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married,but still thinking of the ex
I am a 27 year old female. I don't know what to do. I dated someone for 7 years and we broke up. I got married and the ex and I avoided each other for a long time. Then one day we see each other and he starts unloading how bad he feels for what happened with us and that he got hurt by a girl and realized how much he hurt me. Well, I felt I would have the opportunity to unload and now, he won't talk to me. I don't feel I can truely move on with my life. He is all I think about. Please help.
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You should call him and ask to meet him for lunch and just unload eveything on your heart. You can only truely move on if you have some sort of closure with him and that NEEDS to happen, considering you are already married. Explain to him that you want to move on with you life and can't do that unless you talk to him about what happened between you two.
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sometimes people never ever get over the people they once loved .. get a hold of him and tell him how you feel .. i mean just be friends with him - that can help a lot when you're hurt. or if you dont think you can manage being friends with him- do your best to avoid him -- just remember you only have one life to live. and you should live it the best you possibly can. do whatever it takes to be happy & live your life to the fullest <3
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You are thinking about him because you didn't get to unload, and we always feel "unfinished" when we don't get to tell our side of the story. But I;ll be he feels a lot better, maybe he was carrying that around all those years too. I think it is a waste of time and energy to spend time and worry thinking about someone who is not thinking about you. When I divorced my ex, I was the bad guy in the eyes of his family. they hated me. I never got to tell them how awful he was, and he certainly didn't volunteer the information. I realized that I needed to spend my energy and thoughts on putting my life back together and did not have time to worry about other people's opinions of me. I knew the truth.
I got on with my life...and low and behold about 10 years later, they realize what a jerk he is, and befriend me. In the end, I got to tell them the truth, and they were in more of a position to hear in. and believe me. So be patient. If you are right, you will get your chance.
Michele
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You should have been "moved on" before you even got married to your husband. But I will just hold my toung on that issue.
If you have a lot of feelings you need to get out, write it all down in a letter to him. You don't even have to send it, just the act of seeing it all laid out will help you unload your feelings and reslove the issue.
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He may feel bad about what he did to you, but this doesn't account for what he already did to you. If I were you, replay the situations in your head where he didn't treat you as well, and next time you talk to him, tell him that you also feel upset, but you two need to move on. Gracefully accept his apology and just continue on. This will help the both of you move onwards from this broken relationship into a better one.
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I guess he accomplished his mission to apologize and thats all he wanted to do. Maybe get his address and send him a letter and unload that way. If you value your marriage it may not be the best of ideas to see him again.
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Can you write him an email or send him a letter? It's not fair if he has unloaded all this onto you and won't return the favour by letting you talk about your problems. If he won't talk to you now then those two options are all I can think of. He is being selfish by not wanting to listen to you
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call him or get ahold of him some how and vent also if you are married now this situation can only get worse
so if you can't get ahold of him write it down on a piece of paper then after your done writing burn the paper or put it in a ballon and watch your problem float away
I promise you this will work:)
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