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how to ask my mom for birth control?
okay, so I've been dating my bf for a while... like 7 months going on 8 in a few weeks and he and i have talked about sex, I want to get birth control, that way i can be responsible and not get preggo, I mean I'm 17 i should have it by now right? my bf and i want to wait until i'm 18, but i want it just in case you know? So how do i ask my mom to help me get it? she and i have talked about it before and i just want to bring it up again, but i dont want to seem like i'm having sex at this point in time... which i'm not... he and i are still both virgins... how do i ask my mother to help me?
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A law past some years ago called HIPPA which is a Federal Law provided teenagers 14 and older with medical privacy and confidentiality for certain issues. Reproductive issues for women was one of them.
With this knowledge you can visit you doctor or GYN with or without your moms permission for any reason. Whatever you tell the doctor and whatever the doctor treats you for is confidential. The doctor needs you permission in writing to share this information with anyone including your parents. Only in a life or death situation where you are unable to make a decision can the doctor tell your parents.
If you obtain birth control pills and mother finds out. You can tell her by law you didn't need her permission and you asked the doctor for something to help control,your periods. Birth control pills are also regularly dispensed to,control a women's period. Your doctor cannot say otherwise if asked by your mother or it will be a violation of you'd confidentiality under the law.
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I went through the same issue when I was 17, I was with the same guy for two years at the time (we're still together now). I told her that we have talked about taking the next step and we wanted to wait until we're both 18 but I wanted to be on birth control just in case. I also explained that I have put a lot of thought into ways to prevent pregnancy and that we wouldn't just be relying on birth control. After this she told me I was being very responsible and helped me get birth control.
You have to keep in mind that you have to take the pill at the same time everyday for it to work the best. You also can't take most antibiotics while you're on it or it makes it less effective. Do your research and find out which one is right for you.
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You are 17, You by law are old enough to go into a doctors office without your mother going with you. You do not need to tell her why, You also do not need your mother to go with you. If you need to seek out birth control have someone drive you to the doctors and you can go in yourself and explain your case. You are 17, Anyone who is 14 and under would generally need a parents guardian you don't.
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Just talk to your mother, be open and honest. Tell her you feel ready to move onto the next step in the relationship in the next few months.
Tell her you want to go on it, as a precaution..even if you don't do it right then and there.. you want to be prepared. I find that a smart idea, especially since the pill takes a month to be fully effective.
Just be open and honest. You sound like you are clearly mature to handle this. I'm sure she will be very happy to know you haven't done it yet, and you are doing the mature thing by talking to her about it first.
That's what mothers want, to know their baby girl is doing the smart thing.
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