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Can I use vacations hours to get pay call out day
Depends on the company, some give you sick and personal days along with vacation time. Some company's only allow you to take it in a week time, other's allow you to break the days apart. Talk to your HR dept/manager they will be able to help you. :)
Hello, I don't know how to start this out, but here goes, I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him? It's an old boy friend. of mine.
He's a stalker, I'm sure that won't make any difference. We broke up 3 months ago, on my 50th birthday.He got me to his house, I trusted him, I thought we were going to just be friends, and put the past behind us,.
When he pushed me in his bedroom and locked the door, I kept saying please please please don't do this to me. You can't talk to me the way you are, and you can't keep my aganist my will. He said I'm going to have sex with you all night long and there is nothing you can do about it.
He tied me up and heald me againist my will. He hid my keys, phone, clothes, and purse.
After he had his fill I said you planned all this out, and he said yes.
What I would like to know, what can be done now, to him?
Can I still be examed close to 50 hours later?
Will I ever feel normal again?
As long as you didn't wash yourself, you can still be examined.
You can still press charges with the right help. No worries.
A great site that will help you a lot is.
www.rainn.org
as well as
www.aftersilence.org it's an online support group to those who are a victim of rape, sexaul assault and abuse.
I myself have been a part of the AfterSilence family for an year now, and it helped me heal a lot.
Right now there is a issue with the server, but once it's up and running you should have no problem, everything is anonymous just like this sight. You will need to wait a day or 2 for the moderators of the sight to approve you.
I hope I helped, best of luck!
Is there any way to explain, in not such a really long, confusing way like they do online..The difference between a democrat and a republican?
please and thank you,
I have to decide in order to register.
Social Views
Democrats generally hold the opinion that a woman has the right to choose whether or not to terminate a pregnancy and that there should be no federal ban on gay marriage. Republicans generally favor the opinion and have pushed for laws that would make abortions illegal and for a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage.
Econonic Views
Democrats usually advocate a more hands-on approach to economic subjects, with government playing a large role. This approach is evident in support of government-run welfare programs such as universal health care and food stamps. In contrast, Republicans generally take the opposite stance, supporting a smaller government role and preferring that people provide for themselves through private means, without the need of government.
Read more: What Is the Difference Between a Democrat and a Republican? | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/facts_5495455_difference-between-democrat-republican.html#ixzz1nJxtkoLs
Jane 13/f
For the past week this guy maybe 18 or 20 has been sending me disgusting messages on facebook and I don't know him. First he started sending me messages like how old are you and where do I live, but I never answered. Now he sends me messages like I want to F**k you or he would send me messages saying he wants to touch my body and other disgusting messages. Now I starting to get scared and he won't leave me alone. What should I do.
You need to block and report him as soon as possible.
About a month ago, my shoulder started hurting and popping everytime i moved it, and after 3 days I was at a foot ball game, and it started hurting really bad. & my aunt, who's a nurse, along with her friend, who's also a nurse, said that it was out of place. So after the game, i went to the ER. & they took X-rays, but the doctor told me it was just a strained muscle. They gave me a sling to wear for 5 days. Then i had to go back to my regular doctor, who just told me to apply heat, and to stop wearing the sling. It ended up feeling better. But about a week and a half after, it started hurting again when i move it, and keeps popping again. This week is has hurt on a larger scale, and today it hurts almost as bad as the night I went to the ER. Any ideas on what I should do?
I would go see another doctor for another opinion.
f/15
Okay, well let me start this off by saying my ex still likes me! So.....everytime we r going to hang out I'm up for it cause we r just hanging out right! But, when we actually start hanging out I get nervous/butterflies! Does this mean I still like him?? I REALLY WANNA KNOW IF I DO LIKE HIM!! PLEASE !HELP! ME PLEASE :)
We can't tell you if you like him, we are not little bugs inside you're head to tell you how you feel. Only you know what you feel.
18/ female
I started a new type of pill called yasmin. Iv been told to take three packs together with out the 7 day break and have a 4 day break after the three packs. Its good cos I don't get a period! But I'm on my second pack with a week left and iv started getting cramp in my lower stomach,like period pains sort of, pains in my chest and feeling sick at night. I should mention that last week I missed two pills in a row and had sex anyway.
I'm not sure if I'm reacting badly to this new pill?
I have taken that pill before..and stopped a few months ago because it was making me sick..and about 2 weeks ago it was on the news about known to give blood clots.. I would stop taking it..and go to you're doctor and have you're pills changed.
so i just got braces 2 days ago and they hurt like hell. i can't talk properly without being in pain, i can't eat, i feel sick to my stomach and dizzy and weak and it hurts to smile. i was just fine before i got them. i just need to know about how long are they supposed to hurt? and do they always hurt this much when i get them tightened? please help me!
Yes, I have had the same situation.. I felt sick and etc..It will only hurt for a few days.. try dental wax.. that helped me a lot when I had my braces. When you get them tightened they are going to hurt for the first day or so, depending how much you're teeth need to work to be straight.
Just think of the smile you will have once you have them off! :)
I was raped about a year ago and I have slowly began to date.I feel like I have to do things with my boyfriend. He keeps saying things like "oh well when your ready", but he says it a lot, like if he says it enough I will change my mind. We do things, but I end up freaking out and feeling guilty about it afterwards. We attempted sex once,but I ended up shoving him away and curling up and crying. Any ideas on ways to help? Please I feel lost!!
From my own experience, I have been a victim of this..and I know during sex with my ex..I would start to lose the feel to it..and I myself as well would shove him away..and curl up and cry..and that included crying during sex..that just made everything beyond pleasing, I haven't brought myself to talk to someone about it yet..and it took me nearly 2 years to start talking about it to close friends...and it took me 22 months to tell my mother about the experience.. It isn't an easy subject at all..
But from my own experience.. I feel I get that way because I feel lost and alone.. that I had something done to me, that has changed me and my outlook on men, relationships and sex. It takes a while to recover..if it's even fully possible to. Just take steps, try not having a sexual relationship right now..he understands I'm sure if you have told him about it..if he still brings it on on "when you're ready" maybe ask him not to say that anymore..and that you do not need the constant reminder, because the reminder just brings back the memories of the experience..work from there and see where that leads you.
If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to talk to me on AIM or some sort. :)
Hey LostAngel havnt spoken in a while! :) my boyfriend's "ex" and the reason why i am putting it in " qutes is becuz she went out with him out of pityand felt sorry for him,.. any way she is trying to tear me and ben apart!! I dont know what to do, ben said to her i love stef and no matter how much i love you too, i wont let you get in my way! I love ben and i will never let any one tear us apart especially her! That fucking whore!! sorry about my lanugage but i just dont know what to do!! And im sure you wil try to help me thnx for everything!!
One- He shouldn't be telling her that he loves her..
Two- He needs to tell her to back off..but being that he already told her that he loves her.. I'm going to take that she isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
Three- Tell him to tell her to back off..
Four- Again you're young, don't make him you're everything..live your life before it's too late. :)
I'm a 14 year old female and I have terrible acne. Its all over my face and at random times. I have very pale skin so every little thing is very noticeable. By the end of the school day I look so oily its disgusting. Home remedies? Products? HELP pleasee I'm so embarrassed.
I have the same exact problem. I recommend you can go to a dermatologist or you can purchase AcneFree, purchase some Biore Pore Perfect strips.. you just wet your face and slap let it dry, and then pull it up and it pulls up any blackheads stuck in your skin.. I get it in WalMart and it clears up my skin so well, better than anything I use in the past.
If you have any questions feel free to inbox me :)
Hi, Im a female of 14. So there's this boy I like and last night while I was frenching him, people were like ew they're kissing. so today someone asked if i Frenched ir Madeout with him. I don't know the difference. What's the difference between Frenching, Making out, and just kissing?
it's the same thing, with a 1,000 different words to describe it.
and just kissing could just mean a peck on the lips without any tongue.
I'm 11 and my babysitter is touching me wrong.He's 16 and he babysits me everyday after school. When I finish homework and watch tv he makes me sit on his lap and he puts his hands up my shirt.I say stop,but he says its okay and to just come down.Sometimes he even puts his hands down my pants.I know what he is doing is wrong and I want to tell my parents,but I'm to scared what do I do?
Don't be scared.. he should not be doing this to you, and you even said you know he isn't suppose to do this.
Tell someone.. no one is going to get mad at you for it. Even if it's another adult, someone at school or a neighbor.. tell an adult!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months but have been friends for a long time. I tell him everything and we are practically best friends. He treats me like gold. He is so sweet and appreciates me and can take me at my worst and my best. In the past I've been heartbroken very badly and abandoned, but he always assures me he'll never leave. I had a hard time believing that at first but somehow now I know he's here to stay. He says we'll only break up if I say the word. I think I fall in love with him all over again everyday!! He and I spend so much time together and it's like he's my other half.
Every Friday I go with him from school to his house. His parents don't come home until about 5, and we get to his house around 3. His parents are very laidback so they let us do what we want as long as we keep it light, just cuddling and kissing. But usually we take a nap together in his bed before his parents come home. We recently just became sexual, and he really likes it when I'm making the first move. Well yesterday I didn't feel like doing anything and he just kept kissing me and I'd turn my back and say no and push him away when he hugged me or something. That day he was just somehow getting annoying to me, which is so strange. I feel so bad because he just wanted to cuddle and I was being a jerk. I feel like I'm doubting "us".... Help!
It's alright to push him away if you didn't feel like doing anything, you don't always have to feel that you need to do something every single day.
I know in the past.. when I wasn't in the mood, and I didn't want to be touched.. sometimes it was a sign that I just wanted him to hold me even when I said no..and sometimes it outright meant no. I know what it feels like to feel like a jerk and not be in the mood. Though, when the guy stays right next to you and tries to just wrap his arms around you, it usually means he really does care.
Just because you weren't in the mood, doesn't mean you are doubting you're relationship. Talk to him..and apologize for how you acted if you feel that bad.
I hope I helped. :)
okay, so I've been dating my bf for a while... like 7 months going on 8 in a few weeks and he and i have talked about sex, I want to get birth control, that way i can be responsible and not get preggo, I mean I'm 17 i should have it by now right? my bf and i want to wait until i'm 18, but i want it just in case you know? So how do i ask my mom to help me get it? she and i have talked about it before and i just want to bring it up again, but i dont want to seem like i'm having sex at this point in time... which i'm not... he and i are still both virgins... how do i ask my mother to help me?
Just talk to your mother, be open and honest. Tell her you feel ready to move onto the next step in the relationship in the next few months.
Tell her you want to go on it, as a precaution..even if you don't do it right then and there.. you want to be prepared. I find that a smart idea, especially since the pill takes a month to be fully effective.
Just be open and honest. You sound like you are clearly mature to handle this. I'm sure she will be very happy to know you haven't done it yet, and you are doing the mature thing by talking to her about it first.
That's what mothers want, to know their baby girl is doing the smart thing.
Okay so i have a problem.
Im 13 and my older sister is 15.
My cousins(16 & 18yearolds)came to hang out and take us and my little 9 yr old sister shopping and to hang out.
So they went to pick up a boy, Brian(17) and we went to a park and ate some ice cream. Then they brought him home. They hid him under the bed and told my mom they were sleeping over(my cousins) and long story short Brian ended up having UNPROTECTED sex, the rest of us were watching a movie & my LITTLE NINE YEAR OLD sister, me, and my cousin walked in on them.
I feel really disgusted with my sister & cant look her inth eye. Then she BEGGED my older cousin to buy the 'after sex whatever' pills. And she never talks to brian after that. I dont know if that was her first time or if all those times she went to havesleepovers werent such a goo d idea. I want things to go back to nomal, i still love her ( she's my sister) but i really dont think much Of her, She used to be my idol but now i dont wanna be anything like her. But i feel really bad ( even cried a couple of times) but it was kind of my fault too. I picked the lock with my cousin because we just thought they were making out,we thought chrissy knew better then that. What should i do?
Your sister's decisions are your sister's decisions.
You should have not picked the lock like that, that's her privacy.
Just because she is your idol.. and you don't want to be like her.. means you have to be like her.
Follow your own footsteps, I know I don't follow my sister's.. I have learned from both my sister's mistakes not to make the same mistakes.. I have made my own mistakes and what not, but not as nearly like they have. You shouldn't be a follower to anyone, your at the perfect age where you will learn the difference between a leader and a follower.
14/f
I am very annoyed with my mom right now because she is not letting me socialize with people I like. I'm a pretty normal person, but over the past year I have become good friends with this neat arty girl who looks very different from everyone else. She dyes her hair and dresses weirdly, but she is exceptionally nice and interesting and would never do anything bad or weird. She is completed anti-drugs, an I have told my mom thiis. My mom let's me hang out with her sometimes, but she invited me to sleep over the other night. I asked my mom, and she flipped out at me telling me that I should get friends that are more "mainstream" and that this girl is a weirdo and there's no way I can sleep there. You know, I would respect her using her authority to tell me I couldn't sleep over, but tw fact that she went on about normality and all of this superficial crap about her appearance (she's the sweetest girl, my mom knows this) made me really resent my mom. She then told me that I have to "stick with the tennis girls" (I was on my high school tennis team) who happen to be quite annoying, most of them, and just kept going on about how I needed to "get back in with them." I wanted to just say to her that she has no right to pick my friends for me and that they were MY friends, not hers. Her superficially bothers me so much! The ironic thing is I just wrote an essay for english on me overcoming that friend's differences and dismissing my reputation. Haha. Worked for me, but now my mom is holding me back. Also, my other friend who I met this year asked me if I wanted to hang out and my mom told me no, I had to find more mainstream friends. But she doesnt even know this girl! Ahhh! And then she started talking about how this girl was moving things too fast. Well, I've been talking to this girl three times a day eery day for the past two months, so I think I know her well enough. SHOULDN'T I BE ALLOWED TO PICK MY OWN STUPID FRIENDS?!?!?! I mean as long as they aren't dangerous. But in these cases, my mom isn't worried about danger. She's worried about my reputation, which I don't give a shit about. It's so annoying. I want to scream and cry. No one else has this issue.
I'm going to give you the quickest answer I can give for this type of question.
You're either in 8th or 9th grade..and I want to say you're in 8th because in 9th grade/high school you see more people like this. Well..there is nothing wrong with this girl..she's very orginal and she's sounds to be a leader rather than a follower.
Chances are when you're mother was younger..she dressed in some funk fashion her friends parents didn't approve of.. so ask your mom wasn't she one of those people?
Its not as if this girl is going to have you dye your hair and get all funky.. this is the thing about popularity..the correct popular people have friends in every type of group in high school. If she czan let you hang out with her..there is no reason why you can't stay over. By the way you say it by taking every day 3 times a day for 2 months..sounds to me as if you're gaining a best friend. Try suggesting this girl comes over and sleep over...maybe your mother will open up a little more.. talk to your mother..and maybe suggest what I had said in this current paragraph.
Ummm hi LostAngel sorry to ask you this question but ummm... it's gonna sound stupid but, ... my boyfriend always says that i'm beautiful and the most prettiest girl he has ever seen but i really am not well he says that am and i think im not but everybody says im pretty thin and ect. But it really bothers me becuz i really do not think that i am pretty skinny i think im fat ugly and stupid!
I don't know what to tell my boyfriend a.k.a Ben!
Everyone is different..I feel the same way..yet I have guys calling me beautiful..and I say I am not.. the thing is.. what we see in ourselves other people don't see.. they see the other side of what we see. I always call my self ugly and fat.. and I always have guys who says I am not...and then they go on about how well I look in 2 a piece..and how skinny my waist is.. Just accept the fact that you have someone who thinks you are beautiful :)
Thnx for the advice you have helped me out alot LostAngel!!
It's alright, I remember when I was your age.. I had no one to go to..and no one seemed to understand my life. I started at this site when I was 14.. so I've been here on and off throughout the years.
It's okay to have feelings for your ex, it's the one who was your very first boyfriend (correct?) Just don't let these feelings crosspaths with Ben, he's your's now..and your his.
Rape is a serious thing, I would know.. because..well.. my ex almost raped me.. and I had to fight it off.. it isn't an easy thing to deal with..and it messes with your heart and emotional thinking as time goes on.
If you know this guy will do that to you, I would back away from him..and stay far away from him as possible, you do not need that. That's someone who is selfish and just wants one thing, and doesn't think of the outcome of the situation.
Just rememeber you're only 13, you don't need to be dating at this age.. stay young as possible.. because before you know it you'll be outta high school with adult decisions.. and you'll wish you were a kid again.
Do you want the baggage of so much heartbreak when you're 19 and 20, and you go look back as say to you're self "WOW, I am only 19 and I already dated (X amount) of guy in the last 6-7 years.." That's a lot to carry on when you get older.
I know you will make the best decision, you sound as a very bright girl who is just very confused.
I am here for you, if you need anything. It's alright. :)
plse can a virgin girl get pregnant when the sperm has entered her vagirna
Yes... and I would recommend brushing up on your sex education. :)