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When is the right time, if there is one, for girls to be thinking about and wanting to have sex>?
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There is no right time for thinking about it or wanting to have sex. Those are feelings and they just come upon us. We can control our feelings, but we can control what we do about them. There is a right time to HAVE sex. But in my opinion, there are many factors that have to be in place before it should happen. And this is so you can avoid all of the heart ache that can accompany the act of being intimate with someone.
First you should be mature enough to have taken steps to prevent pregnancies, and sexually transmitted diseases. And you should know what those steps are.
Second you should be in love with the person you are going to be intimate with.
Third you should be in a committeed relationship.
Married would be best, but I don't expect you'll wait for that.
Committed because if there is an accident, and you do get pregnant you won't be left to deal with the consequences all on your own or with your parents.
The person you choose to fall in love with and have sex, should have the same convictions as you do about preventing pregnancy and diseases and also not try to pressure you into having sex before you are ready.
If all of these things are in place, that means that most likely you are responsbile enough and mature enough to handle the responsiblities of haveing sex, and deal with the possibilities of heart ache is things don't work out.
I hope this helps
MIchele
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There is never a certain age or time - some girls lose it when they are 16 - others in their 20's for example. You know when you are ready when you are with a guy who you know will make you feel special and make you feel ready to. The worst thing you could do is to lose it just becuase you feel you should and your friends have - some of my friends did that and all of them really regretted. The best thing is to be with a guy you feel totally comfortable with and relaxed around and in that way it will be a really amazing experience. I hope I have helped a little - let me kow if there's anything else you want to know x
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Theres really no right time to want it, because every girl will probably want it when they are a teenager, or when they have a close boyfriend. Thinking about it, you can think about sex just about anytime, I'm sure after you learn about it, you'll think about it from time to time. But, just because we feel the desire to want to have sex, it does not mean we should fufill those feelings and just do it. I wouldn't tell you to have sex when you're ready, because you aren't ready when you're 13 through out 18, I don't care what anyone else says, everyone else is going to tell you when you're ready, but you aren't. I'm fourteen years old, and I'm definetly not ready. Sex has serious consequences, it can change your life. Pregnancy robs you of your childhood. If you're old enough to raise a child or would be able to, thats when you should have sex, now I don't mean if your a teenager thinking you can raise a child, I mean if you're an adult. It is so important to set your own high standards for when you will have sex, and its mostly important that you follow that. Don't let your friends pick when, you pick. When teens have sex, the only part of them thats ready is that they are in love, so they go ahead and do it out of an act of love, which should be done in that way, but it takes more.
-TheTeenGirl
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