Hey... I'm pretty new to this site, so I might not have the best advice, but I'm willing to try.
Gender: Female
Location: Ptown, Fl
Occupation: Student, I guess.
Age: 13
Member Since: April 10, 2005
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Ok, so recently, I've been really distant around most of my "friends". I put that in quotes because I don't know whether I see them as friends or not. Whenever I'm with one of them, they usually talk to me, but when somebody else comes into the picture, they completely ignore me. I'm always getting seperated from them and it makes me mad because I feel pitiful and like a follower. Any suggestions on what I can do to solve this problem? (link)
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Hey... I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. That's exactly how I felt last year. I was always the follower-- I would find a group of "friends," then they would decide to wander around, and I would always be behind them, following them, or if we were walking on the sidewalk or something, I would be on the grass, on the side. That made me feel like a loser and it really sucked because I felt like they thought they were better than me. Also, they were supposedly my "best" friends, but alot of the time they did stuff together and excluded me. They also never invited me to their house.
This year, I've made new friends who don't act like they think I'm annoying, or that I should be following them. Instead, I've found people who are more on my level, and I don't feel like I'm extra baggage or w/e.
That's my advice to you: try to find people who you feel really comfortable with and who don't look down you. It might be hard trying to find a whole new set of real friends, but it'll be worth it.
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this sounds really stupid but on my lunch shift at school none of the few friends I have have that lunch shift and I don't kno anyone else. I am so shy and I can't make new friends should I just sit by myself or what? I will give you 5's! (link)
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Hey. I'm sort of like you, so I'll give you some tips. Ok...
First of all, is this a new school? (Are you just starting high school? or middle school?) If it is, I recommend that you try to talk to people in class and make new friends. (I know you said you can't make new friends, but I'm telling you, keep on trying!)
Laugh at things people say (when they're trying to be funny), ask people things, and say hi and smile at people.
Also, do sports and clubs and try to talk to people outside of class.
That has done wonders for me. Sports are the best way possible to make friends. I'd doing cross country, and I've made friends with just about everybody, so that's awesome. Haha. The way I figure it, is that you are going through a lot when you do something like running, so that sort of bonds you with the other people. Also, it's an extra 2 hours or so you spend with these same people, so you're bound to make friends no matter what. (As long you're a nice person.) Sports give you a great excuse to say stuff like "Are you going to practice?" "I didn't see you at practice. Where were you?" "Where's practice today?" during school.
Ok lastly, go SIT with someone at lunch. Don't sit by yourself. I'm serious. Just go up to someone from a class who looks friendly, and ask if you can sit with them. Most likely, they aren't going to say no.
Good luck!
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ok im going to a new school monday how do i make freinds? like i dont want to sit alone @ lunch or sit by the rong person. iv decided that guys are more easy to make freinds with than girl i mean some girls are really nice but you have to addmit guys are easier to make freinds with what if they think im a slut then if i try to make freinds with the guys? help!!!! (link)
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Hey. Alright... try not to worry too much about this. At first, you might feel uncomfortable at your new school, but after a while, it will definitely get better. Besides, school should be letting out soon (I think.) =)
There is no reason for you to sit along at lunch. In class, you can find someone who acts friendly, and try to make friends. Then, if ya'll have the same lunch, then you can just ask her/him if you can sit at their table. In most cases, no one will flat out say, "No."
I skipped from sixth grade (last year) to eighth grade (this year). I didn't really know anyone in 8th, but I asked someone who seemed pretty friendly if I could sit at her table, and now I still sit with them, everyday, and I always hang out with them at school now (on field trips, dances, stuff like that). So definitely don't be afraid to ask someone if you can sit with them.
Another important thing on making friends is that you should never be mean to anyone (spreading rumors, lying, telling other people they're fat or ugly or w/e). That can seriously damage your reputation because one person will tell the next that you're mean, and after a while, everyone will think so. Also, just act like yourself. Be fun, funny, friendly, and always there for others.
I don't think that people will think you're a s*** if you try to make friends with the guys, as long as you're not "overly friendly",if you know what I mean.
Well good luck!!
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I have extreme anxiety that comes every single day. I'm only 15 years old but its so intense. Does anyone know of anything that could help me? (link)
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Hey. I'm anxious (it's not extreme though) sometimes too... I think that you should practice meditating. Just breathe in and out and try to calm yourself down. Stop thinking about anything and just listen to yourself breathe.
You can also try writing down all the things you're worried about. That might help, because it'll take a load off your mind.
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my hair is black and im getting some kind of brown highlights.. my hair is KINDA poofy so i was wondering if getting highlights would straighten my hair a bit.. also.. i straighten my hair so i wonder if straightening my hair like 5 times a week would lighten my highlights.. pleaze answer! (link)
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I don't think that getting highlights will straighten your hair. However, I think that if you straighten your hair (using a hot hair iron is the way I do it) your highlights will become somewhat lighter. At least that's what happened to mine. I have black/brown hair also, and I got some copper brown colored highlights, and at first they were not very noticeable. After I used a hot iron for a few days, my highlights looked lighter (not like a whole bunch though).
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heey does anyone know any quote websites? (link)
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Yep.
www.amusingquotes.com/
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well i found out a boy likes me and we were talking on aim and he kept saying that im pretty and stuff. . . i am shy and i know how to respond to that but its only nice to say somthign aboutt him back but what should i say, i feel funny :/ (link)
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Hey. I think that you should just say, "thanks" or something like that. If you like him, you can compliment him also, but be honest. Don't say anything that you don't really mean. If you feel funny after you say thanks, you can like put a smiley face or something. Lol. I think that might put the conversation (or you) more at ease.
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hi im 15 and my boyfriends 16. although many adults say that us teens dont know what love is teens know when their in love. i just want peoples opinions (teens and adults) on if teens know what love is and also me and my boyfriend are really in love and its NOT lust. we know it. anyways we decided we were going to have sex (no my boyfriends not like that hes never pushed me into sex ever) but were not having sex for the fun of it we really do love eachother. please give us ur thoughts and please dont be mean thanx!~Kelley (link)
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Hey. I think that yes, *some* teens do know what love is. It's different for every person. I mean, being in love with someone isn't limited to just adults... It's not like when you wake up on your 18th birthday, you suddenly know what love is. Lol.
But anyways, I think that you should wait until marriage before having sex... but if you do decide to anyways, you should take precautions. I think you already know this, but having sex doesn't necessarily mean love.
I'm glad that you and your boyfriend are happy together though.
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ok, so i am going shopping and i like sean john but i'm an oero (black on the outside white on the inside) and i was wondering if sean john is a black or white person brand?? (link)
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Hey. Well I live in Florida too, and it's mainly true what EJ47 said. But, I think that if you like Sean John, go for it. It doesn't matter what other people think.
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This may not sound serious but it is. I was having a nervous break down during math because of this.
I can not stand the phrase "I never knew that." It just drives me insane. Whenever I hear it I either cry or scream. I just hate the phrase. So my question is how can I get over this? I am asking this in all seriousness. My friend who has a column here (she's asking this since I can't get on) has even told me do get help for this. (link)
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Hey... well I can understand how hearing that might make you mad... like if you said something, and then a person says, "I never knew that," and they sounded all suprised and stuff. Lol.
Umm... I think that there probably is a phrase that makes me go crazy too, except I can't think of it at the moment. It just has to said at a time when I'm frustrated and it has to be said in in the right way, like in a annoying way or something. Lol.
Anyways, I think it's probably normal. Just try to calm down next time someone says that.
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im really not comfortable with my body and i wanna try a diet..but i eat way too much and people always tell me how im not fat but they dunno that i suck it in all the time. This summer i wanna have a hot body and i dunno what to do! Does anybody know of any workouts that'll help me loose some pounds on my stomach?..thanks (link)
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Hey. You could try getting a friend or family member to do exercises along with you, which could make things more fun. But anyways, the exercises that I do that seem to work are crunches or sit ups. When you first start, only do a little bit (say 20 on each side). Exercise every night, and when you do so, slowly build up, until you're doing around 50 or more. After a while, you'll really see the effect. When you're working out, you could turn on some music, and just concentrate on that, so time will seem to pass faster.
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Ohkay, I am doing a science report on THERMAL POLLUTION and I was just weondering, does anyone know what it affects? like certain animals or areas of land/water? xO ali (link)
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Hey. I did a google search for it, and this is a small summary of what I came up on it:
Thermal pollution can be very harmful to aquatic organisms because of their requirements for survival. For example, cold blooded fish need to live in temperatures no higher than 24 degrees celsius. The extra heat in the water means that the fish's metabolism now needs to work faster. Since its metabolism is now working faster, it also needs more oxygen to meet metabolic demands. The result is that the fish has more difficulty surviving because oxygen is less soluble in warm water than cold water.
Zooplankton are another type of organism afffected.
Hope this helps. =)
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i like this guy... but hes really really shy... weve been texting for the past 3/4 days and i think maybe he likes me... i really like him a lot now, but i found out hes not as innocent as he looks... he told me hes gone to third base... but idk he keeps askin me to hang out.. does this mean maybe he likes me? (link)
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If he's asking you to hang out, I think he does like you. But since he's gone to "third base" I think you should be careful with him. Maybe he's not looking for a friend or girlfriend, but just that...
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ok, this is weird, i know, but i am going out with this guy who i really like and we just started going out like 3 days ago and i only see him in the halls because he's a grade younger than me. should I hug him first or let HIM hug me... or wave to him.. ugh, i just don't want to embarress myself.. please help!
~morgan (link)
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Since ya'll have just started going out 3 days ago, I think you should wave and smile to him now. You can wait until he gets around to hugging you, but you can also just go for it and hug him. If you are not sure whether you should hug him just yet, you can give it a little time, and wait until it becomes natural for you hug him comfortably.
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does anybody have a quick and easy way of learning to swim? (link)
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Hey! I wanted to answer this question because I just learned how to learn last summer (and I'm not that good, but anyways...) and I thought you might like some hints or something, because I know that I probably would have been less scared of swimming if I had gotten this help when I was learning.
Ok. I got swimming lessons for about a week. I tried really hard learning how to swim for the first 2 or 3 days, but I could not get it...
When you're learning to swim, remember to make sure that you do it on the shallow end, because it's much easier to learn there. When I say shallow, I mean *shallow*-- the water should be at least 2 feet below your height. It should actually be near your waist level. This way, you'll feel safe. The water was very scary for me.
If you're afraid of getting it, you should still get right in it instead of slowly easing yourself in. Move around in the water for a while until you feel comfortable.
Put your head underwater for a little while (10 or 15 secs or so), for a few times. This way you won't panic or something when you are actually swimming and your head is underwater. You can try opening your eyes and looking around underwater.
Now get near a wall (or side) of the pool. Sit next to it (your knee and lower part of your legs are on the bottom of the pool). Make sure you are facing the other side of the pool, not the wall. Lol.
1. Then suddenly kick the wall using your feet.
2. Quickly stretch out your entire body.
3. Make sure your legs are straight and your arms are stretched straight out in front of you.
4. Lay one hand on top of the other.
5. Start kicking both of your feet straight up and down, one after the next, repeatedly.
6. Keep on kicking hard until you are on the other side of the shallow portion of the pool. (It should not be too far.)
Alright. Steps 1 to 5 should be done all at once.
Well I hope this works for you! Good luck. If it doesn't, I really really recommend that you take swimming lessons. They work. =)
Oh yea... by the way, this type of swimming is not very advanced, but it's the only kind I know how to do pretty good. If you take lessons, your instructor should teach you many other types in addition to this one.
Anyways, I finally got over my fear of water after my 3rd day of swimming lessons. After that, swimming actually became fun.
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i have lots of make up,but i dont no what kind of make up to use for me,and what i should focus on.I have brown hair,brown eyes,and fair skin. My eyes are a little big. Can anyone help? (link)
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Hey. I have some make-up advice for you, but it's not really specified to your description: "I have brown hair,brown eyes,and fair skin. My eyes are a little big." I think this should work for most people:
I think that you should go for eyeshadow in shades of tan and brown. Use eyeliner that is dark brown. If your eyes are a "little big," you can use eyeliner on the bottom. You should use dark brown/black mascara. You should also use a pale rosy colored blush (make sure it's a very neutral color, because if it's dark, it'll look unnatural on your fair skin), and a light pink/ clear lip gloss.
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ok .. sorry if this is confusing but i am lydia(14 yrs. old) and my sister(15 yrs. old) is brittany. there is this guy name jason(13 yrs. old). Well last summer i was goin out with josh(14 yrs. old) (jasons friend) and jason liked my sister. When me and josh broke up, jason started liking me. Jason has liked me for like 4 months. But then a couple of weeks ago, he started liking my sister again. I think i like him and last night i asked him if he liked my sister and he said yea. Then later on last night, i was like "jason, i like you." then said i was just kiddin. About 10 minutes later, he asked me was i serious about liking him and i said "why, do you want me to like you or something?" and he tped "no comment". I didnt know what he meant. Should i take that as a yes he wants me to like him, or a no? whenever i say no comment i mean yes. So i dont know what to think. someone please help me!!! ohh yea, and last night jason asked me if i still liked josh and i said yes so i think he got a little mad.
i rate high!!! (link)
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Hey... well personally I think he means yes, he does want you to like him. I say "no comment" too when I really mean yes. Lol. Hope this helps.
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I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx (link)
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Hey. Well I just wanted to tell you you're not the only one. I'm 13 and I've never had a boyfriend before either. Most of the time, that doesn't really bother me, even though I would like to have one sometime. It shouldn't bother you either. It is *not* weird not to have had a boyfriend. Heh. (Maybe I'm saying that cuz I haven't had one either.) But seriously, you shouldn't be so worried about it.
Ok, I'm pretty shy, too, so I guess I would be a hypocrite if I gave you this advice, but oh well. I think that you should try to be as friendly as possible. Wave to people or say hey to them at school when you pass them, even if it's when you're just changing classes. Try asking guys questions about assignments, in class, even if you think you could eventually figure it out. After a while, they'll be asking you things, and you'll be having conversations. You'll learn how to talk more easily with guys if you have guy friends.
"I'm ugly and shy and boring." Ok, you need to have more self confidence in yourself. You are *not* ugly. Even if you really think you are, you still need to tell yourself you aren't. Try telling that to your reflection in the mirror.
If you want to enhance your appearance, try using some make-up. Put on some eyeliner, some mascara, some blush, and lip-gloss, and you'll be on your way to feeling beautiful. Don't wear clothing that make you feel ugly (baggy clothing, colors that don't match your skin tone). Start putting some care into how you look. If you feel good about your appearance, you'll definitely be more confident about yourself.
About that guy you like...
You should act like yourself, and people will feel drawn to you. Smile alot. Have you heard the quote, "Don't frown because you don't know who may be falling in love with your smile"? or something like that, anyways =). If he says something funny, laugh. Instead of just letting him that you're immature and let him "hate" you, try showing him that you are different.
If he still does not like you, then find someone new, who deserves you. That special someone will come along eventually.
Good luck!
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I'm a fifteen year old female. I used to go out with this kid, Jake. He and I always had fun, but I thought he cheated on me, so I broke up with him. He told me he didn't, but I didn't believe him. I finally asked the girl I though he cheated with, and she was really surprised that I would think that. So I was wrong, and I was really mean to him. I got an email from him saying sorry for making me think that, and that he still really liked me. I feel like such a jerk, and I still really like him too! What should I do? (link)
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You should tell him exactly what you said here: "So I was wrong, and I was really mean to him. ... I feel like such a jerk, and I still really like him too!" Tell him that you're sorry. After that, if everything gets worked out, maybe you could both give it another try.
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okay. me and one of my Ex's broke up 7 months ago! And now,, one of my friends asked him if he still likes me, and he said "well....it was b'cuz of baseball...." (that he broke up w/ me)And never really answered her question.
Since then, hes been staring at me in the halls. And flirting w/ me. Just not talking to me.
Do he still have feeling for me or what?
it really confused!!!HELP (link)
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I think he probably still likes you. If you like him, you should talk to him and flirt back, and maybe ya'll will go out again.
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