of your ex ruin that. Might also need time to heal what your ex made soar. Follow your intuition and if you want to be with this guy..don't let anything interfere.... If you cant help but to compare then just be optomistic and think of him as your ex but without that abussive flaw..
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