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my bff (i will call her jane) & i have been bff for a while now. i like her (obviously) but sometimes she acts so insecure...like she wants to be friends with these other girls who obvioulsy aren't that nterested with her. sometimes when i am with her & feel bad, because she seems so focused on being frineds with them that i feel like she doesn't want to be hanging out with me. i know she likes me, but every once in a while she will do something on an important day (like dances, new years eve) & if i ask her if she wants to do something she will be like "no i can't, i am doing something with _____" and she won't even offer to have me come, which is something i always dowith my friends (unless they hate each other, which almost none do, they all get along). it makes me feel bad, but i also know that jane DOESN'T have that many friends, so i feel like she does it to sort of show off that she's doing something. ahould i say anything, i mean its not that serious & it only happens once in a while, but i feel sort of unwanted. we like never fight though, so i don't want to start anything!
i wouldn't approach her directly, but i would definately make an effort to show her how much you care and how much you think of her as a friend. maybe she will realize that those other "friends" can't compare to you.
i heard that giving compliments is the best way to meet the guy you like. what kind of compliment would be the best if you're giving it to a guy, and you're a girl? "cool shoes?"
anything that doesn't strike the other person as weird that i'm noticing their shoes or whatever.. please help!
i guess find other ways to introduce yourself. if you are in the same class together join in on a conversation he's having with someone else. after you know him, you can start complimenting him. but if you do it all the time, they get annoyed and think your desperate. soo say something like "i really like your shirt today" or something like that. once you're more aquainted, its easier to find sincere compliments to give them.
I normally do not ask questions about guys on this site, but I just have no clue what to do.
My situation is that my boyfriend went out with this girl from his camp last year (they broke up b/c they wouldn't see eachother for a whole year). Well, this year he is going back to camp (she is too), and the camp holds a hotdog/hamburger barbeque thing where everyone pretty much has a date (although it's not neccasary to have a date, but everyone does have one). He asked me if he could go with this girl from last year. He told me that he "sort of" wanted to go with her (I'm guessing this is my language for "I want to go with her but I don't want to seem to eager about it b/c it will probably make you mad"). My problem is that I am afraid he is going to start liking her again, and I won't be able to do anything about it (after all, I will be miles away; I won't be able to stop them flirting or anything). I am just scared of losing this great guy.
My question is- am I being jealous and should I let him go with this girl to the barbeque? Or do I have a good reason to be worried?
Thanks I appreciate any answers!
i think that you should make him feel kind of guilty haha. you should be like "i am okay with you asking her because i know that you would never do anything to hurt me. I really trust you, __fill in the blank__" then, if he does feel the urge to do anything with that girl (which im sorry to tell you he will, because boys are boys)he will not want to let you down and cheat on you (that is if he is a good guy and boyfriend..if he isn't, i don't know what to tell you.) but yeah. oh, and if he DOES do something with her, if he has ANY soul, he will confess to you sooner or later. alright. well i hope i helped
ok so im 14/f and a few days ago i went to like this big party for my friends birthday. well she had some bands play because shes really good friends with the band members. one of my friends (lets call him nick) was there and i think he likes me. he always flirts with me and crap. and there was this guy (lets call him rob) there also. he was in one of the bands and i had never met him. well when i got to the party nick came up and hugged me and said "i love you" then rob came up and hugged me and said "i love you" and nick introduced us and stuff. then throught the party rob kept "bumping" into me and stuff and turning around saying "sorry" and stuff. im so confused, was that all a coincidence or do you think rob liked me or do you think he was trying to hook up nick and i(cause thats what i kinda think) what do those signs mean?!?!?! thanks in advance.
hmm that is confusing. i think that maybe this rob guy had a little crush on you. you might want to ask him. and nick obviously has a crush on you..either that or he is just a major flirt, i wouldn't know. i guess the real question is "who do you like?" because if you like rob then you should DEFINATELY ask him about his feelings toward you..but if you like nick, i wouldn't bother with rob. good luck!
My dad gets mad REALLY easy. For an example, the other day i wanted to try out for travel softball and i asked him if he could bring me some clothes to try out in. then he said "what do you wanna try out for? the outfield?" so then he came to pick me up and he saw me playing for a little. When we were walking to the car he was like "do you WANT to try out?" and i said "no anymore.." because what he said to me sorta put me down. so then he said "YOU NKOW WHAT? YOU NEED AN ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT" and i said "I only said i didnt want to anymore i didnt even say anything" and then hes liek "THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO RITE NOW IS TO SHUT YOUR MOUTH!" and i dont know what to do because he gets mad so easy for no reason. HELP!
I bet he's bipolar! because my friends mom is exactly like that. Maybe you should ask your dad to go to a counciler with you. and if he gets mad, then you go to one and get advice about it. I bet he needs either some kind of medication, or at LEAST an outside opinion. Maybe this other person could help him realize the harm he's causing to you.
Ok, this is how it is. Have 2 bestfriends at school; we have been friends 4ever. Anyway one of my friends {Lets call her Karla}found out that my other bf {Lets call her Tisha} was talking about her behind her back. It's very hard 4 me because everytime I talk to 1 of them the other 1 asks if she said anything about her. It's driving me nuts! I don't know if I can take it anymore. Anyway I've been friends with "Karla" longer than I have "Tisha". I've known "Karla" 4 about 8 years, and I've been friends with "Tisha" 4 about 2 years. I'm so confused and I cannot deal with it any longer. Anyway school is almost out, so maybe everything will get solved. {We only have 4 days left} But I really need help! Since there's only 4 days left I've been thinking of not talking 2 any of them? What should I do?
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next time they ask you if the other one is talking about them, just tell them that they need to talk to the other one about it. Explain to them that just because those two are in a fight, doesn't mean you have to take sides. Tell them that you are going to continue to hang out with both of them, and if they can't work things out, it will be difficult, but that's between them two, not you.
I was fairly recently diagnosed with having OCD and Anxiety. I am taking medications for these disorders of the brain. However, I can never sleep and I have to appetite whatsoever. There are also many other side effects that I have, one being the possibility of an eating disorder. Can someone help me, please? In any way possible?
Well, i have never liked the idea of medication like that. but since you are taking it, i would consult your doctor and tell him about the side affects you have been having. hopefully he will change your dosage or prescribe you something else. But you really need to tell your doctor.
i hang out with my friends at school but i keep very quiet or else someone will start talking crap about me but when im with friends from sports i can relax and just let myself free. when i do something funnywith my freinds at skool they dont think its funny but when i do it with my freinds from softball they laugh soo hard they are crying. but the problem is thAT my friends from sports go to diferent schools than i do. what should i do>?
I have a lot of friends that go to other schools. I try to hang out with them every second i can. as far as your "friends" at your school, i would stop hanging out with them as much. They don't seem like the kind of people that appriciate you for who you are. I used to try to "fit in" but at the end of 8th grade i realized that it wasn't worth it and that there were so many other people that maybe weren't "cool," but were amazing friends and I always have a blast with them. Just be yourself and if those girls make fun of you or whatever, just ignore it and consider yourself more mature. At least you will be happy and comfortable with yourself and not feel the need to make fun of others like those girls.
Okay, I need to know if this outfit matches for a party coming up, and if it doesn't, let me know.
1. First of all, do BROWN and BLACK match with eachother? (I hope so)
2. My whole outfit has to revolve around my BROWN sandals that I just bought.
3. And I want to wear my BLACK cardigan sweater (REALLY BAD!)
4. Can I wear my brown sandals, a (white or brown?) shirt underneath the black cardian sweater? And a skirt...but what color skirt?
Tell me if any of that matches. Basically I want to wear my black sweater and brown shoes, so what color shirt and skirt should I buy?
THANKS!
i would wear a white skirt and a brown shirt under the black. Just make sure that the brown is a lighter brown so that the brown and black aren't too close. Sounds like an awesome outfit!
one of my best friends is fading from me. you see,theres this girl. i hate her. shes so mean to me. and one of my best friends, lets call her hannah, anyway, 'hannah' is turning into such a little slut because of this girl. hannahs 12 years old and shes already been to 1st 2nd and 3rd base! this is all because of the girl that i hate. about her, she called me a fuckin bitch and 'hannah' was on the girl that i hate's side because i stood up for myself. and today she was talking to another girl that i really dont like and she told her all the things that she didnt tell me. she used to be one of my best friends. now she likes people who ditch her for more popular friends better. what should i do?thanks.
i think you should confront your friend and talk to her about how you feel she has changed and the harm it is causing you, her and others around her. Tell her exactly how you feel. If she starts to get all upset or whatever, don't fight back. Just show her that you still want to be her friend. If she doesn't accept what you're saying, then don't push it. It's her choice to do what she is doing, and hopefully, if it didn't click when you talked to her, then she will find out on her own the damage she is/was causing. One thing you don't want to do is be mean to her. Show her that you are there for her and be very nice and caring. She might turn to you when her other "friends" ditch her. When this happens you can comfort her and maybe she will see the kind of friend she has in you.
ok im 13 and ive been seeing this guy that is 14 for about 3 weeks and like i never get the chance to see him but i talk to him on the fone alot. the one time i met up w/ him in person i was really shy and like didnt even talk to him. im going to see him this weekend and i wanna make it special but how can i get the nerve to talk to him.I really wanna like kiss him and hug hin and stuff but i cant even talk to him. got ne advice of ways that i could flirt w/ him?
how do you know him if you have never even talked to him in person? im really confused. if you clarify what you mean i can maybe give you some advice.
I am a 15 year old dating an almost 16 year old. Ive heard the term once you've loved someone you'll always love them. and its not the guy Im dating now. With the guy Im dating now I dont really feel comfortable with him like I act differently around him and I try my hardest to be myself. It doesnt even seem like were dating because this is how it was before we started dating. I dont feel a connection with him. Should I wait for a month and if I not feel anything break it off? HELP!
I think that you should break it off. I dated a guy and wasn't really feeling him but thought that if i waited it out, my feelings would change, but its not true. I just ended up lying to myself about my feelings towards him. If you weren't very comfortable before you started dating, of course it isn't going to change once you start. In fact it probably made it even more awkward. I think you should end it before you try to MAKE yourself like him more than you do.
I am a 27 year old female. I don't know what to do. I dated someone for 7 years and we broke up. I got married and the ex and I avoided each other for a long time. Then one day we see each other and he starts unloading how bad he feels for what happened with us and that he got hurt by a girl and realized how much he hurt me. Well, I felt I would have the opportunity to unload and now, he won't talk to me. I don't feel I can truely move on with my life. He is all I think about. Please help.
You should call him and ask to meet him for lunch and just unload eveything on your heart. You can only truely move on if you have some sort of closure with him and that NEEDS to happen, considering you are already married. Explain to him that you want to move on with you life and can't do that unless you talk to him about what happened between you two.
i am the same person that wrote witch/devil with the thoughts in my head. well kately i have thought about it a lot and all that, well in class i kind of fell asleep and i was aware that i had my eyes closed and all that, anyway i had a weirdish dream and it was a dream that the devil was dragging this guy i have never seen before in my life under the bed and killed him. this woke me right up but i hnever had a dream like that and now all i can think about is that dream and that guy i didn't even know and the fact that i might be a satanist what should i think about instead of this?
i agree with myscreename47. Dreams can mean things, but most of the time don't. It's just idle thoughts that run through your mind while you sleep. I really think that you need to accept god into your life. he can take all those horrible things away so you never have aweful dreams like that again. (this sounds sooo corny.) meh..whatev...you needed to hear it.
my friend and i like the same guy. i knew him first and ive liked him since the day i met him. he doesnt go to school with us but we both know him now. i havent talked to him or seen him in about a year.. but for some reason i still think about him a lot. well now i found out that she knows him.. and that they are really good friends. now since shes friends with him im sure im going to be seeing him sometimes. i know she likes him because shes told me. would it be wrong for me to try to get him to like me over her... or would i be being a bad friend? ... do i even have a chance if i try? please help me
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Well, since you havn't talked to him in a year, you should probably not get all upset that your friend is now friends with him and has feelings for him. I think that you have every right to try to get his attention, but don't stab your friend in the back about it. You don't have to go ALL OUT and flirt majorly or talk bad about your friend to the guy, but you should gradually become friends with him again and if things turn into something more, than great! You also might want to try and tell your friend about your feelings for the guy. She may think it ridiculous considering you havn't seen/talked to him in a year, but who knows..the least she could do is not talk about him and her's relationship around you, ya know?
(15/F) I have two best friends, and I'm either with one or the other. I don't have any other 'good friends' in school. Everyone is already settled with their own group of friends and I feel so alone when I'm not with my best friends. I think girls view me as a snob though, because I do have more guy friends and honestly I'm attractive. How do I get more friends and find people my age that I have stuff in common with? I don't want to come off as desperate or dorky but I do need more girl friends to hang out with.
Just start talking and being nice to more people in your classes/lunches. It couldn't hurt. Thats how i met all my close friends, and even now, I don't have a lot. besides, its better to have one or two GOOD friends, than a bunch of wishy-washy, fair-weathered friends.
My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input?
OH MY GOD! ARE YOU SERIOUS! ITS A FREAKING DRESS! WHO CARES! It's just an article of clothing! I'm sure a MILLION other people are wearing it...does that mean that all the people who bought it after the first person who bought it should return it?? no! Besides, why do you care? this is between your friends. Don't get involved..you wouldn't want to lose your 4 year old friends. (sorry..but it had to be said)
what are some signs that a guy likes you? i mean this guy always tries to talk to me and come near me..and he always stares too, he is very sweet and nice and i just wanna know. o ya and my friend went up to him and asked him if he liked me(she did this w/o asking) and he stuttered and said" uh..uh..uh..no..i..i..dont..um..like her..i uh..i.sw..i swear!." then he told me about it. i mean does this mean he likes me?
thnx in advance
It sounds like he has a crush on you. Why don't you ask him and if you are interested, then tell him. Don't be afraid to be straight foward about it.
ok. I previoulsy asked a question about how do i get up in the morning. now i have the worst time falling asleep! help!
listen to a cd that just has "ocean sounds" on it. lol..it sounds lame, but it works. Find a CD somewhere that just has like, wave noises on it. As far as waking up, put a REALLY loud alarm clock on the other side of your room so you HAVE to get up and get it. Works for me!
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So I really like this guy hes Funny,cute,nice but he says he likes me but really he likes me and another girl. I have gone out with him befor and everytime he has broken my heart I promised myself I would never fall for him again but I did...!I dont know what to do. The other girl he likes likes him bak and everytime they go out they go out 4 soooo long!!! I dont know what to do cause I love him so much and he likes another girl more then me and if he asks her out I will be heart broken I dont know what to do to get him attention and to get him to like me more...What should I DO!!??!!
Yours truley,
**confused**
Don't mess around with him anymore! Just forget about him and live you life. If he has caused you so much pain and seems to have longer, more meaningful relationships with this other girl, don't waste you time. I'm sure there are plenty of other guys out there for you.