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barbeque
I normally do not ask questions about guys on this site, but I just have no clue what to do.
My situation is that my boyfriend went out with this girl from his camp last year (they broke up b/c they wouldn't see eachother for a whole year). Well, this year he is going back to camp (she is too), and the camp holds a hotdog/hamburger barbeque thing where everyone pretty much has a date (although it's not neccasary to have a date, but everyone does have one). He asked me if he could go with this girl from last year. He told me that he "sort of" wanted to go with her (I'm guessing this is my language for "I want to go with her but I don't want to seem to eager about it b/c it will probably make you mad"). My problem is that I am afraid he is going to start liking her again, and I won't be able to do anything about it (after all, I will be miles away; I won't be able to stop them flirting or anything). I am just scared of losing this great guy.
My question is- am I being jealous and should I let him go with this girl to the barbeque? Or do I have a good reason to be worried?
Thanks I appreciate any answers!
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i think that you should make him feel kind of guilty haha. you should be like "i am okay with you asking her because i know that you would never do anything to hurt me. I really trust you, __fill in the blank__" then, if he does feel the urge to do anything with that girl (which im sorry to tell you he will, because boys are boys)he will not want to let you down and cheat on you (that is if he is a good guy and boyfriend..if he isn't, i don't know what to tell you.) but yeah. oh, and if he DOES do something with her, if he has ANY soul, he will confess to you sooner or later. alright. well i hope i helped
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And I can *COMPLETELY* undeRstand wheRe you'Re coming fRom on this. I think EVERY giRl would be woRRied, whetheR she's willing to admit it oR not!! But I *DO* think you should let him go to this baRbeque. See, when I Read this question... I put myself in youR shoes.. and I didn't think of it as "Oh no.. I might lose my boyfRiend to that skanky ho at camp".. I thought of it as... "Well... if I *DO* lose my boyfRiend to that skanky ho at camp, it can only be GOOD FOR ME!!!" You see, I thought this because I believe that if an individual "loves" [whetheR the teRm is used lightly oR not] TWO, then they don't love eitheR one ENOUGH.. peRiod!! I think that if he could so easily Run into the aRms of this giRl at camp then he obviously doesn't "love" you, because if he did he wouldn't WANT anyone else... because no one else in the WORLD would be able to even come *CLOSE* to compaRing to you, and to what the two of you have togetheR. Love is RecipRocal; it's NOT just one-sided. Think of it this way: what's the point in giving youR heaRt away to someone who isn't willing to give you theiRs? All I'm suggesting to you is to look at this situation in THAT light.. positively. If he DOES wind up discoveRing he has feelings foR heR then you know betteR than to waste any of youR time, teaRs oR effoRt on this CLOWN; he wouldn't woRthy. You'll just have to accept and Respect his decision, and keep on tRuckin'!! Goodluck to you -- hope I helped!!
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ummmm.... it really just depends on how much you trust your bf. but i can see why you're worried since they have been together in the past. you're just gunna have to decide if you're willing to trust him enough to let him go with her and have him fend for himself, or if you're gunna play it safe and tell him no. it's all up to you.
<3 steph
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you should be worried about it.. why dont you just confront him about it tell him that you think hes going to be flirting with this girl and ask him if he planned on doing it just ask him whats on your mind
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you have a really good reason to be worried. just tell him how you feel. why dont u and some of your friends go to that camp the same week? just to see what happens with him. or send some one to watch them. bcuz u really need to kno whats going on between them! and your bf might say nothing when something did happen. hope i helped.
Hearts,
Cierra
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only you can answer your question. i mean, do you trust your boyfriend? if you do trust him, you should have no reason to be worried, but if you dont, thats a bad sign. think about his history, does he do stuff like that alot? i mean, you cant stop him from liking someone else even if youre right in front of him, if its going to happen its going to happen no matter how much you try to stop it. i think you should let him ask her, and if he still wants you by the time he comes back, thats fantastic. if he doesnt, thats something you need to know anyway. i know this probably wasnt what you wanted to hear but i hope it helped somewhat. i really hope everything works out for you!
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Hey hun, I'm going to be completely honest with you. You need to talk to him about this because it could grow into a major problem. It's okay for you to be jealous because it's really not fair what he's doing to you. He's YOUR boyfriend, not this other girl's therefore he shouldn't be trying to bring her along as his date. If I were you, I would let him go to test his trust. Tell him he can go with her but only as friends. If it turns into anything more when he gets back, tell him he's going to have to make a decisian because it's not fair for you to have to deal with this. Tell him how much he means to you (guys like to feel needed & loved), & that you really don't want to loose him but if he would preffer to be with her then so be it. Once you say that, he'll think about it & realize he only sees her during camp & that you're the #1 girl in his life. Good luck! ♥
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