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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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If he is obviously still in love with his ex then you know what you must do. The fact is the the ex is not coming back so.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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If it bothers you that much I would confront them and cordially state that you don't like it, but that they're free to do what they want. Maybe explain to them why it bothers you and the example they're setting for young impressionable children. Direct approach is always the most effective. Good luck.
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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I would suggest that you check out this video is called zeitgeist the movie, is on you tube. It helped me make my decision.
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Many red flags here, you need to, first of all, talk to your parents! They need to know whats going on in your life, they should be your first line of defense.
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Lately I've been trying to find out who I am. I feel like I can never settle on one thing. I'm a sixteen year old female, and I'm having trouble finding out who the 'real' me is. There are days I feel emo, and only want black, and there are days I feel totally with the world and want to wear white with flowers in my hair, and there are days I go wild and try to look sexy, and there are days I feel like a tomboy and can't even stand to look at pink, and there are days I feel girly and want to do my hair up and put on something cute and girly. I'm having trouble finding out who I am. I tried taking a personality test online, but basically the answer is yes and no to all of them. Since that's clearly out of the question, how do I find out what it is that I really like, and who the real me is? I'm sure many would call these 'teenage phases' but I don't know what it is I like and can't decide on anything. Any ideas?
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Embrace it all, you don't have to be defined! I sometimes would like to dress as a Spartan soldier all day, but I think that's embracing it to much : )
Have you seen United States of Tara?
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hey, lately ive been have a lot of drainage. like too much if you ask me. ive already started my period a long time ago, so thats not why ive been having a lot. like its to the point where i can feel it coming out of my vagina area and like i have to change thongs frequently. does anyone know why this is happening?
-caitt♥ (link)
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Well hun, it sounds like you should get that checked out. Its an amusing choice of words though: "drainage". I'd recommend that u visit you drainologist (just kidding, ur doctor). ASAP.
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There is this boy who really likes me and I did like him...we were a 'thing' for about 2 weeks and then I realised he's too serious about it and I'm too young and stuff. He still likes me but I don't! I told him that we're better off friends and seriously that's a good thing right now.
How do I get him to get the clue again?????????? (link)
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Make sure you are clear about it. There shouldnt be a clue babe. There shouldnt be a clue. Women always think that we men are smart enough to figure out a subtle rejection or even not one so subtle. BUt the truth is that we like you already, and we are gonna either deny the rejection, or keep trying (is our nature). If you really want him out of your face, you have to be very clear. Tell him the truth, you dont like him. Dont say something like "I dont wanna bf right now" thats the classic. To men that means "if I keep trying, she might want a bf later. Obviously u dont want anything to do with him, so say it. Be honest even if you hurt him a bit. He'll get rejected probably a thousand times in his lifetime, is something he must get used to anyway...all of us guys have to.
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Hello, I'm 5'3 and 160 pounds. I recently went to the doctor (last Thursday) and he noted to me that I need to lose 20+ pounds.
Now since last Thursday I have lost 5lbs. Well now I'm wondering if I hurting or depriving my body of the correct foods.
For lunch I'll have a Slim Fast drink (200 calories) and that is usually around 2. I wouldn't eat anything again until 6:30 which is usually dinner. And my dinner is usually 600-800 calories.
But here is the thing in between that I work out for 45 mins to an hour. Which when I do it I do 100 cruches,200 arm exercises with weights, and bike ride for 40 mins.
Does it seem like I'm doing to much?
Thank you to anyone in advance! (link)
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Are you kidding me. I weight a whole 135 pounds of muscle (just kidding, but lets say Im very fit) and I still think its not enough. You are on the right track babe, dont let anyone tell you otherwise. The fact that you have decided to change and are so disciplined to do it, is just admirable. Its very hard for people to get that kind of discipline, believe me I know. I used to be a wrestler in high school. Once you start "seeing" the results, you'll be glad you decided to make a change. I promise.
William
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My 11 year old brother confided in me that he likes to look at naked men. ohhh boy--that is just something that I'd rather not know! but he feels comfortable talking to me about it (i don't though..lol) he will not tell my parents. he is DEEPLY religious. and he knows the catholics frown upon gays. but yeah, he tells me that he likes flipping through magazines and ENJOYS looking at naked men...this creeps me out a little. he was freaking out last night asking me what i thought--and i told him that he's not gay (idk if he is though..but i just said that to make him feel better or else he would have a SPAZ if i told him i thought he was. like i said, he is DEEPLY religious.) --and i also told him that maybe he was just curious..idkkk he doesn't know. but i feel VERY uncomfortable talking to him about thsi but there's no one else he can talk to. he asks me stuff about sex too and i don't know how to answer him. can anyone help me? thannnnnnks :) (link)
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Your brother is only 11 years old. unless he was born gay, there is nothing bilogical about this, its all psychological. There could be numerous factors that would make your brother think that way about men. He is a male himself and he is not genetically designed to like men. I would suggest now that he is open with you, to try to dig in a little more about what is making him think this way. I would be willing to bet that there is an outside source influencing him. Manytimes those types of feelings are caused by sexual abuse, more than likely by another man. I would try to reasure him and try to get him to talk to you more about what is making him feel this way. Dont come out and ask bluntly. I think you will find out a bit more about where he is getting this "mindset" from. Talk to him, he probably needs you the most right now!
William
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Okay so I'm a girl and i'm 14. I like this guy he's 14 as well. He's been flirting with me alot, he thinks i'm gorgeous, hot, he says noone can resist me and such. A friend of mine asked him if he was gonna ask me out cuz he was going to a while ago but he had a girlfriend. He said that I'm a cool girl and he wants to but he's afraid cuz of how his relationships have beeng going. So, I want to ask him out. The problem is that one of my best friends likes him too. It feels like if I ask him it'll be betraying her. But if he asks me it'd be different since i didn't pursue it even though I knew she liked him. Plus, she's laid back and i'm sure she wouldn't really mind if this guy and i go out.
My question is: Should I ask him out? Or wait for him? (link)
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Sweetie, this guy you are talking about is his own person. You and your best friend should not treat him like property; I think that if you like him and he likes you, there is no reason why you should not pursue the relationship. You'll realize this once you get a little older. Its a little sad that your friend likes him too, its great that you had a concern about your friend, but neither of you can decide who he goes out with. If you ask me, I think the guy is fair game. I wish I had two hotties fighting over me. lol
I hope I helped.
William
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I've been on birth control now for about a year. My boyfriend and I just recently had unprotected sex, without pulling out. I'm pretty good with taking my pill every night around the same time but there were two times during this cycle that I had ended up taking it the next day, including that night we had sex. I'm on the placebo pills right now and still no period. Could I be pregnant? (link)
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Don't take the placebo pills as an indication of pregnancy. Your period should come pretty regular, if it doent Sometimes "you" could just be late. There is an alternative called plan B, but u have to take it within 72 hours of intercourse. If you are, then good luck with your child. If you are not, than still good luck.
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ok so i just started going out w/ this guy but i REALLY like him and we talk every night unti like 2 in the morning on the phone. so i always have the urge to say i love you... but i know htat i don't. but i don't want to say "I like you" because that doesn't sound quite right and he already knows that. what is an alternative to saying " i love you" to someone you REALLY like but don't exactly love yet. cuz i still want to mean what i say. (link)
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Babe,
You just started going out with this guy. If you don't love him, than dont say it! And if you do love him, then he's going to think youre psycho since you guys just started dating. I was with a girl for a while, and jokingly one night after talking for some odd 4 long hours, As I was saying bye,I said "I care about you." There is nothing wrong with CARING, right? "I care about you" doesnt carry all the weight and history an "I love you" does. You are just letting him know that you are developing feelings for him, not that you are crazyly obsessed. I would tell him "I care about you" when saying "good bye." Also, after telling my girl that, she started saying it back, next thing you know SHE confessed her love for me.
Good luck.
William
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ive kissed/made out before, but when frenching, it says you have to swallow because spit builds up.
so like how do you swallow, because when you swallow you normally have to close your mouth, right? (link)
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Spit will build up, but it doesnt necessarily mean that you have to concentrate on swallowing, you'll make it awkward on both of you. Just don't even think about it, go with it. How many people do you think were coached on how to french kiss? Not many. Do watever feels good, thats the right answer. The swallowing its an instinctionary function like blinking, trying to control it its only gonna make things more difficutlt. Good luck.
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im 16f and all my friends go out with lads...but i seem the only one not 2...i havent had my first kiss yet and that makes me feel more down and like that no one would ever want me (yes i no its sounds stupid but thats how i feel) i talk to lads but they dont seem interested or anyone who does like me are ugly and i dont like them or there too young...
is there a way too make lads like me or talk to me more often so they start to like me ?
(sorry if its confusing) xox (link)
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Bleieve me hun, lads are intereseted (thats their purpose in life as mammals). You could try being more outgoing. Guys don't expect a girl to just come and talk to them, they usually expect to make the effort themselves; so think about how much a guy would appreciate it if we didn't have to go through that social obstacle. Also, dont be shallow. Try to find something you like in some of those not-so-desirable lads. Give them a fair chance, you're not likely gonna find the lad with looks, humor, and money, so you gotta make some sacrifices. Good luck.
PS: Dressing slutty works too (last resort).
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Okay, theres this guy, that i talk to on myspace, and we go to school togeather, and i talk to him there to.
ANYWAY, whenever we talk, we always end up "fighting" but its SOOOO fun to fight with him, and i just love annoying him, and he's the same way with me.
My friends say that this is flirting, but i dont see how it is. Cause were just pretty much arguing...
Anyway, I really like him, and i'm not so sure if he likes me, but he can be a real jerk.
So, the quistion is, should i go after him, even though he seems to only like to use me to argue with?
~Melissa~ (link)
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Sweetie, dont kid yourself. Its not "just pretty much arguing." You said it yourself, you like this guy. Have you thought that maybe this is the one thing right now that you have in common with this guy? and that you might just be capitalizing on it? To me, it seems thats the only thing you two have in common (the arguing). So, instead of arguing. Why not ask him about his day? What does he like? Favorite food? etc. It seems that you guys are just struggling to get eachother's attention, and I would bet that he likes you too, hence he continues with the flirting, I mean arguing. lol. You could come out two ways out of this, annoyed or with a new boyfriend. Its up to you.
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I am way too vain. I worry all the time about whether I'm pretty or not. It's ridiculous, and I know it. How do I stop worrying about the way I look so much? (link)
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Babe, you are beautiful until proven otherwise, and the only way to show that you are not is through your character. If you are an asshole you will look ugly to people, if your are nice people will see the better qualities in you and therefore have a somewhat of a biased on your looks.
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When I go back to school I want to be changed. I have good looks, but I have very low self esteem. My last year has been very rough dealing with my friends starting drugs, sucky boyfriends, and just family/money problems.
I want to come back this year with confidence and a happier personality. I don't have alot of friends because we've all just gone our own way. How can I reevaluate myself and be proud of what I have, and act and be more fun to be around? Thanks. (link)
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The trick here is, you are in control. You have the power to portray yourself in any light you want. If your looking to make get in with the crowd here are a few tips:
Be outgoing, talk to people. You go to them, they dont come to you. If your always expecting people to seek you out, you are gonna end up alone. the same thing that is going through your head, goes through everyone's head at some point. I know I had the same concern. If you are a girl, of course flaunting your stuff and dressing "nice" would help you out. Talk to guys, they wont' expect it and they'll actually feel honored. Think about it, guys normally approach girls, you could really set things going if you were the aggressor. Good luck.
PS: think about the things that make you great.
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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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Sweetheart, you need to dump him as fast as you can. Have some common sense. He obviously didnt love you enough to not cheat on you, nor did he love you enough to tell you the first time he did it. There is a big breach of trust there now, and having a third party involved is most certainly not going to help any of you. I know you love him, but you just have to let go, unless of course your "like that."
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Does anyone here know anywhere in the state in RI that I could (being a 14/f) get a job with one of the following?:
- writing for a teen magazine
- a small modeling show
- babysitting
websites and specifics would be great =)
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lol hahaha
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This question is for people in the older age groups of this site, or at least, the more experienced people.
What makes someone good in bed, specifically, a woman? I know a lot of it is personal preference, but I'm sure there are at least a few answers to this question other than "personal preference." Anyway, thanks. (link)
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Well. As long as you rate this advice...j/k
Here it is:
Start with foreplay. By the way Massages often lead to sex. He'll let you know when enough is enough. Or we also love it when you girls just jump us. take the lead.
Kissing, you gotta kiss your man everywhere. Try it along all the way down and up his spine. Also, nipples. Make sure you pay some attention to those. Lick or kiss his groin and testicles before you suck him. (We love that) Once you start sucking him act like you have been starving for a week. Dont be rough though. I guess the word Im looking for is passionate. Act like you suck it for your pleasure not his. During sex try this. make him sit up and spread his legs a bit; also have him bend them about 45 degrees. face away from him. insert your legs (usually from the knee down between his where the 45 degrees are made on both legs. lock. sit back, bounce, rock, back and enjoy the ride.
no thanks necessary.
~Will
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