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i hav a friend who is like my best friend and ive known for like 4 yrs but just this yr she moved to laval and changed schools, i thought i would never be replaced and she even told me that i wopuld never be replaced, but just yesterday i was talkin to her on aol and she added a friend from her school and she was acting totally different and telling me sbout how everyone there is soooo open and funny, and she had all these inside jokes and stuff and when she left the convo she said nice talkin to me, but she told her friend sum inside joke and started laughin away. And shes always telling me about how she went out with all these ppl at her school. Im starting to feel super left out. (and she didnt lie about any of this)
-feeling left out (female, 13)
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Aww, I feel you. :(, no seriously, I really think you shouldn't feel so lonely and stuff - because look, as people get older and have to go different ways, they change and have to adapt to their new setting - its only natural that she's sort of building a new life for herself. I'm not telling you to stop being friends with her, but maybe, know that its not like before and find someone else, she'll appreciate it...trust me on that. If she doesn't, point out to her that you feel left out. Make other friends, but still be her friend. Just get closer to the people in your own area.
You cant blame her for making other friends and changing a little - it comes with moving to a new place. Good luck with everything =).
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The same thing happened to me when i moved from private to public schools. I was so sure nothing could ever come inbetween my best friend and me. But we started fighting and things just got different between us. You have to remember that people change and move on whether they realize it or not. They make new friends and you will too. I'm not saying to just totally forget about her but she has to live her life and you have to live yours. It's also really hard because you two are at different schools so you don't see each other on a regular basis and from experience, that in itself really hurts friendships. Just see how things turn out and go with it. Your friendship might grow worse or get stronger. Just hope for the best and it'll work out. Hope i helped!!!
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Don't feel left out because she did move, but that doesn't mean that she isn't the same at all. Sometimes when people move they do act different, talk different ect. but if you talk to her about it maybe you can help her understand how you feel. Maybe she'll take it to heart and actually try to stop doing it.
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well wat i think you should try to make a new friend just like she did so you wont feel left out i had to change schools to and i made lots of friends i waz scared to but i well never forget my best friend so as long as you dont for get her you will be ok so try to mak a new best friend but never forget your #1 best friend she will always be in your heart. good luck
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I know how it feels. I've moved away from my old schools a lot, and I've had friends move away. You always say you'll never lose touch, but one of you gradually grows apart, and usually the friendship doesn't last. Its sad, I know, but its something that happens.
There's not much you can do about it. If you guys are that good of friends, try telling her how you feel, she should understand and try to make you feel better. If she thinks you're overreacting, she's not being a very good friend.
Sorry I couldn't help more. Good luck! ♥
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