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brother is gay?!
My 11 year old brother confided in me that he likes to look at naked men. ohhh boy--that is just something that I'd rather not know! but he feels comfortable talking to me about it (i don't though..lol) he will not tell my parents. he is DEEPLY religious. and he knows the catholics frown upon gays. but yeah, he tells me that he likes flipping through magazines and ENJOYS looking at naked men...this creeps me out a little. he was freaking out last night asking me what i thought--and i told him that he's not gay (idk if he is though..but i just said that to make him feel better or else he would have a SPAZ if i told him i thought he was. like i said, he is DEEPLY religious.) --and i also told him that maybe he was just curious..idkkk he doesn't know. but i feel VERY uncomfortable talking to him about thsi but there's no one else he can talk to. he asks me stuff about sex too and i don't know how to answer him. can anyone help me? thannnnnnks :)
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That is some situation you have on your hands (lol)! Since he is only 11, it would be a high possibility that he is just curious. If he seems gay, then talk to him. Even though Catholics are stern about that just tell him that it is not his choice to like girls. They can't automatically call a gay sinful just because their relationships or interests are not the same as theirs because they are holy or something. Talk to him about that.
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your brother is still at a young age and he's probably just curious. he might be gay or he might not be gay. he's coming to you because he can trust you and doesn't think that you will make fun of him. i dont think you should tell your parents because they might freak out and try to control your brother. let your brother know that you feel uncomfortable talking to him about this and see if he could try to talk to someone else like another family member or school counselor. also let him know that your going to suuport him through this time because he's going to be very confused and he doesn't know what to do. well hope i helped!
-manda
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ohhhhhh boy, because he's looking at magizines he's probably just curious. but also that might not be the bottom of it. i understand why this would creep you out but i think you should still talk to your brother. if the one person who he trusts cuts him short he may become really depressed and feel like he dosnt belong and could run away or commit sucide or somthing. you should tell him that he's not a freak and is perfectly normal and that he's god is not against him and god loves him. you should tell him he can talk to you about anything but that it's kinda Uncomfortable for you
hope i helped
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If he's asking--he's not. Gays are attracted sexually, physically, emotionally, and psycholocially to the same sex alone. Heteros are the same only to the opposite sex. It is perfectly normal to be attracted to both sexes. Many males and females experiment sexually in their youth with the same sex but are not gay and as they mature will become comfortable with their sexuality. I know many people that in their youth are not comfortable with that. Do not rely on the judgements of your peers. They can be confused as well.
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If I were you, I would be supportive. Dont lie to him though. He is coming to you because he trusts you and wants your advice. He may just be comparing himself to other men, he may be realizing that he could be gay. Suggest to him that he could talk with his school counselor or a trusted member of the church in order to get another perspective.
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He probubly isn't gay.
Although he might be.
A lot of guys like looking at other guys because they are curious, sometimes guys like looking at gay porn and all that but they are straight. He should take time to figure out if hes gay or not.
Also catholicism dosn't frown upon gays, its gay sex and gay marriage they are against.
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ok.yes your bro is gay.thats for sure now when he asks u am i tell him that he has 2 ask himself that
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First off, catholics do not frown against gays. They frown against gay marriages, make sure he knows that. He problay isn't gay & he just is going through something. Try to tell him hes not... & like, I don't know, tell him hes too young to know if hes gay or not. He obviously knows more then a 11 year old should. Just be there for him.
I hope that helped a little k bye
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hi! well hes only 11 so i reckon hes just curious!! and because hes curious he thinks hes gay but hes not!!! erm... as for him asking you auquard questions just say you dont realy now how to answer him as hes only 11 but he will come to you as hes you little bro you cant help that my sis does it to me!! just try and talk to him about him being curious and all in one go and also tell him you dont want to talk to him about sex and stuff and you mite get it all over and done with . tell him to wait untill his older to be realy sure!
hope i helped its quite hard to answer that!
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Your brother is only 11 years old. unless he was born gay, there is nothing bilogical about this, its all psychological. There could be numerous factors that would make your brother think that way about men. He is a male himself and he is not genetically designed to like men. I would suggest now that he is open with you, to try to dig in a little more about what is making him think this way. I would be willing to bet that there is an outside source influencing him. Manytimes those types of feelings are caused by sexual abuse, more than likely by another man. I would try to reasure him and try to get him to talk to you more about what is making him feel this way. Dont come out and ask bluntly. I think you will find out a bit more about where he is getting this "mindset" from. Talk to him, he probably needs you the most right now!
William
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okay. your brother is eleven. he has time to learn who he is. he may be gay, he may not. you don't really know at eleven. some people don't even know until much later as adults. it's completely normal and healthy that he's questioning himself and nearly all modern adoloscents go through this awkward period. as for the questions, explain to him that you're uncomfortable answering some of his questions. state explicitly which types you are uncomfortable with. stress to him that he can ask you some questions, but that he needs to find someone else to ask the sex questions. and above all, tell him that he is completely normal.
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Tell your brother as camlmy as you can that you don't feel comfy talking about that kind of stuff. If someone told me that they didn't feel comfy talking to me about that kind of stuff, I would understand. If you don't know how to answer him then tell him that you don't know the answer.
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