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I'm a vegan. I like glam rock and androgynous males. I have two cats. they're mystical beings. I'm going to college in less than a month.
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Does anyone know a good coverup that will hide a pretty big/dark birthmark that I have on my neck. I've tried several basic coverups and they've made it less noticeable.. but barely. I really want a good coverup to completely hide it (or come close) because I'm really self conscious of it and I just want it gone..
dermablend is your best bet. it's not only fully opaque and used by leading make-up artists to cover tattoos and scars and any kind of really intense skin imperfection, but it's also waterproof. it's really pricey, but it is the best.
When your a veggietarian you arn't allowed to eat meat, but what about fish???
fish does not grow on a tree. it is not a vegetable. if you eat it or any other form of meat, you cannot label yourself as a vegetarian, or a person who does not eat meat.
I want to be an actress and i can't find any theaters that have musicals/plays comming up for me to participate in.
I looked in the phone book and online but it came up blank. i'm out of options where can i find some?
I live in Illinois about 30 min. from Chicago, in Naperville. So i don't really wnat a theater in Chicago cuz I'm only 14 and i can't drive out there just for practice or productions. Is there any around Naperville? My zip code is 60565.
check out christian youth theater. you don't have to be a christian to perform in their company and they have a lot of performing opportunities throughout the united states. there are six different regions in the chicago region/northern illinois and they each offer a variety of classes and shows for youth 4-18.
16/m
In the middle of May, I really became attracted to my friend Sean. I confided in one of my best friends about it, and she told me to tell him. I did, and he told me he had "a bonafide crush" on me as well. So, we started to date. The chemistry at then was great. We could both tell how much we were into each other, and the relationship blossomed.
About a month ago, something changed. All of a sudden he seemed...distant? At this point, I "loved him", and yes I'm young,I can't really love him, but I think I did/do. Everytime I'd hear his voice, my heart would skip a beat, I loved being w. him, and in his arms. It was just like heaven. He had these moments though, where he was so sweet and so amazing. But others where he was distant as I said.
Finally, I confronted him about this last week. We had this big talk, online, of all places. He said that everytime I told him I loved him, it made him feel guilty because he didn't feel the same way, and he didn't think that he ever could love me. He kept complimenting me and saying how amazing I was, and that I would find someone meant for me, but that it wasn't him. I understood, but I cannot let what I feel for him go. I was just wondering if there was anyway I could do this. I did, after all, come out about being bi to all of my friends for him. And he still wants to be good friends, I just don't know if I can do that without thinking of what we had.
Any thoughts?
Thanks.
Anthony.
sometimes you take risks in life and great things happen and other times you take risks (like coming out) and these things happen. what you had and what you have (the possibility of friendship in the future) are still very important things to you obviously and I'm sorry you're having to go through this now, but you should also think about what a great relationship you did have for those few short summer months and what new things you'll take away from it for your future relationships and for your future entirely. you took a risk and came out for this boy and even though he doesn't love you, you now have so many new dating options by being out.
in the end, this is adolescence and things change rapidly and no one knows who they are yet. distance can mean a lot of things even unsaid ones. you're 16. your entire life is in front of you. don't get too hung up on one summer love, but don't forget your first love of a man either.
ok this might sound kinda odd, but im a little confused about my orientation.
like. im homophobic, and my friends are always kidding around and saying that im just "scared of what i really am" but i know they are just kidding around.
but the other day i started thinking and my boyfriend and i have sex and stuff but we always keep the covers over us, and i dont really wanna see his penis. ive never seen one and it just gives me a weird gut feeling if i see one. like, you know the feeling you get when you're nervous? well, a little like that, with a side of nausea.
i hate being like this because i really dont wanna be gay and lesbians scare me and i love my boyfriend to death but im just so confused!!
HELP!!!
you're not gay. or probably not gay. if the sight of a penis disturbs you or makes you laugh it's because penii are weird and unattractive. they really are, but that's not you being gay. you would get crushes on girls and have little attraction to your boyfriend (in all capacities - not just penis-wise) if you were gay.
well my best friend went on a mission trip and met this guy and now she really likes him. and then today they went out together and he asked her out and she said yes! they have only known each other for a week and a half and shes only a sophmore while hes a senior!! im really upset. i think it was really stupid. shes never had a boyfriend because shes usually smart about guys but now shes making bad decisions. they started holding hands and stuff before they even dated! and i wouldnt care but THEYVE ONLY KNOWN EACH OTHER A LITTLE OVER A WEEK! and shes said YES whan he asked her out!! i just cant be happy for her because now i know shes gonna start kissing him and im upset because i want to be happy for her when she gets her first kiss and when she has her first relationship but i feel like shes giving everything up for a guy she barely knows!!!! i of course will talk to her about it but what should i do? he does seem genuine but neither of us hardly know him! if shes thinks hes right shouldnt she at least wait a little? especially before she gives up her first kiss and who knows what else!! please help :)
I'm going out on a limb in my answer, so I'll explain where I'm coming from first.
back when I was a freshmen in high school I became really really close to a girl in my english class. by sophomore year we were hanging out all the time and pretty much inseparable. people were actually disturbed by how close we were. she was my best friend and I was really really happy to be her best friend. junior year in high school, she got her first boyfriend (while I knew her) and started spending a lot of time with him. she'd tell me about her first kiss and dates and whatnot and I got really insanely jealous, so I faked a boyfriend for a really long time, but the jealous feelings never went away. even if I really was dating, I was still jealous of whoever she was dating because he got to spend much more time with her than I did. that summer she cancelled an engagement with me and it was the final straw. some may call it irrationality on my part, but I haven't talked to her civilly since then.
now, you can be a happy friend or a jealous friend. whichever one you are you can't really change, but just figure out why you are that way. are you jealous that she's having these experiences (and you're being left behind boyfriend-less) or that she's with someone else? does it feel like she's cheating on your friendship? are you jealous that you can't be with her non-stop anymore?
think long and hard about what kind of jealousy you're feeling. I finally realized a few months ago that I was feeling jealous because I had a crush on my friend and I felt alienated by her going off with boys being that I found myself unfortunately attracted to her. every date and story thereafter and kiss stolen in a car was a slap in my face because I knew that we could never be together as long as I stayed female. it took a few years to realize that I am a lesbian and also be comfortable enough about that to start dating women. I'm not saying that this is your situation, but it is a possibility.
15/f
Whenever i wear a tampon (regular) i end up getting blood on my underwear even if i just put the tampon in 5 minutes ago. I make sure after i put one in i wipe around there so it won't but it still does. I don't want to wear a pad and a tampon because i don't like pads that much and that's why i prefer tampons but it keeps getting blood on my underwear. Why is this?
you can wear pantyliners with your tampons if you still want to wear tampons but continue to have this problem.
however, you also have the choice of using a menstrual cup. www.divacup.com
16/f
im bisexual and i admitt im not a virgin
i have different feelings for guys and girls
Guys: it feels better to do it with a guy than a girl
Girls:im more attracted to a girl than a guy and they turn me on more than a guy does
for the past 3 yrs ive been bi and for the past 1ish years its been getting awkward for me, lately everytime i see a naked guy i have to cough out the gag so i wont affend the guy. AND its been getting harder and harder to be turned on enough for a guy even to get in me in the first place...
the question is am i a future lesbo?
the position that world (at least the liberal world) is moving towards is that sexuality is a continuum that shifts throughout your life. this idea rings especially true for those who consider themselves bisexual. for instance, while I have only been with men in the past, I am now with a woman and know that there's a slim chance I'll ever be with a man again knowing how wonderful relationships with women are and how well they fit into who I am. it makes more sense this way and I am happy this way, so it is who I choose to be though technically, I am still bisexual because I will still keep the faint possibility open that some man will come along. it's just not a high priority to find him now that I've accepted that my mind is hardwired to be attracted to men and women.
all of this took me about 5 years to figure out and a good 6 months to fully accept and acknowledge. don't box yourself in until you explore all the boxes and don't box yourself in at all if you're not comfortable with them.
I have currently exclaimed to my mother that I am Bisexual. I am recently a virgin. However she says that 'bisexual' means to have sex with a guy and a girl. I think it means to be attracted to girls and guys (like liking them). But she says i'm wrong. I have a girlfriend(i am a girl), and she doesn't know about it. I am not a lesbian, i just like girls and guys. I ve had boyfriends, and now i have a girlfriend. Is her answer correct or is mine.
if sexual orientation is wholly related to who you choose to have sex with, then I am straight on all accounts. I'm currently dating a woman and have no intentions on dating men again and I identify myself as a lesbian or pansexual (attracted to those identifying as female). I'm definitely not attracted to men, but I haven't had sex with women either. does that make me asexual? no, because that would mean that I'm not attracted to anyone which is definitely a lie. straight is the norm and one is considered straight until sex proves otherwise, but that's really stupid and largely based on our societal assumptions. just like you don't become straight when you consummate a marriage, you don't become bisexual just based on who you've had sex with, but who you want to one day be sexual with.
me and my friends are going to the mall for my party and im making a scavenger hunt list. all my friends are in groups and we have cameras and whoever has the most pictures with/doing the things on the list wins . i have a lot on my list already so i need some really crative ideas. what can i put on my list of ideas?
ill give an example of one of mine:
take a picture with a naked mannequin
thanksss. be creative!
have a back-up plan because typically, malls will not let you take pictures or video inside the building.
is there any way that you could do a foreign exchange in another country for a summer. I really would like to go to Germany or Belgium for a summer and live with a host family and everything.
these aren't exactly what you're looking for, but they're either free or very cheap ideas for summer travel in foreign countries:
the louis august jonas foundation (LAJF.org) has a summer camp called Camp Rising Sun in New York. They also have a sister program in Denmark under the same name. you have to win their scholarship, but I've heard it's a great experience.
become an au pair! an au pair is a foreign nanny that lives with a family and takes care of their children/house/pets for several months at a time. you get paid and sometimes get financed for travel expenses as well. aupair.com has more information.
ok the thing is a friend of mine might be bi. but the thing is, would she act any different if she is? i mean i havent known her for long, and i dont know if she acted differently b4. but a friend of hers and mine as well(she known her 3 years ago) told me she acted different this year. im worried, does it make a difference if a persons not straight? one of my friends told me she had a bi friend and dat she isnt different. well the thing is i dont noe any bi or gay or lesbian people so i dont know. i need advice! please! thank you.
I'm a bisexual woman.
my short answer? at the root of everything, no, she won't be any different.
she may, after being out to herself or others, take up a crusade of sorts against a world unaccepting of her. she may talk often about how she feels between the homosexual world and the straight world. she might get angry that no one will take her seriously. in that regard she may be different.
however, if you're her friend, you will likely stay her friend even through these annoying transition periods where all a person like me wants to do is scream that they're no different than anyone else. I hope you will. I hope you'll listen to her genuinely talk about why she likes someone male or female and not push out the conversations about women because she probably doesn't have anyone to talk to besides her straight friends about when she gets a crush or a new love. if it helps, push gender aside in these times and just see your friend as being excited about someone, not some man or some woman. there's a good chance that she doesn't even think of them in terms of gender.
in the end, though, all love is some sort of love and I hope you'll come to accept that in your friend, that she has an overwhelming desire to love the ones she does love, not just the men she loves.
I just got my bettas 3 days ago and they realy never fought. They're both females. One of my bettas is perfectly happy but the other (Marley) hovers at the top of the tank and usually doesn't eat much. Its tail and fins are clenched togetherand whenever the other fish comes near her, she darrts crazily in the opposite direction. What could be wrong with her?
you do not necessarily need to separate your fish, but you will need to adjust your tank. do you have places for both fish to hide from each other? this is step 1 in raising multiple bettas in one tank. you also need two separate places to feed your bettas because Marley needs her own space to eat otherwise she'll be too afraid of your other fish to go near 'her' food. how big is your tank? with a non-aggressive fish you can have one inch of fish per gallon of water, but with betta you want much more room so that if they do end up not being nice towards each other, they can sit on opposite sides of the tank and growl at each other. if you want to add more fish (perhaps to breed) make sure you buy fish that are as aggressive as your dominant fish. otherwise fish will be killed and eaten, but the only time you really need to separate them is when you go on vacations and things like that.
I constantly hear that most guys don't like girls with short hair. Especially as in a boyish haircut. And I agree- it's hard to look/feel "pretty" with boring hair. But I am so dreadfully sick of my long hair. (Mine is several inches past my armpits.) I hate showering because of having to dry it. And on top of everything, it curls in the most unflattering ways. I look so stupid. I feel like the only escape from the annoying body of my hair is to get it short short short. Yet I know I'll still hate the way it looks because there will be nothing there. What on earth should I do?
(P.S. Semi-short is hardly an option because the curls are even worse and uncontrolable. And it's not kinky... just wavy and loopy. Especially my bangs. Ugh!!!)
guys like attractive girls who feel confident about what the look like and who they are. if you feel most comfortable in short hair do it. bald? do it. it sounds like right now you're uncomfortable with your hair, so change it up. what matters ultimately is what you think because you always have to deal with your face in the mirror.
for what it's worth, my hair right now is at best 2 inches long and cut into a faux hawk. it's the most attractive I've felt and a great many people have said it's the most attractive I've been. I get the occasional little boy comment, but if it's little boy hair then I love being a little boy because I look my best.
Well I'm 19, my girlfriend is a really beautiful 22 year old woman, and since the past month we've been having an excellent relationship: for instants we do things together that she told she never did with anyone else before. Now I don't want to get into what things that they are, but just trust me, because I'm not one for BS.
Now the problem is that valentines day coming up, and I have no idea what to get her, perhaps besides just her favorite kind of roses (tri fade red/org/yel). The only intel I have from her side is that she wants to eat somewhere, and she will be wearing a special dress. I also neglected to mention that in accumulation to this all we have agreed to try, and have sex for the first time finally on that day before we rape each other so what should I get and do for her?
Please consider that we've only been dating for a month, but also that I've known her for a very long time, and always liked her, even more now.
if you've known her for a long time, you must know at least one of her insecurities. I would plan on using v-day as a day to attack that in the most loving way possible. for instance, my biggest insecurity is my dry skin (especially in the winter) and a perfect valentine's day would be some sort of spa evening with a bubble bath and oil massages and nice feeling things of that nature. for gifts, I'd like to get expensive soaps and lotions in scents that I particularly like.
what I mean is that even though valentines day is a hugely special day, you don't have to do anything particularly special. a romantic gift is a feel good gift from someone you love, not a stupid bear or candy. if you're in college, a nice dinner out somewhere is good because college food is terrible. if she's always on her feet, give her tons of foot massage coupons and a kit to pamper her feet. be practical and show you're attentive and it will surely be a good day.
Do sororities/fraternities allow their members to quit? I mean, if the resident no longer wants to be affiliated with them, would they allow that resident to quit? And what happens next when the resident has already expressed his/her intentions? Is quitting really harder than joining?
it depends on the organization. I'm going through a period right now where I'm gradually leaving my sorority, but I'm retaining all of my close friends. on my campus, the girls go where their friends already are, so the bonds made by sorority members are made before sorority life. I don't feel as though I'm going to lose my best friends by doing this. the only things I will lose are ritual and most events. some organizations require you to be a member for life and others shun you if you deactivate. it all depends on the group.
i understand the basic concept. its like s bunch of friends, well more like sisters but i still dont know the details.
-how do you get in one
-do you all live together
-how many people are typically in one
-how do you find out about them
-what do you do
-is it like a bad thing?
-do you hook up with the frats
-is there anyway to tell that someone is in one
(because im always at a small college to see my family member play hockey and i want to know if i can tell if anyone is in one.)
i just like want a summary any details
-how do you get in one?
that depends on the system you're going to be/are in. contact your greek life office on campus to find out more about the recruitment process. my one advice is not to jump at anything that moves. a lot of the best sorority girls are found throughout the year, not within the formal recruitment week. think about it, your friends at home shift around a lot and your friends at college will, too. you need to make sure you're in the right group before you join them for good. and a sorority is forever. you can't get to know that many girls in one week. take your time. especially if you're at a competitive school where recruitment is more formalized than at a small school.
-do you all live together?
generally yes, sororities have houses that are a lot of fun to live in. it's like living with your immediate family that you got to choose. there are funny moments that are missed by not living in the houses, but it's not required either (by most schools; mine requires one semester to go alumnae). some schools have sorority dorms where all the girls live in one building for all of the greek "houses" to have a convenient meeting space, but they're also intermixed with other sorority girls. other schools have rooms for each sorority to do rituals and meetings and they live scattered throughout campus. even though I'm not currently living in my house, I'm still living with a sister in a dorm.
-how many people are typically in one?
this again depends on the school. we have 53(?) members in my chapter. it's proportional to the school for the most part. it also depends on how many different sororities are on campus. on my campus we have 3 sororities (and 4 fraternities) and 800 students, so we're closer than at bigger schools.
-how do you find out about them?
generally, formal recruitment and word of mouth are how you find out about greek life. there are also online forums for greeks and websites for each chapter. at the national level, sororities (that are national, some are local) all operate on the same principal but a lot of the organization of each school is based on personality rather than a particular interest.
-what do you do?
girly things. you become more girly than anyone ever should be. it's almost disgusting, almost. sororities give you a license to do ridiculous things (like make naked snow angels or bake cookies at 3 AM, but unfortunately some use it as an opportunity to let their guard down in negative ways).
-is it like a bad thing?
heck no. and yes.
it depends on who you are and how you can handle things. if you can't handle peer pressure, DO NOT DO IT. you'll find yourself overstressing and generally freaking out about everything. if you don't have lots of time (and ample funds) you won't work in a sorority just because it is a lot of time to spend with one group of peers.
-do you hook up with the frats?
on my campus, my sorority is very close to two fraternities that we frequently party with. it's not mandatory. it's not a reason to join a house. and on my campus in particular, it's a safety thing. when we go as sisters we stand less risk of being hurt. we can also inform each other of where not to go on campus and who not to hang out with because they're bad influences or bad places. the particular fraternity we hang out with is extremely different from the normal idea of a fraternity. it's why we hang out with them.
-is there anyway to tell that someone is in one
(because im always at a small college to see my family member play hockey and i want to know if i can tell if anyone is in one.)
it's possible that that college doesn't have greek life if you don't know already. most chapters do badge days or letter days where you wear your pin or letter t-shirts. a lot of girls wear letters outside of these days anyway, as well.
by the way, I am a member of the fall pledge class 2007 of sigma kappa. if you have any more questions and your campus does not have a sigma kappa, you can drop one in my inbox. if not, it's technically dirty rushing and against greek life rules to sway you in a particular direction until after formal recruitment.
I am on birth control (YAZ), and I have just started the white pills two days ago. Whenever I start the white pills, I get my period. During my period, I'm absolutely miserable. Extremely heavy flow, horrible cramps (I'm usually in bed during my period, they're so bad), constipation. Well, I don't have my period yet, but I know I will be getting it by tomorrow. And what's tomorrow? A very important, two-day swim meet, which takes about eight hours each day.
How can I make this more bearable? I'm already planning to take a million tampons (maybe the super ones, are they comfortable?) and Ibuprofen. Any more suggestions on what I should take? Or anything that will help me have a lighter period?
F/16
you can actually start taking ibuprofen now to reduce your chances of getting bad cramps. don't do it every time or in excess, but it won't hurt you.
I just moved and I want to get a new bedspread and paint my room.
I was thinking of either getting a yellow bedspread and painting the room a light purple or getting a purple bedspread and painting the room a light yellow.
Which one sounds better?
The only thing is I can't find any yellow bedspreads, so if you can find some online please post the links. Thank you!
And also i'm 15 so I don't want a really fancy type bedspread and I don't like designs like stripes or big polka dots or hearts or anything like that.
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/30114316
this is my current duvet cover. I have a feeling it's something you'd really like if you're in between the typical tween set of bedding and the typical fancy old lady set. it's also really easy to wash being that it's a duvet cover. I highly recommend ikea's bedroom series to complete your room.
...probably going to be pretty long...
I am 23, Female, almost nearing my mid-20s. I had sex only once, with the wrong person (unfortunately), when I was 19. A lot has changed since then. I have dated a couple of guys, but it has never gotten to the point where I even considered sleeping with them, or even doing anything sexual, as in below the belt (I had nothing against them feeling me up or sucking on my breasts). I haven't been in a long term relationship; it's never gotten to a point with a guy where I am comfortable enough to have sex. I feel like your typical guy, always thinking about sex, as in almost every night. I masturbate every now and then, I'd say a 2-4 times a week. I don't know. I have no trouble attracting guys...I don't mean to sound conceited, cause I'm not. If i talk to a guy, I never really take things further with them..mainly cause they're not my type, or it never goes past a few dates. I haven't even met a guy I'm interested in for almost 8 months. I'm 23 and don't even know what a real relationship is like. The only time I have orgasm is when i masturbate. I want to know what it's like to have sex with someone I like. I'm 23, and not saving myself for marriage. Quite the contrary...
It's better than sleeping around, but come on, in 2 years i'll be 25. I guess any advice on one or more of the following would be great:
a) How do you feel about my situation?
b) What can I do to meet more like-minded guys, not just airheads or assholes?
c) Let's say I meet a guy I really like, how would I even go about having sex, when it's been incredibly long time since I even had sex (and let's face it, I was 19, and it lasted for 5 minutes, and it sucked).
Thanks for reading through my rant, and for any advice :)
it's perfectly okay to be in your situation. you'll turn out fine in the end if just because you've recognized mistakes and moved on to what you really want. a great guy will recognize that and you'll recognize a great guy. you just haven't yet and that's cool. how will you find them? go do things where you'll think you'll find them. a friend told me once that he picks up girls in the libraries because he likes calm nerdy girls more than the kind who hang out in bars. if you're looking for a bar of soap you don't go to a pet store. comfortability to let your guard down will come in time.