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People's opinions
hi im 15 and my boyfriends 16. although many adults say that us teens dont know what love is teens know when their in love. i just want peoples opinions (teens and adults) on if teens know what love is and also me and my boyfriend are really in love and its NOT lust. we know it. anyways we decided we were going to have sex (no my boyfriends not like that hes never pushed me into sex ever) but were not having sex for the fun of it we really do love eachother. please give us ur thoughts and please dont be mean thanx!~Kelley
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yes teens can be in love... I know what love is and i got hurt from it.. Parents just tell us that so that we wont have sex and wont get into anything we cant handle. its not bad that you and your b/f have sex its ok.. as long as you guys know what your doin..
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I don't doubt that you know what love is. I am a youth pastor and 28 years old and have been married for over 7 years. When I was in high school and stuff I really did think I understood the entire concept of what love is. But until I met my wife I never even grasped the idea. Love has nothing to do with sex. Sex is one way that you express love to your partner (God created sex for married because it is such a powerful expression - it really even isn't the act - it is two people becoming one - which will last forever). There is different kinds of love and I hope that you don't get hurt by playing around with some powerful stuff. Hope I helped a little.
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I think that teenagers often do know when they are in love. If you think that this will improve your relationship then i think you should go for it
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i love my boyfriend, i am 15 and he is 17, and we are inlove, and we are not going to have sex either, before marrage. and he has never pushed me either! i am the same as you two! i thinK!! well, we should totally keep in touch with this, and i will ask you if i have any problems, and you too! please leave feedback with your user name or leave me one in my inbox with your user name please!!
I would love to be "buddies" so we can help eachother with this, because i know it can be hard!
well talk later!
Kelsa-
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Hey P.O. To answer your question on do teens know what love really is, I feel that there are a select few who really do. What you may want and love at this moment may not be what you want in love six months, a year, or even ten years from now. But if you feel that you "love" this guy, I would advice you to wait until you both are alittle older before involoving sex. Sex is a BIG DEAL. To give yourself is a major step in any relationship and by you still being young you might regret giving yourself to him on down the line. I know its easier said than done, but wait. There is more to love and loving someone than just having sex. Also you have to look at the situation. I dont know your boyfriend and he's probably a nice guy, but alot of guys pretend to be in love with women just to bed them. Just be careful if you do decide to do it and always protect yourself!!!!!!
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Go for it. If you really like him and really do want to have sex with him, than why not? Love knows no age.
-Brianna
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i think when people tell you that you cant fall in love at our age..i think its bullshit. me and my boyfriend are both 17, we fell in love at age 15 and have been together since. we've been through so much together. he's going away to college next year and i'll be a senior, but if its love, it'll work out. so when someone tells you love isnt real at our age its usually probably because they've never fallen in love or are jealous. hope i helped <3
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wellim the same age as your boyfriend and well i havent had sex yet but than again i havent found anybody that i can trust and i agree wuth you just b/c were young dosent mean we dont know what love is and well nobody can tell you when your ready you have to decide that for yourself and well if you do decide that your ready just make sure you can trust him and that you take your necessary procautions you know every thing has a conquence but remeber only you can decide so good luck please rate me
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Being an older "teenager" i know where you are coming from... also not being a vigin anymore, i can say from experience that sex complicates things... i you may think that you are in love, and you very well may be... just know that sex is a very private and personal thing that is only to be shared with a person that you love and care about, and love isn't a word that is to be taken lightly... love is love and sex is sex, don't confuse the two, they are both very complicated... hope it helps, and trust that you will make a mature desicion.
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Awww I think its adorable that you guys love each other. And adults may say we dont know what love is that its just lust but youll know if its love. And as for sex as long as you both are totally ready for it and comfortable with eachother then go for it if its what you really wanna do...x0Sabina0x
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Aw. I think its good that you both love each other. Everyone says that teenagers dont know what love is. We may not but some of us do. We can love people just like adults but anyways. If you decided that you are ready for sex then go for it. Dont do anything that you might regret. Hope you guys are happy! x0
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I believe that teens can be in love. Everyone falls in love, whether they are gay, straight, old, or young. Sex is a huge step for any couple to make in their relationship, and if you feel that this is the right time and you are ready then go for it. Just make sure that it is what you want, remember, you will have to live with this decision for the rest of your life. Be sure and use protection, there are too many young Mothers out there already. I think if the time is right for the both of you, then do what you feel is in your hearts.
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I don't believe those adults are correct. I do think that teens know when they're "in love". I wouldn't have sex though, not until I was married. No matter what. Even with "protection" you could end up pregnant at fifteen. I don't know of any guy that would want to be a father at sixteen, nor any girl who'd want to be a mom at fifteen. I believe you when you say it's not lust. I honestly believe you. I know ... yeah, I know. I'm waiting to get married before I sleep with anyone. Please, if you don't get anything else, heed this: If you honestly love your boyfriend, and you think you might get married to him, why not wait until it's legal for you to have sex?
I do believe that teenagers can be in love. Trust me on this one, I know. But if you wait until you're married to have sex, you'll be setting a good example, and you'll feel better. (is that confusing?...)
Save your love. I am not saying that you shouldn't love your boyfriend, but I am saying that you sould save yourself. Please, consider this.
Be in love, don't make it.
-FunnyCide
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I am inlove with my boyfriend. I am 15 and he is 17. and we have been together almost 15months. but we arnt going to have sex until we are married.
I really go love my boyfriend!
hope I Helped-
Kels:)
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I am inlove with my boyfriend. I am 15 and he is 17. and we have been together almost 15months. but we arnt going to have sex until we are married.
I really go love my boyfriend!
hope I Helped-
Kels:)
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I am inlove with my boyfriend. I am 15 and he is 17. and we have been together almost 15months. but we arnt going to have sex until we are married.
I really go love my boyfriend!
hope I Helped-
Kels:)
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Hey. I think that yes, *some* teens do know what love is. It's different for every person. I mean, being in love with someone isn't limited to just adults... It's not like when you wake up on your 18th birthday, you suddenly know what love is. Lol.
But anyways, I think that you should wait until marriage before having sex... but if you do decide to anyways, you should take precautions. I think you already know this, but having sex doesn't necessarily mean love.
I'm glad that you and your boyfriend are happy together though.
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you can be in love at 15! having sex does not mean you are in love (believe it ot not) and also, it doesnt fully commit you to each other. have fun doing other things besides sex...i discourage it but if you really want to and nothing will stop you because you want to porove your in love then go for it, i cant stop you. be safe! <3
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I wouldn't say it is impossible for you to be in love. I think that a lot of people (not just teens) throw the word around a lot when they don't mean it....but being in love is not impossible no.
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It could be love...everyone's emotion are differnt, everyones feelings and point of views are different. I don't think anyone will be able to define the word "love" till it actually happens in their own 2 eyes. There have been people who gotten married at 18 as well known as "high school sweethearts" you don't see many of those. Yet you can make your graduating year something special knowing there were high school graduates that graduated that year.
Just what ever you do please don't screw up!!
-need anything else feel free to drop one in-
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Yes, it could be love. But love or not, you should wait until your'e married to have sex.
If you do somthing stupid you could wind up pregnant at 15. Protected or not. I do belive that teens know when they are in "love" though. That's my opinion.
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Ahhh my favorite question. I don't know you specifically, but in generality I have almost perfectally been correct. Teens don't know what love is. That funny feeling you get is just your emotions. Emotions lie all the time the only thing you can hopefully trust is your mind. If you can trust your boyfriend and he's a good person thats closer to love then a feeling. And hey! im tired of people having sex because they LOVE each other. If you aren't grown up enough to realize love is waiting for marriage then your not grown up enough to have sex! So tell him that if he loves you then he'll keep it in his pants and never let you try to push sex on him.
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Umm, love has been warped so badly by the media that we "love" food, we "love" clothes, we "love""love""love""love""love" this and that. Love is a spiritual thing that we won't understand until we've REALLY felt it. ask yourself: do you want to be together until death do you part? that may seem a corny line, but think about it. And i full heartedly DISCOURAGE sex before marrage!!! ESPECIALLY at 15 and 16 when you don't have jobs so you can't make money to take care of the baby. You have to think about the future before you do something like that. So you can say you're in love if you want, jst stay away from the sex. and besides the baby hat you have to worry about, there's all the STD's! and even if you use Birth control pills and a condom, they aren't perfect. you still may get pregnant or get an STD. Well, that's my opinion. You can do what your freedom entitle's you to, but i strongly argue against that. woah....long answer...
For my love of God,
Demon Hunter
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Remember - every adult that says that teens don't know what love is - has been a teen themselves. They speak from experiance.
Honestly, ask people 5 or 10 years older than you how much they changed from the time they were a teenager. I guarentee almost all of them will say they have changed dramaticaly. You may think you know a lot, but when I think back to when I was a teen, I can't believe how nieve I was. Your emotions are strong because they are new. Wait a little longer to grow up, because I guarentee you will.
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If you are convinced that you are boyfriend are in love, why do you need the assurance of other people?
I'm also curious why you want to have sex.. Is it to prove that you and your boyfriend are in love? Somehow, I just don't get the logic of your having sex.. I mean, why aren't you content with just the way you are now? Why does it have to change? If you did not have sex, would it make the fact that you're in love invalid? I don't really think so.. Is it for pleasure? To feel your love for each other more? Then, there is a bit of lust involved in that, then..
Personally, I can't say that I'm experienced about teen love or lust since I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend as of now (I'm 14) and even if I did have a bf, I wouldn't want to have sex with them just because we love each other.. In fact, because we love each other, that's why I do not want to have sex with him..
Like Amanda said, it is ultimately your decision and few people can dissuade you. Just think it through.. A lot of accidents can happen and later, maybe you'll blame yourself or your boyfriend...
Don't rush into things.. If it is true love, it will last, so there's no need to hurry...
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Who am I to say whether or not you are in love?! I don't know you or your boyfriend. You could be head-over-heels. Or perhaps it may feel like love, but really it's just lust. I can't say, nor can anyone else. You are the only person who knows whether or not you are in love!
It works the same way when you are deciding when to have sex. It doesn't matter what anyone tells you, ultimately it's your decision. Even if you are young, we all know that it doesn't matter what anyone tells us we are going to do it when we want to anyway. Please just make sure that you are protecting yourself and the one you care about!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
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