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I'm in quite a pickle.
This is going to be long... BEAR WITH ME!
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we are very much in love. Just like any other couple, we have our fights and our ups and downs.
A few weeks ago, at my homecoming dance a friend of mine was driving me and a large group of my friends back to a girls house for a sleepover. (Don't worry, there were no guys sleeping over) In the front seat there was a guy sitting there from another school. He used to go to my highschool but was transfered out, not sure why though. Anyway, we were tall talking in the car, and I said something and the kid in the front seat turned around and turned on the light and said "I want to get a good look at you". We were talking about random things for about 20 minutes then we got to the girls house I was staying over at, and I left.
A few days later, he added me as his friend on myspace, then we started talking alot online. We realized we had SO much in common. We like the same foods, have the same aspirations, he lives RIGHT next door to my aunt, alot of the same beliefs... About after a week or two of talking online he said to me "I'm so in love with you". I figured he meant the kind of I love you that you'd say to your close friends. And I was said "Yeah, I'm sure". He said "No, I really do. You're the most amazing girl I've ever met. I talk to you more than other girls. You're beautiful, sweet.. Everything I could ever hope for in a girl". He does know that I have a boyfriend and that we've been together for a while and that we love eachother. He says he doesn't want to get in the way of our relationship.. But he is.
I've found my self slowly but surely falling for this guy, and it sucks. But I've noticed a few things about him.. Everything he says doesn't seem sincere. He tells me how much he likes me yadda yadda yadda... But then he goes and says the same thing to other girls. So, at this point I'm thinking to myself that I'm just another girl to him.. Nothing special. I'm trying to not think about him because I DO love my boyfriend dearly.. But I keep thinking about this boy. And I hate it.
I need help to stop thinking about him.. I don't want to stop talking to him completely because he's really nice and a great person to talk to. I'm so confused... What do I do? I'm not about to ruine my year and a half relationship for something I don't know is going to even last... I'm tired of taking chances.
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Its hard when you love someone, but are also interested/attracted to someone else at the same time. An easy answer would be not to talk/IM with the new guy anymore. But of course its easier said than done.
Focus on your boyfriend. Do something just the two of you this weekend. Have fun and talk and remember why you are with him in the first place. This other guy, while yeah, he probably does have feelings for you and in some way you do for him as well... are you willing to risk it all for someone you think is saying the same thing to other girls? Even worse, could this be some kind of game for him?
Before you do something you regret, remember what you have already.
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i think he likes you not loves you because you say he says this to other girls too. definetly dont ruin it wit your boyfriend, youve been togethor for a long time. its not worth it to ruin it with your boyfriend. well for this other guy tell him that you like him as a friend but you dont feel the same way about him. tell him that you love your boyfriend and im not going to give it up for some fake love that i know wont last long. hope i helped and good luck!!! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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Do not, I repeat, Do not go for this guy. Beleive me, you will appreciate and cherish what you have now once you go for the other guy. I've been there and don that and have found out that the grass is never greener on the other side. stick with your boyfriend. you'll thank me for it.
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don't let this guy ruin your relationship. your bf likes you for you & this guy obviously said to a whole bunch of girls unlike your bf. you don't have to ignore him completely, but try staying on a juss friends basis & talk about friend stuff. it'll make your bf happier & since you guys have been dating for more than a week, it'll probably last you know?? juss try to talk to him in a friendly way & not let him get the wrong idea.
-hope that helped!♥
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Eek. That is quite a pickle.
What I would do is tell him straight out that you still love your boyfriend, and although you think he's a great guy, you just don't like him like that, (so its a little white lie, it won't matter) and after you do that you'll probably feel a lot better.
He'll probably be sad but don't blame yourself. He should've waited a lot later while you were single, or something. And just try and get even closer with your boyfriend and you'll probably forget you ever liked this other guy.
Not really sure what else to say. Good luck! ♥
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