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ohk well im 13 and colombian (spic) woot woot yeah i know lol. anyways my mom and my dad asked me what i want to have a sweet 15 or a sweet 16.. its kinda early but they wanna start saving up since they wanna have my party at the hilton ... but the thing is that most if my friends that im going to invite are white or black and like 6 are spanish ... and i think that they will enjoy a sweet 16 better , but i mean its a tradition for a spanish girl to have a sweet 15 ? im confused help me out (link)
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Could you have a party in between your 15th and 16th birthday? That way you are keeping in tradition with both sweet 15 and 16 by celebrating them both at the same time?!! It's only an idea! x
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i am 14F and i want to get a belly button ring. what do you think of a belly button ring? and how do i convince my mom to let me get one because she keep thinking of the future and saying when you get old and decide to have a baby.. it will get all streched out or it will get infected (link)
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Well, at the end of the day it is up to you but I think you have to be 16? In the future when you have a child you can easily take it out - it won't get infected.
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u gave me advice a while ago cuz i wanted 2 tell a guy i liked him. well, thx 2 ur advice, i told him and, even tho he didnt like me, im over him now!!!
just wanted 2 say thanks!!!
CKat (link)
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Oh, well thank you for telling me! I hope I helped and I'm glad you're over him! x
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When is the right time, if there is one, for girls to be thinking about and wanting to have sex>? (link)
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There is never a certain age or time - some girls lose it when they are 16 - others in their 20's for example. You know when you are ready when you are with a guy who you know will make you feel special and make you feel ready to. The worst thing you could do is to lose it just becuase you feel you should and your friends have - some of my friends did that and all of them really regretted. The best thing is to be with a guy you feel totally comfortable with and relaxed around and in that way it will be a really amazing experience. I hope I have helped a little - let me kow if there's anything else you want to know x
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im a 21 year old male and my girlfriend is 19 and 8 months pregnant.She's thinks i dont find her attractive anymore because it seems like ive lost my sex drive!!what should i do?? (link)
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Don't worry!!! a lot of guys experience this and have to reassure their partner that its not because they don't find them any less attractive. When a partner goes through pregnancy nobody realises that it actually affects the guys as well. Having sex at this stage of course is difficult because the whole time you will have to be getting into positions that are comfortable and making sure you don't pu pressure on the baby. You have to let her know this. do something like make her a candlelit meal with a massive bunch of flowers and write her a card telling her how much you love her and that you think she is the most beautiful person in the world - especially for the fact she is carrying your baby. Tell her the only reason you don't want to have sex is because you are worried about her and the baby and because you are worrying so much it means you can't concentrate properly! Hope this works a little
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I recently had a baby 8 months ago. I just stopped breastfeeding her 2 months ago and I still have not gotten my period. I have been getting real bad painful cramps like I would be getting my period soon but nothing comes. Sometimes my cramps hurt so bad I have to run to the restroom and have real bad diarea. Is there something wrong with me?? (link)
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What you are experiencing sounds like it could be an infection of some kind - you need to go to a doctor to have it checked out. It won't just go away it will get worse so get yourself checked! Hope everything is ok
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is it safe to preform oral sex om a woman with genital herbes? (link)
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probably best not to especially if you have cracked lips, mouth ulcers or cold sores as then you will catch herpes on your mouth - large cold sores which are sore, cracked and bleed. Wait til she has taken her medication and it's gone away. Hope this helps
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I've been have very vivid dreams about an old flame for the past 6 or 8 months and its starting to drive me insane. The twist to this story is that we we're childhood sweethearts from the age of 8 to 14. I'm now 19(20 next week) and we haven't spoken since 8th grade graduation. I can't shake this feeling lately that I still have feelings for him. As innocent as out relationship was being infatuated with someone for that long isn't something to easily let go of. There are so many reason I can't explain that make me feel as though we are soulmates. I've westled with the decision of whether or not I should contact him but have decided against it. I know that part of my recent obsession with him is my loniness and depression. As much as do feel like he's my soulmate its likely we'll never see eachother again. At this point I'm more concerned with forgeting him and stopping the dreams that make me dread going to sleep at night. What can I do to get over him? (link)
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I don't think you should worry yourself too much at all. When we have no love interests we quite often go back to thinking about people we used to like and the more we think the more we picture them as being an ideal boyfriend/soulmate. If I were you I wouldn't worry about fancying him and thinking about him all the time - carry on thinking and dreaming and just dream up ideal storylines that make you feel great! If you want to contact him then go for it! I foyu were such good friends before then what's the harm? Just a friendly email asking what he's been up to and telling him what you've been up to. Maybe you've created this ideal person in your head and your scared about finding that he isn't in real life and it will burst your bubble?? Hope I have helped a little
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my friend and are are currently in a fight, you see she is an awesome friend and its a lot of fun hanging out with her and stuff. Lately she has been into this guy and she not being herself, she is ignoring me when he is around but yet she is always asking me to come chill with them. we had a huge fight on the phone and i told her i don't like her when she is hanging out with him and then she said fine then don't hang out with me and she hung up. what should i do?? (link)
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You were just being honest about your feelings towards her - it's not your fault. She is trying to be cool and someone she isn't around this guy and you ca see straight through it. The trouble is, because you've said this to her, she is embarrassed and just came out with the first thing that came into her head. She obviously wants you around to make her more comfortable when she's with him to make her seem more relaxed. Don't worry - I'm sure she'll be kicking herself and probably asking for someone elses advice jst like you are. Leave it a day or two and then text or email her. Just say that you're sorry if you upset her because you didn't mean to but you're just concerned as you are her best friend and obviously have her best interests at heart.
A friendship of 3 years will not just end because of an argument like this - trust me. Hope this helps a little x
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What should i do if I'm losing my voice and have to sing a solo for Friday Recidles?(School thing)
What should I take//eat//drink?? Reply me back A.S.A.P.! (link)
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If you are losing your voice then here are some useful tips!!!
Stop talking - whisper instead - it's obvious your vocal chords are worn out. Drink plenty of fluids, lots of warm drinks and if it is chilly wear a scarf or a high necked top.
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Yeh i asked, if a doctor could kno that you were "playing with ur self" But..what if they make u pee in a cup? (link)
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If they make you pee in a cup they are checking out your wee and nothing else! Honestly, a doctor won't be able to tell if you do do that
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Ok, I'm 17/f and I just had a baby. He's 3 weeks now and I'm having a hard time supporting him. His dad won't do anything. He says that he's not sure if it's even his which is a completely false because I gave my virginity to him. He said he won't pay a time until he knows that it's his so he wants a paternity test. So I arranged for the test and he never showed up. He gave me a bogus excuse but I said fine and scheduled another one. We've gone through this process 5 times and he still won't help me or even get the test done. I dropped out of school and I'm working 2 jobs to try and support him because I have no family to help me. My best friend has been an angel she's been taking him to the school and putting him in the day care center so that I can work. She's also been watching him after school for me. I've tried paying her but she refuses the money. She's only one that I have helping me. I need his help. I just don't have enough money. I don't want to put her in foster care because I grew up in different foster homes and I refuse to put her threw that. I think that things would be fine if I could just get him to pay even a little child support. How do I go about taking him to court for child support? Do I need to hire a lawyer for this or can I do it on my own? If he needs to have a paternity test done is there anyway that I can make sure that he will actually show up?? Please help me I'm really confused. I will rate 5's to anyone who tries.
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Oooops - I forgot to say... sounds like your boyfriend is being a loser. Well, two can play at that game. Let him know that you are having a paternity test and give him a time and place. Tell him if he doesn't show up again then he won't get to see his son. You have a right do do and say this ny the way, especially as he isn't giving you any money. Also, going back to the benefits, there are special creches where you can take your baby that are really cheap - sometimes you can leave them there for the day if you need to work more - they will make friends and maybe you will too!! Good luck and really hope everything works out
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I like a boy who is such a cutie! Hes really sweet, nice, and funny. Those are all big plusses but the thing im not so sure about is him being total opposite. He smokes, hes a hornball but he wouldnt make me do anythign i dont want to. Im like the popular girl with a halo over my head. I know that he just wants to hook up with me becasue he even said so but how do i find out if he likes me or not? (link)
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Your the popular girl with the halo over your head but it's always the ones who seem like angels that are the naughty ones! If he is a hornball then he might just want to hook up with you. If I were you I would play quite hard to get. He obviously likes you because otherwise he wouldn't want to hook up with you in the first place but if I were you I would flirt with him but let him know that he can't get you as easily as the other girls!! hope this helps a little
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I get embarressed so easily! i cant help it! if something just a little bit bad happens to me i get so embarresed! are there any ways i can help this bad habbit? thanx! i rate high! (link)
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I know exactly how you feel - I get embarrassed all the time and I always go bright red!! If you think you are getting embarrassed I was told to practice deep breathing - just breather really slowly in and out and by concentrating on that it really helps. Could you think of a question to say immediately before getting embarrassed so you can change the subject? Hope this helps a little
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13/f I've liked this guy 4 a long time, but hes a year older than me. Since he's gonna go to a new school next year, I wanted to tell him how i feel. The problem is, i dont know how. i cant do it in his yearbook, cuz sum1 might read what i wrote. i think i should do it by e-mail, but i thought that was a turn-off for guys, but i dont know. Please help, because the end of school is on friday, and i want to tell him before than.
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Ok - you HAVE to let him know!!!! Email is ok or maybe even a text??? Just maybe be quite subtle and say that a bunch of you are going out and wondered if you fancied coming - be good to see you before you leave - or something. It's tricky. If you email him then perhaps say something like this:
Hi........(don't know his name)
Can't believe it's the end of school already - do you fancy meeting up at some point over the summer - would be good to see you before you leave x'
That way you're not directly telling him you fancy him (that would scare him off0 but you are hinting and you will get him interested in finding out if you do fancy him or not - Go on!!! Let me know how it goes!! x
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awhike ago i had a question about my mom having a yeast infection and she went to the doctor and they told her she had cervical cancer, thats what she told me on the phone. she was also really messed up on tranquilizers and i couldnt understand what she was saying..what does cervical cancer do, and is she going to die? What do i do? (link)
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Cervical cancer is a very common form of cancer and, if detected quickly enough, most sufferers make a full recovery. The doctors will have to assess the situation and your mum will most likely have an operation to remove the cancerous parts and then a course of chemotherapy or radiotherapy to kill the remaining cancerous cells. It all depends on whether they have caught it in time. If you want, you can always call up her doctor and get him/her to explain to you exactly what's going on and what you can do to help. Hope I have helped a little
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Can you get pregnant from giving head sence the cum goes in your mouth with sperms in it? (link)
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No. You can only get pregnant if the sperm enters your vagina not your mouth.
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I'm almost 19 years old and everytime I have sex it still hurts. Not to sound weird but its like the first 4 inches dont hurt but as it goes in more it does. I've had it about 20+ times and tried different positions. Has this ever happened to anyone else or does anyone know why this still hurts? (link)
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Perhaps because you are not turned on enough.. try more foreplay before you actually start having sex or use something like ky jelly. Hope this helps a little. Also you will get worried about it every time you have sex so you will tighten up and not relax
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Hi, I recently started having sex with my boyfriend. After talking about it for a couple months we decided we were ready. The problem is, it doesn’t feel good. I’m relaxed and everything so I’m confused. Should I tell my boyfriend? I’m scared to because he might feel bad and blame him self. Is there something wrong with me? (link)
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No there is nothing wrong with you but I think you aren't doing enough foreplay to begin with before you actually start having sex. Spend time touching eachother etc and finding out what turns eachother on and slowly you will become even more realxed and start to find the sex much more pleasurable. Hope this helps a little
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Hey guyz! I REALLY NEED HELP BAD
i really NEED to shave my legs but i dont know how to ask my mom! I really NEED HELP
plz help me
-Needin Help B A D (link)
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Just tell her! Ask her to buy you a razor or if u can't ask her straight out then write a list and put a razor in there at the bottom. She should be fine about it but I do understand its a bit nervewracking. If she says no then just tell her that all your friends do and you don't want to be teased for having hairy legs because some of your friends have and that's why they started. I'm sure she will understand though. Good luck and hope this helps a little!
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