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mom answers Q: is she right
I have currently exclaimed to my mother that I am Bisexual. I am recently a virgin. However she says that 'bisexual' means to have sex with a guy and a girl. I think it means to be attracted to girls and guys (like liking them). But she says i'm wrong. I have a girlfriend(i am a girl), and she doesn't know about it. I am not a lesbian, i just like girls and guys. I ve had boyfriends, and now i have a girlfriend. Is her answer correct or is mine.
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i have a bisexual friend and yes she is sexually active but bisexual just means that you are intrested in both male and female.i mean saying bisexual means you are have sex with men and women is like sayin if your hydrosexual(i dnt knw how to spell it lol)that you are havin sex with just guys or girl depending if you are a guy or girl.your sexual orentation doesnt demermine if you are sexually active or not just states the sex of a person you are into
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if sexual orientation is wholly related to who you choose to have sex with, then I am straight on all accounts. I'm currently dating a woman and have no intentions on dating men again and I identify myself as a lesbian or pansexual (attracted to those identifying as female). I'm definitely not attracted to men, but I haven't had sex with women either. does that make me asexual? no, because that would mean that I'm not attracted to anyone which is definitely a lie. straight is the norm and one is considered straight until sex proves otherwise, but that's really stupid and largely based on our societal assumptions. just like you don't become straight when you consummate a marriage, you don't become bisexual just based on who you've had sex with, but who you want to one day be sexual with.
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To be honest, I think choosing a sexuality other than "straight" means you are after some sort of sexual activity.
Being homosexual doesn't mean you find the same sex attractive, it means you want a sexual relationship with those people.
Take for example this. When a straight woman is looking through a magazine she may see a woman she finds attractive. She thinks the woman is pretty and even wishes she looked like that woman. It's natural; however, the lady looking through the magazine has no desire to be intimate with the magazine woman.
If a lesbian is looking through a magazine and comes across an attractive woman she not only wishes she looked like the woman but wants to touch the woman and be sexual with her. She doesn't see simple beauty, she sees sex too.
The same applies for men; although, many men do not admit to finding another man attractive. Technically, if a man sees a very muscular man and it inspires him to become more fit (to be similar to the other man) then he thought the fit man was attractive in some way. Again, he doesn't want to be sexual with the fit man, he only wants to be attractive like him.
If a homosexual man sees a very muscular man he may not be inspired to work-out at all; however, in his eyes the fit man is still just as attractive. The homosexual man may become aroused and want to engage in sexual contact with the man because he is attractive.
In essence, being bisexual, lesbian, or homosexual means you are seeking a sexual playmate. You express to others that you find most people sexually attractive. Think of it this way, when you see a very attractive woman in a magazine do you want to have her beauty or do you think she's "hot" and wish you could do something with her (even as simple as kiss or touch)? If you truly are bisexual then you, most likely, feel the latter of the two.
These are facts. It isn't something to be upset at me over but it is how things work in reality.
It's like when someone claims to be asexual. This means when they see either gender they feel no attraction toward them. They are usually unable to classify any gender as "handsome" or even "pretty" like others are able to, let alone choose which gender to be intimate sexually with.
In the end, I would say your mother is mostly right. I know it isn't what you want to hear but it pretty much is true if you sit down and honestly think about it without being biased.
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In a way, you are both right. You don't need to engage in sexual activity to be a homosexual, heterosexual, trisexual, or any other type of sexual orientation. There could be an forty year old man who hasn't had sex yet, but it a heterosexual. Bisexual means to be attracted both physically and emotionally to the both types of sexes.
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Being heteroSEXUAL, biSEXUAL or homoSEXUAL means you engage in SEXUAL activity with the opposite sex, both sexes, or the same sex, respectively.
Your mother, and YG, below, are correct.
--Jack
(16/m)
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According to Answers.com your mother is correct.
Sexual activity with both men and women.
Merely being attracted doesn't necessarily
make you bisexual.
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