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acceptance is questioned
i recently told my best friend im bi along with a few other people and now i sorta have a girl friend so i guess if i dont want to completly hide the fact that i have one, from my parents and be all suspicious so i probably have to tell them...i just dont know how. i could just randomly tell them and i think my mom will be ok with it but im a little worried about what my dad will say and they probably wont let my girlfriend stay over since now they just think we're friends. anyway i will eventually tell them so if anyone has any suggestions how that would be good.
-and another thing, i dont care that my peers know or anything, im just freaked out about my family knowing------please help
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Sooner or later the truth will come out. Isn't it better that you tell them and not someone else? Your friends might let it slip or perhaps they'll hear about it from someone else they know that their kid said you were with whomever and a lesbian.
You need to be in control here. Your parents might "freak" or not take it well at first. This is a typical reaction but the anger, questioning what they did wrong etc. fades. They'll still love you and eventually your girlfriend. Why live a lie any longer?
Tell them the truth you could even get literature on the subject and involved with PFLAG which supports friends, parents, family of lesbian and gays or find a group for gay teens to come out at.
There's no surefire way of handling this. You need to tell them the truth and could even do it in a letter if face-to-face is too difficult. Parents will always love their children no matter what in the end. Let's get this burden (not being gay, but hiding it from people) off your shoulders on your terms.
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Your parents love you. If something like this makes them "hate" you, well what kind of parents are they?
YOU ARE who you are. You can't change that. If your parents aren't okay with that, well I'm sorry, but that's wrong.
Even if they aren't okay with it now, they most likely will be with time.
The longer you wait to tell them, the harder it will get. So do yourself a favor and just tell them soon ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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