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okay so im 15/f and i like this guy alot. i think i might actually love him too. hes 14/m, a few months younger than me. but my one friend things im nuts! i mean her perfect dream guy is taller and older than her. While i seemed to always like younger guys.. (not too young though) But i mean shes just like "well are you sure you like him? i mean its okay if you though he was cute but liking him?" and i think its just so frustraighting! and i know i shouldnt care what she thinks about him but i mean... it would be nice to just have her be like more supportive about it. what do you say?? and i'm so sorry this is so long.. ill rate

You need to just straight out tell her that everyone has different opinions, and you happen to like the guy. Is it a crime? Is it going to kill her if YOU like a guy? I think not. I would even go so far as to telling her to stop being a drama queen. Trust me, if you stand up to her she'll respect you for that, although she may look like she's hurt or mad, she'll get over it. Just like who you want to like and don't let people like that get to you. They're not worth your time.

Does anyone have any quotes about life or inspirational or optimism that they wouldn't mind giving? Thanks ahead of time!

Well, here's my favorite (Its a love quote, but eh...)

"If I had a star for everytime you made me smile, I'd have the whole night sky in the palm of my hand."

That's all I can think of right now. ^_^

(Sorry this is so long)

I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. Like...ever since school started. I was doing this psychic board thing (Kinda like an oija board) and usually I never believe those things, but it kept insisting that he liked me, too.

So I kinda went along with it still not believing it, and kinda watched what he did around me. I started talking to him online and he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say and won't talk a lot. In school, he looks at me and stretches in the middle of class and he'll accidently touch my leg or my desk or something and pull back his hand, blush, and say: "Oh, I'm sorry." And I always laugh at my jokes, because if I don't he'll look back at me and then kinda bow his head.

Anyways, my friend has had a crush on the guy since she was in Preschool. She's in 8th grade with me now. She's really jealous because I keep telling her I think he likes me, and finally she told me how much she likes him, and how they used to be best friends but then he became popular and they grew apart.

So whenever I talk about him she gets really jealous and hurt and yells at me to stop talking. I'm afraid if I go out with the guy she'll have a nervous breakdown, or be afraid to hang out with me anymore.

So my two questions:
1. Do you think this guy likes me? If so, should I ask him out?
2. Do you think if he does like me, SHOULD I ask him out? Or should I be considerate of my friend? Because she said she's never going to actually ask him out, 'cause she knows he would say no, but she doesn't want me going out with him.

What should I do?

Thanks!!! ♥

I rate HIGH!

Um...is there anyway to bump this up so I can get more answers?

This is going to be long... BEAR WITH ME!

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we are very much in love. Just like any other couple, we have our fights and our ups and downs.

A few weeks ago, at my homecoming dance a friend of mine was driving me and a large group of my friends back to a girls house for a sleepover. (Don't worry, there were no guys sleeping over) In the front seat there was a guy sitting there from another school. He used to go to my highschool but was transfered out, not sure why though. Anyway, we were tall talking in the car, and I said something and the kid in the front seat turned around and turned on the light and said "I want to get a good look at you". We were talking about random things for about 20 minutes then we got to the girls house I was staying over at, and I left.

A few days later, he added me as his friend on myspace, then we started talking alot online. We realized we had SO much in common. We like the same foods, have the same aspirations, he lives RIGHT next door to my aunt, alot of the same beliefs... About after a week or two of talking online he said to me "I'm so in love with you". I figured he meant the kind of I love you that you'd say to your close friends. And I was said "Yeah, I'm sure". He said "No, I really do. You're the most amazing girl I've ever met. I talk to you more than other girls. You're beautiful, sweet.. Everything I could ever hope for in a girl". He does know that I have a boyfriend and that we've been together for a while and that we love eachother. He says he doesn't want to get in the way of our relationship.. But he is.

I've found my self slowly but surely falling for this guy, and it sucks. But I've noticed a few things about him.. Everything he says doesn't seem sincere. He tells me how much he likes me yadda yadda yadda... But then he goes and says the same thing to other girls. So, at this point I'm thinking to myself that I'm just another girl to him.. Nothing special. I'm trying to not think about him because I DO love my boyfriend dearly.. But I keep thinking about this boy. And I hate it.

I need help to stop thinking about him.. I don't want to stop talking to him completely because he's really nice and a great person to talk to. I'm so confused... What do I do? I'm not about to ruine my year and a half relationship for something I don't know is going to even last... I'm tired of taking chances.

Eek. That is quite a pickle.

What I would do is tell him straight out that you still love your boyfriend, and although you think he's a great guy, you just don't like him like that, (so its a little white lie, it won't matter) and after you do that you'll probably feel a lot better.

He'll probably be sad but don't blame yourself. He should've waited a lot later while you were single, or something. And just try and get even closer with your boyfriend and you'll probably forget you ever liked this other guy.

Not really sure what else to say. Good luck! ♥

What would you do if you hated life but then all of a sudden your "friends" decided to hate you. ALL OF THEM?

Obviously they're not good friends. What I would suggest is asking them why they suddenly decided to just hate you so much, and if they say a stupid reason, just find new friends, because they're not going to be worth it. Real friends love you no matter what.

I really like someone and I want him to like me back. We are already friends. He always is so sweet and chivalris(sp?) and I love being around him. I want him to ask me out so bad but I dont know how to make him like me like me!!! HELP PLEASE!!

I rate high!

Well, the main problem with this is that you can't MAKE someone like you. They have to like you for you...if you make them like you or bribe them into going out with you or because they feel bad since you like them so much, usually it just turns out bad...do you really want to go out with someone whos just dating you because you made them? Or because you lied and made them think you're something you're not?

This is something I tell everyone, though: Guys do NOT ask out girls. (Well, it depends on what grade you're in. Like, if you're in Middle School they usually wait for the girl to ask them).

I say take a chance and ask him, if you think he likes you. The worst he can say is no. If he does, just go on with your life. I'm sure you'll find someone else you like. ^_^

Good luck. ♥

Ok well i go to school with a bunch of people i have alot of rich friends and stuff and im not trying to be stuck up or any thing but i am one of the poplular girls and i have all of a sudden gained a ton of wieght i am in 7th grade im 13 i am 5'1 and i wieght 114!!! and i dont really look fat people say but im not conftable with my size all my friends are really thin! not like anrexic thin but skinny u know and i really need some tips to tone up my stomach and thighs im mean id do any thing i mean i try not to eat much but i allways do!! every time i eat i feel like a failure!
please help

Oooh no. Do NOT feel like a failure, hun. That's the first step to Anerexia or Boliemia.

What you need to do is just work out. Maybe run a few laps everyday after school. The sudden weight gain may just be your imagination, or it may be because of stress about school, family issues, etc...just don't go into a eating disorder. Those are the WORST.

Just try to exercise and get fresh air. It'll help you in the long run for more than just weight. =)

Good luck, hun.

ok well i went out with this guy for almost 8 months and then we broke up and went out again but my parents really dont like him and everytime i wanted to do something with him i had to lie and i got sick of it so i dumped him. Now he keeps telling me im a pussy for not wanting to get in trouble, he says he can't be my friend either because he can't have friends that are pussys (come on how immature) and hes just being a really big dick about it! my question is should i just 4get about him or try to talk to him so we can at least stay friends? Thanks in advance!

If he's calling you a pussy for breaking up, he's just:

1. Jealous.
2. Angry.
3. Immature.
4. Stupid.

If he has the nerve to call you a pussy for something like that, (even though breaking up is a big thing) and he has no sympathy, he's not worth your time. He just wants your attention, and I really don't think you want to get sucked into going out with him again, right? I say just forget about him.

But if he DOES try to talk to you, or be your friend, just act friendly but try not to hang out with him, that way eventually he'll just move on.

okay i need help. there's this guy and i reallllyy like him. he's perfect, awesome personality, beautiful eyes, funny, gorgeous smile/dimples.. what more can you ask for? but anyways, we've known each other for like 1 1/2 months, and we text and call everry night. but then when we see each other at school we barely talk?! when we're on the phone we can carry on a convo. forever. do yall think he likes me? cause i wanna go out with him. but i don't know if he likes me and i don't wanna ask him b/c i'm scared to know his reaction. so what are some ways for him to liikee me? i've never really felt this wayy for a guy before. please help. i rate=) thxx!

Well, right off the bat it sounds like he might have a crush on you. What YOU need to do is attempt to talk to him like you would on the phone at school. Nobody will care, and he'll probably enjoy the conversation. It makes guys feel more confident in a girl when they can start a conversation, even though they usually can't themselves (hehe!).

As for asking him out, I think you really should. Even if its over IM or text, or through a friend, its worth a shot. My biggest fear is rejection too, but you know what?

Guys HATE asking girls out! They always expect the girls to. So HE might be waiting for YOU to ask him, you never know. And the worst thing he can say is "No", and all you have to do is be like, "okay, cool. friends it is, then." and just go on with your lives!

Hope I helped! ♥

Hey im being a playboy bunny for halloween with a bunch of my girls... and i was wondering where i should get a bunch of stuff and what i should use.. i either want to be a pink or black one and how to wear my hair/ makeup .. i was thinking a corsette thing and pink booty shorts and high heels and white fishnets or tights well tell me what you guys think!

Do you have a Halloween Express near you? Or a costume shop?

At the mall they usually have Halloween shops, and if you look really hard you can find cheap stuff. And I've seen like millions of Playboy Bunny costumes, it shouldn't be hard. Just get out there and look around.

But what you are thinking of wearing sounds like a good idea! It sounds like a real playboy bunny.

Hope you find what you're looking for! ♥

okay.. me and my ex b/f(eric) broke up a month ago.. and i have a new b/f(rj) now.. and he has a new g/f(rachel).. me and eric were going out for 3 years till we broke up.. so of course, im not quite over him.. i dunno what to do.. i tried talking to eric.. but it just aint working..he doesnt even wanna be my friend.. and im just going through a really rough time right now.. and imm always depressed.. can you give me some advice on how to get over him.. thanks

OMG, I had the same exact problem as you when I first broke up with my ex. Its been almost a year and I'm still not fully over him, (Like, I get jealous and stuff when he is with other girls).

Its really natural. It was REALLY hard for me at first. You'll probably experience withdrawls, lol. Sad but true. I didn't know if I was going to get through with it. The best thing to do is to just wait it out, go out with other people, and whatnot. You WILL get over him, trust me. You'll probably realize that he wasn't even good enough for you, anyways. And remember, usually people break up a lot so its not like you're weird or anything, its just you weren't meant to be.

Another good thing is having your friends help you through it. Friends are the best antidote for heartbreak!

yea okay were doing this dead person project. and we have to make tombstones. anyway. it has to be like a foot tall. and i don't know what to make it out of? and it has to be 3D and be able to stand..please helpp asap!!

Here's a few ideas:

-Cardboard (and paint it)
-Plastic (and paint it)
-Marble (and paint it)
-Styrofoam (and paint it)

And to make it stand, put a cardboard prop on the back of it to make it stand. You know, like how some of those cardboard posters have on the back of it?

Hope I helped! ♥

ok im 13, about 145 pounds and im 5'7"
im not fat but i want a flatter stomach
what can help to make my stomach flatter FAST!?

I hear sit-ups and leg lifts are really good for making a flat stomach.

I Want to make a picture collage in like paint. how would i do that ?

Well we did this in Art, so I'll try and help you if this is what you mean.

Go to google and look up everything you like, copy the picture and paste it in paint. Make a background of any colour you want that'll look good, or keep it white. Overlap the pictures and fill up the whole page, and then print it out in colour.

But really it doesn't look that great. Personally, I like to cut pictures out of magazines and put them on a paper thats big enough to fit in a skinny yet long frame and hang it on the back of my door.

It also works good with pictures of your friends, family, pets, etc...just cut them into tiny pieces and overlap them.

Hope I helped! ♥

so me and my boyfriend were goign out for 11 months and then broke up for the summer even tho we were sitll like in love wiht eachother jsut so we could do our own thing for the summer. he liked me all summer n didnt do anythign wiht any other girls bc of that reason and same for me. Now we are going back out and i wanna do something really special for him or just like cute not like dinner or anything like something i can do besdies that bc tahts boring. please help!

I use Proactive. It has helped me, and I've been using it for 2 years. It works pretty much instantly, but the zits still come and go as they please. If you're anywhere near my age (13) then it won't clean them completely up, because you're at your high-point for puberty so you can't expect them all to go away, but it works better than anything else I've tried. =)

ok today I came home from school because my back hurt SO bad. I can't bend it and if I use ice, it doesn't do anything. If I use heat, it makes it worse. I don't have my period right now so it's not cramps, and I didn't do anything active to cause an injury. I took 2 Ibeprofin (sp) and it wore off within 3/4 hours. Can anyone tell me what this may be and how to make it feel better? Iwanna smash my head against the wall it hurts so bad!

All I can say is, have you been doing any vigorus activities? You might have strained/pulled a muscle. Yes, Ibuprophen usually wears off 3-4 hours. I would just try staying off it for a few days, getting a lot of rest, and if it still persists GO TO A DOCTOR!

Good luck!

I'm 13/f and i have strech markd on my thieghs and weigh 113 lbs so am i fat and if so what are some tips to get trim.

It depends on how tall you are. For instance, I'm 13 and weigh 125 lbs, but I'm 5'8'' and I'm one of the skinniest girls in my class.

So it just depends. But, if you're worried about it, don't be. Some people have stretch marks from when their babies, and its just natural. Other people just have them because they have growth spurts too fast (i.e. in tallness, not fatness) and I have a few too. Its just 'cause I had a major growth spurt and my body wasn't "ready" and couldn't catch up in time.

I really wouldn't be worried about it, hun!

okay so i have gone out with my ex for 6 months and its been a year and im still not over him.. i have tried to get over him but its so hard and i really need to get over him because its just so hard for me to see him with other girls, i have tried to be with some guys but my ex is always on my mind and it just wont work.. please help

I just recently got over my ex, and we only went out for 2 weeks last year at the beginning of the year. It takes a while. But eventually the pain will go away. I know its hard. The best advice I can give you is just forget about him, and move on. That's really all you can do. =(

I am in no way fat...i just have very muscular legs. I really would like to be able to wear skirts that look good, but everything just seems to make my legs look bigger. Anyone know of a certain cut/style of a jean skirt that can be hot and flirty but make my legs look slimer?

I really don't think there are skirts that can actually make your legs look skinnier, but maybe you could try wearing long-ish ones that actually look really cute/flirty/hot that are still really stylish and cover up most of your legs. Just a thought. Sorry I couldn't help much!

Good luck. ♥

hey im 13/m, i know this is a basic question... but whats sum good ideas for a halloween costume?

i rate 5's for good answers

If you wanna do something original, think of an outfit that's easy to put together using regular clothes you could find at stores.

Example: I'm being a baby. Buying footy pajama's, putting my hair in pig tails, buying a pacifier & bottle, putting a blanket over my shoulder, and carrying a bear.

That's something that's pretty original and won't cost much and you can make it yourself.

Maybe be...well, like, is there any TV shows you like? You could dress up like a TV character, like Peter Griffin from Family Guy, lol.

I dunno, just think about what I said. Its hard for me to suggest guy costumes.

Good luck! ♥

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