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lesbian, maybe? (hope not)
ok this might sound kinda odd, but im a little confused about my orientation.
like. im homophobic, and my friends are always kidding around and saying that im just "scared of what i really am" but i know they are just kidding around.
but the other day i started thinking and my boyfriend and i have sex and stuff but we always keep the covers over us, and i dont really wanna see his penis. ive never seen one and it just gives me a weird gut feeling if i see one. like, you know the feeling you get when you're nervous? well, a little like that, with a side of nausea.
i hate being like this because i really dont wanna be gay and lesbians scare me and i love my boyfriend to death but im just so confused!!
HELP!!!
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I would just really like to know why lesbians scare you???
I am bisexual and I have been with my girlfriend for the past 2 yrs. Theres nothing wrong with being bi, gay or a lesbian so why do we scare you?
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at first you are goin to be nervous but when you get used to the idea of seeing one it actually helps
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You really have nothing to worry about.
I'm straight, but I don't like looking at male genitals either, even though I am sexually active. Honestly, I think they're just ugly.
Just calm down. I'm assuming you're young, so it's natural to be a little worried about your sexuality at that age. But by the sounds of it, I don't think you're a lesbian.
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No one can tell you what your orientation is, and I would be wary of anyone who made definitive statements that you were or were not gay.
Some lesbians would have that reaction to a penis, as would some straight women. Everyone's different - and so is their expression of sexuality.
I would encourage you to think about why you feel so strongly homophobic - it is an old saying that the more homophobic someone is, the more closeted they are. In therapeutic theory, people often are the most against the things they are as well, which is where your friends might have gotten their ideas from.
None of this means you are or you aren't anything. I think what you're doing is best - wondering about the situation and yourself. I'd also try to keep an open mind, because sexuality can be a confusing thing to pinpoint. And whatever your orientation, perhaps this is a good opportunity for you to think about how your homophobia might be having an impact on those around you.
I can understand the idea of lesbians might scare you, but in reality they are people just like anyone else. I think most people fear what they don't know, and that's also where homophobia stems from. Be gentle with yourself; you will figure this out in time.
All the best.
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you're not gay. or probably not gay. if the sight of a penis disturbs you or makes you laugh it's because penii are weird and unattractive. they really are, but that's not you being gay. you would get crushes on girls and have little attraction to your boyfriend (in all capacities - not just penis-wise) if you were gay.
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What you have has nothing to do with being a lesbian, you most likely have a fobia on the manhood of a man, start by not using the covers when making whoopie, and look at his male part, the sooner you do that you will be over you're none serious problem, don't make a mountain out of a mold, if you're problem was very serious you woldn't be having sex with him,There are women who experience the same thing you have, it's better to get over nothing.
HEALER
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