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Ok, so I went out with this guy, let's say in like November. Well we broke up after about 2 weeks and it was squashed, didn't talk much, started dating other people rather quickly and such. We've been hanging out recently and have had sex, but he has a girlfriend, and yes, I do feel used, but the way he acts and talks towards me, really sends me mixed signals and I'm not sure as to what to do. Any advice?
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i feel really bad for you! tough situation. as hard as it seems you gotta let him go, he has a girlfriend, you guys had sex, it may seem like a big deal, but it isnt to him. im not sayin he doesnt like you, he definetly could, but then it's still he has a girlfriend, so im not sayin leave him alone totally and just forget about him, dont do that! but let him come to you, you can say hi and all, but nothing serious, cause he has to understand if he really wants you then he's gonna have to make a committment, not just when he wants to and all. so follow your heart,and mixed signals from a guy to a girl means he is using you! cause one minute he wants you and then he doesnt, means he is using you so let him come to you! and then see where it takes you! hope i helped! ask my anytime!
-JoElen <33
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You should really talk to him. Maybe he is using you because maybe his girl friend won't put out. On the other hand, he could like you. Just tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same! Good luck!
-Brianna
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sadly enough over 50% of the women in this contry are used. If i were you i would drop all contact with him and start over. He is being extremly manipulative by saying things to you that he feels might help him get some. NONE OF THIS is your fault. Explain to him that you dont feel like you are getting your fair share out of this and he either likes you or he doesnt he doesnt get the two of you. Hope i helped
~texas~
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Anything that you do that leaves you feeling remorseful or with doubt, is unbearably wrong. Sometimes men tend to lose respect for women and seem to use them for the essence of pleasure. We as women tend to be vulnerable to the situation and confuse sex with and emotional link to a fantasized depleted relationship. After this type of situation is done repeatedly is difficult to even have a faint memory of what values are, or how to stop the cycle of maltreatment . My advice to you is to put a stop to his type of relationship, its not fair to you and It's not fair to the other girl. You've involved yourself in dysfunctional love triangle, the longer you wait the harder it will be to get out.. Tell him straight out what you feel, but stand in what you believe don't let him make you think that what you are doing is in any way sane...
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Think about how the other girl would feel if she new put yourself in her shoes. Plus your right you should feel used but he needs to decide who he wants to be with and you need to tell him that. I mean in the end it all could work out and you guys could get together but it's not right for you to have to share your guy with someone else or for her to have to. Good luck hope I helped!
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Tell him if he wants to hang and have sex with you to not treat you like a toy. seriously, because if he won't dump you for her, he ain't worth it hun.
you desearve better.
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foxychick993
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Send him packing. Sorry but he is getting all the benefits from having a girlfriend AND you when she isn't available. You are the one who will be hurt before it's over. Find someone who will treat you with respect. :)
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I think that if you are getting mixed signals from him then just ask him, What is going on between us? Whatever his answer is, go from there. Remember, everything happens for a reason.
I hope everything works out for the best. Keep me posted.
XoKiSsEsoX
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you wouldnt want someone who is cheating on there girlfriend in the first place!! Put your self in his g/f's position!! I would forget him,find a new crush!! ps-yes you ARE being used...
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I don't care what he says to you he isn't worth your time. Think about it ... he cheated on his girlfriend with you. Do you see a reason why he wouldn't do the same to you?? I sure don't. He obviously doesn't have any respect for you or he would've ended his relationship before getting anywhere near sleeping with you. You say you feel used? Well, YEAH! That's exactly what happened and trust me he'll tell you whatever you want to hear to continue to do so until he's done with you! Please don't waste your time. Tell him to take a hike and go out and find yourself a man that will treat you with the respect you deserve!!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
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Hi there!!
Well, first of all I want to say... I know how you feel... Not completely... But I understand where you are coming from!!
This guy that I went out with started using me and stuff and he had a girlfriend...
What I would do, and what I did do is... I found someone else... I found this great boyfriend and I now realize that there are much better people out there...
Get out of this situation while you still can and if you need to talk to anyone my screen name on aim is FindingMyself115!!
I hope Everything gets better!!
<3 Pammy
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