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Go for it, or wait?
Okay so I'm a girl and i'm 14. I like this guy he's 14 as well. He's been flirting with me alot, he thinks i'm gorgeous, hot, he says noone can resist me and such. A friend of mine asked him if he was gonna ask me out cuz he was going to a while ago but he had a girlfriend. He said that I'm a cool girl and he wants to but he's afraid cuz of how his relationships have beeng going. So, I want to ask him out. The problem is that one of my best friends likes him too. It feels like if I ask him it'll be betraying her. But if he asks me it'd be different since i didn't pursue it even though I knew she liked him. Plus, she's laid back and i'm sure she wouldn't really mind if this guy and i go out.
My question is: Should I ask him out? Or wait for him?
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It sounds like this guy is afraid to ask you out, so i think you should ask him, but first you should maybe c if your friend minds if u ask him.
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you should ask him out. he likes you, not her, and if she thinks you betrayed her, thats shallowish and not really a true friend. he is not her property
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okay. i hate it when girls get offended when you ask/like someone they may like. she doesn't own him (and neither do you). so with that out of the way. it depends on what you want. if you know that he's going to ask you out pretty soon, then might as well wait. if you know he is reluctant, then why would you ask him out in the first place? he just told you his relationships aren't going so well.
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wait for him and then say yes. if you asked him out then your best friend would probably be a little angry at you. she still might be angry at you if you say yes if he asks you out, but she can deal with it. i think that's a more polite way of doing things. but if she quits liking him before he ends up asking you out, then go for it.
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If he doesn't ask you out, you ask him. Rock his world. sincerely meganlynn
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Sweetie, this guy you are talking about is his own person. You and your best friend should not treat him like property; I think that if you like him and he likes you, there is no reason why you should not pursue the relationship. You'll realize this once you get a little older. Its a little sad that your friend likes him too, its great that you had a concern about your friend, but neither of you can decide who he goes out with. If you ask me, I think the guy is fair game. I wish I had two hotties fighting over me. lol
I hope I helped.
William
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This happenes alot with me and my friends. Although I dont think it is right to date your friend's crush, its your choice. So, I would wait for him. But before all this happens, MAKE SURE she knows you like him, dont just spring it on her. If you do, she will think you just starting liking him becuase she did. [Girls tend to do this alot.] Hope I helped :]
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There are two very important facts you need to consider here:
1. Your friends feelings
2. His relationship problems
Lets start with number 1, i thinkt hat before you go out with this boy at all ( no matter hu asks hu out) you need to talk to your friend, make sure she is ok with it and if there is any doubt in your mind that she isnt then dont do it! Friends are not worth givin up for lads especially at this age cos they wil be the people you need wen the relationship ends.
now to number 2, he says that he hasnt much luck with relationships but if he likes you as much as he sed he does he should be willing to give things ago and should not be telling you already that he doesnt think its going to work.
You need to give this a bit of thought my adivce is to wait for him to come to you, but make sure before you say yes that your friend is definatly ok with it. Let me know how things go :)
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umm this is tough but you know sometimes friends will have to deal i mean if you have like him longer then its like fuck her she will get over it. so ya just ask him hell say yes it looks. and if your still not comfortable asking him b.c of her then tell her what you are going to do but are affraid b.c you dont want her to get hurt or something. shell understand and get over it sooner or later,.
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