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Rape: I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him?
Hello, I don't know how to start this out, but here goes, I was raped 33 hours ago, is it too late to file charges aganist him? It's an old boy friend. of mine.
He's a stalker, I'm sure that won't make any difference. We broke up 3 months ago, on my 50th birthday.He got me to his house, I trusted him, I thought we were going to just be friends, and put the past behind us,.
When he pushed me in his bedroom and locked the door, I kept saying please please please don't do this to me. You can't talk to me the way you are, and you can't keep my aganist my will. He said I'm going to have sex with you all night long and there is nothing you can do about it.
He tied me up and heald me againist my will. He hid my keys, phone, clothes, and purse.
After he had his fill I said you planned all this out, and he said yes.
What I would like to know, what can be done now, to him?
Can I still be examed close to 50 hours later?
Will I ever feel normal again?
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I am so very sorry this has happened to you. You need to report him to the police. You are the victim here please remember this.
No one asks to be raped. Part of the healing process from a rape is understanding that you did nothing to bring this on yourself. Your rapist will say anything and everything to prove he did not rape you. As long as you did not consent to having sex with him or said no or stop it is rape.
If he incapacitated you, got you drunk and had sex with you it is rape. You have to be able to consent to sex otherwise it is rape and you are the victim.
It is almost never to late. Rape has a five year statute of limitation for prosecution in almost every state. Even though you may have washed yourself there may still be evidence that will be found in an examination. Hopefully you haven't washed the clothing you wore. Gather those clothes and place them in a trash bag for the police to examine including your panties and bra.
Yes you can still be examined this long after the rape happened. Many women who have been raped do not report the rape immediately.
As to what will happen to him. After reporting him to the police and after they gather the evidence you give they will arrest him. Based on the results of that evidence the prosecutor will decide how to proceed and what degree of rape he will be charged with.
Will you ever fell normal again Yes, but you cannot do this alone, you will need help. For this I would like you to call an organization called AINN. RAINN stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hot line 1-800-656-HOPE.
Their trained counselors ho answer the hot line will help you find the right kind of help in your own home town to help you through this. So please call them right after you call and speak to the police or if you want help reporting this to the police then call them first and they will help you.
Just remember that you are the victim and you can prevent any other women in your area from becoming a victim by being strong and reporting him now. The police are open 24/7 you do not have to wait for normal business hours to make this report. Just pick up the phone and dial 911.
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Hello there,
I am terribly sorry this has happened. You should contact the police right away. Even if you have washed, there may still be evidence of bruising or other physical damage.
You should not wait any longer. Please, I am asking you, not only for yourself, but for all the other women this man will eventually rape if you let him get away with this.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are the victim here, and everyone wants to help you survive this and heal.
Please do it now. Pick up the phone and call the police, walk into the hospital and tell the nurse at the desk, whatever way is best for you, but please do it now.
You deserve to feel whole again. He deserves to pay for this terrible crime, of course, but YOU are the important person here.
Please take care of you, and let others take care of you.
There are a great many people on this site who have been where you are, and survived.
If there is anything any of us can ever do for you, please don't hesitate to ask.
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You need and should report him to police asap.
It is never too late but the sooner the better.
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As long as you didn't wash yourself, you can still be examined.
You can still press charges with the right help. No worries.
A great site that will help you a lot is.
www.rainn.org
as well as
www.aftersilence.org it's an online support group to those who are a victim of rape, sexaul assault and abuse.
I myself have been a part of the AfterSilence family for an year now, and it helped me heal a lot.
Right now there is a issue with the server, but once it's up and running you should have no problem, everything is anonymous just like this sight. You will need to wait a day or 2 for the moderators of the sight to approve you.
I hope I helped, best of luck!
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