i have really frizzy curly hair and for the last year i have been straightening it everyday which gets rid of the frizz aswell as the curl but this summer i really don't want to be straightening my hair everyday i want to enjoy my time in the sun but without the frizz i have tryed loads of different frizz shampoo's but i can't find one that will make me have cute natural curls (like i have) but without the great frizz,
anyone know anything i can try??
i kinda have the same problemo, and what i do, is i dont wanna say a specific brand, cause everyones hair is different, but the next time you go to get your hair cut, dont straighten it before you go, and when your getting it cut ask a hair stylist what kind of shampoo you should use, they helped me and my hair isnt frizzy, and fyi you wouldnt ask a friend, becuase some shampoos can make your hair worse, go with a hair person they know it all!! hope i helped, ask me anytime!!
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okay. i like this guy alot! And my friend asked him if he likes me. He he said "no.....just as a friend". but she says he said it funny (like he was lieing)
And, i dunno 2 move on. or keep flirting. *because when he flirts-i flirt/when i flirt-he flirts.
Do i give up or what?
def dont give up! you both are flirting with eachother, so if your gonna flirt wit someone then you must be attracted to the person! but i would continue to do what your doing, but if you really like him, then have your friend tell this guy your feelings and then see where it takes you, he may just be to shy to tell you! hope i helped, ask me anytime!!
**JoElen**
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hey everyone,
i'm getting a new puppy this year. she is going to be a schnoodle (miniature schnauzer + toy poodle) and i am trying to think of names for her. i'm pretty sure that it will be Chloe, Elle, or Ella, i'm just not sure which to choose...help! also if u have any suggestions for other names tell me!
well the best advice i can give you is, you gotta see the dog before you name it! and puppies dont react to very hard names to pronounce, and chloe they wont recognize, so i would go with elle or ella, but i think ella would be perfect, but wait til you get your dog to name it!
**JoElen**
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My friend Carmen is a freshman in high school and her new boyfriend is Greg a senior in high school. Now this may not seem very weird to you but i don't care just trust me..this relationship is WEIRD. Picture a 4'11" girl hugging a 6' guy. Before they were going out, Greg used to be Carmen's older brother's best friend. He basically dumped John(carmen's brother and greg's best friend) for Carmen. The guy is a huge ass hole. He didn't even have the coutesy to tell John, John found out by seeing them kiss, and that's not the way is should have been. This kid is a slimy and gross. The kind that only think about butts and boobs all day long and have too many zits on their face and back to count. Not only is he rude to carmen and her friends, he flirts behind her back...like all the time. He even tried to give me a back rub once while she was in the bathroom. He touches and flirts with girls all the time even when she's right there but she just doesn't see that he's a terrible person. I've told carmen all of this but she either doesn't believe me or is trying to pretend it isn't true. This guy is a creep. I have a very strong intuition and from the day I met this kid I knew he was bad news. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm afraid that she's going to loose her virginity to what I believe is the nastiest 18 year old alive. What should I do? Is there anything I can say to her or him to get her to understand how awful this guy is. I talked to a couple of people about it and their best advice is just to be there when she falls but i can't just let my best friend make terrible decisions. Please help me. I've run out of ideas to help her.
-Me
i kno how you feel! im in the same situation, but the one thing that most people do is tell the girl that it's either him or me, and that's the worst thing ever! so dont do that!!! all you can really do is tell her, and be serious, just say carmen, i kno you dont think im telling the truth or you dont wanna realize it, but greg is cheating, and tell her about the flirting, and tell her he dont care about her, tell her everything, and then see where it goes, hope i helped, ask me anytime!
**JoElen**
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!
ook, i got it! i wasnt sure, and im glad i helped you and i hope all goes well! ask me anytime!!!
**JoELen**
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I have these dark purplish circles under my eyes. And my eyelids are almost always red...Majority of the time I get 8 hours of sleep and I am 13 years old. Is there anything I can do to get rid of these hideous circles?
even though it seems your getting alot of sleep, you may not be!! and if you ABSOLUTELY ARE then it's just your eyes, but there are certain kinds of cremes that can hide them, but they may be expensive, to take the easy way out, you can by a pimple stick, and put it under your eyes and it hides them :) believe me from experience!
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Sometimes, out of no where, i'll get dizzy, my head will feel weird, and i see these weird grey swirls. i cant see anything else. it goes away pretty quick, but its incredibly weird. does anyone know what this could be? thanks.
that's really weird (but not in a bad way :) but you should definetly tell your mom/dad and go to the doctor! and i think i might have an idea, but when does this occur?
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Ive got 2 friend, Tamsinn and Ben and theyre a couple. Well Tamsin wants to break up with Ben because she says he's annoying and all that...but Ben is trying to kill himself now that he heard that...I need help because i really dont want to lose a friend.
Thanks
do you mean lose a friend like by death, or by choosing one of them?
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just got out of a bad relationship, verbally and sorta physically abused. known him all my life, devestated that hes ruining his life with drugs, going threw bad depression, being forced to see doctors... all the advice is the same from everyone, theres not much else i can do, was hoping to hear some different views... ?
-one sad girl
i know how you feel, well sorta..and i know about hearing the same advice, but im going to give it a try anyway...i know how hard it must be to be in that kind of a relationship, but the good thing is that your out of it, as hard as it seems the best thing is that your out it, and hopefully you are ok, and its good that you care about him and his life, but if he abused you then he obviously doesnt care about you, and thats a hard thing to get over and seeing doctors can be annoying, and they are their to helpful, blah blah, but forget all that...just worry about yourself, your not happy, so work on it, and keep your head up high, and remember the people who surround themselves around you only do that because the care about you!! so just remember that! hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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i went to my boyfriends hometown (arkansas) last weekend and he was all over me and then one day i snapped at him (yelling) on accident and i think he took it defensive because now he is snapping at me and he isn't all touchy feely with me these past two days now that we are back in missouri! and he noticed that i yelled at him cuz he told his mom that i did! and he hasnt really been himself around me these past two days and i dont know what to do! should i apologize for what i did? or what? i am a 14 year old young lady and i dont know what to do!
first of all, i gotta say i admire you! im 14 too, and you live in missouri and your bf lives in arkansas, and right off the bat thats a big committment. but you should definetly apologize because if you did it on accident and he is snapping at you most likely because he is mad at you, and he aint acting like himself because you aint apoligize, so you should definetly apologize and then if that dont work, then talk to him about it and see where it takes you. hope i helped!! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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hey well my best friends ehas been tryin to hook me up with guys because she thinks i am lonely when i am not but anyways she was hangin out wit her ex the other day and i was on the phone with her and then i talked to her ex 4 20 minutes and after that we have been talkin everyday except i havent seen her ex but i am pretty sure he is hot but the thing is what if he askes me out?? shetold me she does care but i dont want to take her bc it would be fucked up i think she still has some very lil feelin 4 him but she has a bf. i dont know what to do bc she has been tryin to hook me up with guys 4 a month now she has as actually gone out place got guys #s and gave them to me to talk to but i dotn. can someone plz help me i dont want to get my best friend that i ahve known for 4 years get mad at me for a dumb guy.
if she is begging you to hook up with him then she wants you to!! now if you were beggin her it would be a different story, but your not asking her, shes asking you! and if you still feel alittle uneasy then ask her yourself, and tell her you dont wanna lose her and all that stuff and see where it takes you! hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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I have a really great singing voice, but I'm so embarassed to sing in front of anyone, even my mom. Can someone please give me tips to overcome my shyness? I RATE HIGH. Someone pelase help
you have to ask yourself if you want to sing infront of people? and if it is worth over-coming your fear, and if so then great! dont just right then and somewhere take it slow, try singing to yourself first, in front of the mirror, and then take it up a step, and do it infront of a sister or brother, and if that doesn't work, then try it infront of your best friend, if you have a great singing voice then you have nothing to worry about, but the most important thing you have to do before even trying to sing period, is make sure that you have the confidence! and if you dont then you gotta work on your self confidence and then try singing! you can do it! hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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Hey! im having my birthday party at my house April 29th and its going to be about 20-25 girls and boys there ( ages - around 13 ) and like i don't want it to be boring so can anyone give me some things to do... ok 1st my neighbor has a bonfire thing in their backyard and said i can use it ,we can play like 7 min. in heaven , i have a basement w/ a pool table and like living room and stuff. i have a backyard and we were thinkin about like orderin pizza or cooking out. ne more ideas? please help! xoxo
yea def play 7 minutes in heaven, but u gotta remember that may be alittle much for some shy people, so truth or dare is kinda sorta better and will last alot longer, and yea ordering pizza will be a good thing cause everyone loves pizza, and dont forget spin the bottle! and my bf's birthday is the 29 too! i hope you have a great b-day and i hoped i helped! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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i dont really no what category this should be under,but anyways...
My legs are sort of sensitive and get dry a lot,does anyone no what shaving cream that would pervent dry legs?
shaving cream usually dries your leg out period. you should try shaving either in the shower or with just plain water, and then you put lotion on your legs, and it doesnt dry them out! hope i helped! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...
you should definetly believe chris, or whoever told you what jake or john was doing, now its not totally true, like its not definete i mean, but it john or jake isnt telling you thats alittle suspicious i mean come on, so i think you should believe chris, he said he didnt want to hurt you, he wouldnt lie from what it seems, and john or jake seems like it, so follow your heart, but my advice would be to like further find out more about the situation, before making your final decision,hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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lately, ive been thinking a lot about my first love. thes this other boy and we're pretty into eachother, but i havnt been able to stop thinking about my first love lately. its gonna be a year now that met and we fell in love over the summer. is this normal? is it just cuz he was my first love? or do i still have feelings 4 him? i really like this new guy. its just that i've been thinking about the first one. maybe, its b/c he represents a happy time in my life or hes very special to me or something. i dunno. do i still like him in a way?
it's obvious, i wish i could answer if you still like him or not, but i cant! only you can! but i can tell you that the reason why your thinking about him if cause he was your first love! but i can understand you still like your first love, and you also like this new guy, but you have to get over your ex, and if it is meant to be, then it'll happen,. but you shouldnt wait around for something that isnt gonna happen! :) you'll be fine, and i hope i helped, ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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Ok, so I went out with this guy, let's say in like November. Well we broke up after about 2 weeks and it was squashed, didn't talk much, started dating other people rather quickly and such. We've been hanging out recently and have had sex, but he has a girlfriend, and yes, I do feel used, but the way he acts and talks towards me, really sends me mixed signals and I'm not sure as to what to do. Any advice?
Signed,
Second Thoughts?
i feel really bad for you! tough situation. as hard as it seems you gotta let him go, he has a girlfriend, you guys had sex, it may seem like a big deal, but it isnt to him. im not sayin he doesnt like you, he definetly could, but then it's still he has a girlfriend, so im not sayin leave him alone totally and just forget about him, dont do that! but let him come to you, you can say hi and all, but nothing serious, cause he has to understand if he really wants you then he's gonna have to make a committment, not just when he wants to and all. so follow your heart,and mixed signals from a guy to a girl means he is using you! cause one minute he wants you and then he doesnt, means he is using you so let him come to you! and then see where it takes you! hope i helped! ask my anytime!
-JoElen
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We're doing a lab in school next week which involves the murdering of goldfish so that we can look at its circulatory system. Who cares? It's just a goldfish, right? Wrong. Goldfish are animals too. People, like myself, have had golfish as pets. Mine lived up to be 7 years old, which is a very long time for a goldfish, but it created a bond between us. My teacher even made a joke about it, that her turtle likes this lab the best because he gets to eat all the dead goldfish. Which I guess is good in retrospect because they aren't just throwing them away once they've dug out all of their organs. It's the principle of the thing though, I know the boys in my class with be nothing but immature about this and torture the goldfish before killing them. I can't watch any kind of death, the only time I killed a fly I cried for an hour. And she has them swimming in glass bowls in our room now, so we get to watch them every day, only to murder them later on. When we did frog dissection, an alternate computer program was offered to observe their organ systems, so why are we buying so many fish each year that could have ended up as pets for other people and lived 7 years? If we killed just one fish and made a video on it,though it's still cruel to that one fish, the hundereds of fish we kill each year would be limited to one fish, once. Or even if our teacher was going for a hands-on experience, she could just kill one at the front of the class and have all of the students take a look. It's just wrong to me that we are going to be graded on the procedure of taking a beating heart and making it stop.
So, what can I do to stop this? How do I try and get my teachers and classmates to understand? Or am I overreacting?
first thing i have to say, i seriously think your my twin! im a sorta a vegatarian too, except i dont eat meat at all, i couldnt eat an animal, its just wrong to me, this same experience happened to me, we were going to kill a fish too, goldfish in particular and i have three goldfish's and i love them! and i definetly couldnt kill one and then look at my three fishes you know? so i told my teacher that i think it's wrong about killing the animals, and she laughed, and i told her i refuse to do it, and i didnt do it, but i thought i didnt want anyone else not have to do it, so i got everyone who didnt want to do it to tell my teacher, and we got yelled at, but dont give up we and you should too go to your principal and tell him or her your opinion, i did that and she totally understood! but if your principal doesnt go over with it to well, then tell your parent, have them have your back, believe me, if you truly believe in your right, then you'll find a way to stop it. in my school, we dont have to kill them anymore thanks to everyone who fought for it, but that doesnt mean we dont have to disect them, but its better than not killing them! and by the way, your totally not overreacting so dont think you are cause your definetly not! hope i helped! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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Okay, about a year ago I realized i had like pink/red lines on my inner thighs. i didnt think anything of it but now there are A LOT!! and there dark red and if u look at them at an angle it looks like ridges!! Please tell me what this is!!
*thanks* I'll rate!
they are one of three things, they are either just your skin, or highly unlikely if you have had it for over a year a rash, but it's most likely stretch marks, they look like little lines or squiggily lines, and for a different angle they look like ridges, so they are stretch marks! but alot of girls get them, because your growing and your skin isnt! so it leaves the stretch marks, but the eventually go away, hope i helped! ask me anytime!
-JoElen
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i feel like when I get pushed around, I'm too scared to stand up for myself and I just ignore what happenes.Also I'm kinda short and also white.Where I live most people are different races and believe they are tougher than a small little white girl...how do i be more assertive witout being a bitch?I just want to be able to defend myself.
height doesnt matter, i know some people who are really short and can kick some as*! but my advice is to be assertive, which doesnt mean go hurt everyone and sometimes being a bitch kinda helps, but just say seriously get a life, leave me alone and get over yourselves, they are picking on you because they know you wont stand up to them, so stand up to them! hope i helped, ask me anytime
-JoElen
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