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best friends?
my bff (i will call her jane) & i have been bff for a while now. i like her (obviously) but sometimes she acts so insecure...like she wants to be friends with these other girls who obvioulsy aren't that nterested with her. sometimes when i am with her & feel bad, because she seems so focused on being frineds with them that i feel like she doesn't want to be hanging out with me. i know she likes me, but every once in a while she will do something on an important day (like dances, new years eve) & if i ask her if she wants to do something she will be like "no i can't, i am doing something with _____" and she won't even offer to have me come, which is something i always dowith my friends (unless they hate each other, which almost none do, they all get along). it makes me feel bad, but i also know that jane DOESN'T have that many friends, so i feel like she does it to sort of show off that she's doing something. ahould i say anything, i mean its not that serious & it only happens once in a while, but i feel sort of unwanted. we like never fight though, so i don't want to start anything!
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I've been in this situation before. If this continues to happen and things start getting worse, then you have to talk to her about it. Or else you'll just keep feeling unwanted and eventually you'll start feeling sad. If your friend ends up freaking out on you and doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, then that just means she wasn't a good friend to begin with. I hope this helps. Good luck!
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i wouldn't approach her directly, but i would definately make an effort to show her how much you care and how much you think of her as a friend. maybe she will realize that those other "friends" can't compare to you.
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Tell her exactly what you just told a bunch of people on the internet. If she doesn't snap out of it, then there's nothing you can do. Tell her to stop being insecure and point out to her all her good qualities and how she doesn't have to change for anyone or pretend to have other friends. Tell her you like her for who she is and that if she really doesn't want to be friends with you she can tell you. Just dont be mean to her or inconsiderate - you seem like a genuine person to me. Good luck with it all.
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Hey,
I'm so sorry. My friend kinda answered your question. Now here's a way you could work the problem out. I think maybe you should tell her that it it doesn't matter if you're friends with thos people that you want to be friends with. All that matters is that you do have friends that do care about you and love you as a person. Tell her not to worry about who she's not friends with. Tell her to just think about the friends she already has. Also, tell her how you feel whenever you ask her over and she says stuff like "No, I can't" and how much you miss how it use to be.
Good Luck,
Adivcegodesses2
P.S.I hope my advice helps your situation. Please write me back and tell me how it went.
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That's exactly what happens with me! Dont follow her and try to be friends with her for a little bit because thats what might annoy her. Give her a little space. Try to hang out with the people she's hanging out with or just make some new friends. If you see her say hi or something then she'll know you still like her. After a few weeks say OMg we have hung out for like ever! Maybe we can get together anytime these couple of weeks. See how things go and if she still acts like this talk to her and dont be afraid to fight because your just standing up for yourself. Hope I helped!
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