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Ive got 2 friend, Tamsinn and Ben and theyre a couple. Well Tamsin wants to break up with Ben because she says he's annoying and all that...but Ben is trying to kill himself now that he heard that...I need help because i really dont want to lose a friend.
Thanks
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do you mean lose a friend like by death, or by choosing one of them?
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kill hiimself? i think he needs some help .not to be rude.. but i mean thats kinda serious. i mean she shouldnt have to stay in this relationship just bcuz this boy is trying to kill himself. but i mean if he really loves her enough to commit suicide? i think she shold talk to this Ben kid and tell him she loves hiim and doesnt want to see him hurt himself. first get this all out of the way until he is calm. i mean then maybe a week later after he is calm break up with him? i dont know cuz that might make him actually kill himslef. i think the main thing rigt now would be to get help for Ben b4 its too late.
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Talk to Ben about it and tell him that there are other girls out there and he shouldn't throw his whole life away for it. I know someone that killed himself because his girlfriend broke up with him and it hurt SO many people around him. Every day my best friend cries at the thought of him and so do several others. Tell him that if he kills himself, it's not just him losing his own life, but MANY people around him will feel they've lost a piece of themselves along with him. It's a selfish thing to do to kill yourself in my opinion. As for Tamsin, tell her to be very gentle with him when she breaks up with him. Hope i helped!
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Is ben also a loser who cant deal with the chaotic unfairness of life? Is ben a retard and wimp? Yes. Screw ben. If he wants to die, power to the people.
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Talk to him and tell the counselor, usually you can even do that anonymously. Obviously killing himself over this situation isn't what he REALLY wants to do, remind him that if he dies, there is no way he is ever going to date anyone.
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You really need to focus on Ben in this situation. Remind him about all the people who don't think he's annoying- his parents, his friends, you. Tell him that there are other people who will love him, and that he will never give himself a chance to find them if he commits suicide. Tell him how sad you will be if he commits suicide, and help him through. If he still feels suicidal, refer him to a school councelor. They will be able to help him out of his depression.
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OMG NO DONT LET HIM KILLSELF! wow he must be insane!! Tell him that just at times that everyone is annoying and that your friend Tamsinn gets anoyyed sO easy! Just help him out alot and explain it in a really nice way! Make him understand and not kill himself for a stupid reason! Also tell him there are other people in the world other than Tamsinn that he can go out with! I HOPE I'VE KINDA HELPED!!and get back to be if he killed hisself or how hes dOin!!
xOx ViLLy*
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You need to let someone in his family know of his threats to kill himself. Tamsin cannot be held responsible for his behavior and he shouldn't put her in that position. Really,his saying it is a cry for help...go tell his family.
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Tell Ben that he should not try and kill himself over a girl breaking up with him. Especially since it has not happened yet and that is all he has heard. Tell him that he's a great guy and any other great qualities he has. Be sure to mention that if what he heard is true (which it is) that her being honest is better than her going out with him and not liking him, it'd just make the pain worse in the long-run.
As for Tamsinn, let her know he's upset from what he heard and that she should do it nicely.
<3 Lauren
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my answer DON"T LET HIM KILL HIMSELF
he needs psychatric help and fast if he is really going to kill himself my advice is to get him to talk to a shrink
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