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my mom is soo rude
my mom puts me down so much and i dont know what to do anymore...like if i do sumthin shell jus say sumthin rude about it and leave it at that...nothen i do ever is good enoguh for her..all the rude things she says to me makes me cry so much and she dont even think whut she says hurts me...i try to talk to her but she never listen...my dad is even doin it now to..i dont kno whut to do ne more..help
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I think you should just sit down with her and tell her you really need to talk about something. Tell her that wat she says to you makes you really sad and that you don't think she believes in you. If she loves you like a mom should love their kid then she should understand.
hope i helped
Tay
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holy cow thats what's happening to me! well to be honest i never really solved that problem, but just remember deep down she probably still loves you. it takes a whole lot to have a kid and she might be tired especially if she has more kids and a full-time job. plus, if she really didn't like you...you'd probably be kicked out of your house.
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just ignor it, believe me i know how you feel, as long as your parents think what they are doing is ok, then they're not going to stop, most parents believe that if they do something that means they are instantly doing it the right way. when in retrospect a lot of parents have no clue as to how to decently and respectfully raise their kids. try talking to someone like your school councelor and see if you can meet with your parents at a place like your school where you don't have to worry so much about what they are saying and talk to them, if that doesn't work then hey, just start looking for an out-of-state college then they'll be out of your hair and you don't have to talk to them again, that's what i'm doing
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To start with, there are far too many reasons that your parents might be doing this and without more speculation it is useless to speculate as to the likliehood of one reason over another. That said, sometimes parents are foolish enough to take out their frustrations at each other, their careers, finances, or anything else in their lives on innocent children who cannot fight back. It's also possible that your parents are simply ill mannered louts. Whatever the reason that this is going on, it needs to stop.
I recommend seeing a school counselor and explaining the situation to them. They can help sort things out and your parents will finally have to listen to how you feel about the way they treat you. Remember, there is no stigma on getting outside help. It's a hard world out there and I'm sorry to say that it doesn't get any easier from here. Still though, there are nice people and resources along the way to help people who are smart enough and humble enough to ask for it. Coming here was the first step, are you smart and humble enough to take the next?
Finally, until things are resolved, or at least better, you need to take care of yourself. First off you need to distance yourself from your parents and that stressful situation as much as possible, whether that is at a friend's house or in the library. Second, you'll need to find someone to confide in and to vent to about the situation so you don't worry yourself sick. Again I recommend a counselor or a good friend. Lastly, as hard as it may be at times you need to remind yourself that despite what they say you do have worth. You are not worthless by far, you are just in a bad situation and that isn't your fault.
You will make it.
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I think she needs to realise shes doing this, and the only way to do that is to give her a taste of her own medicine. Not all the time, because she'll assume your always like that, but just sometimes say something like she would. And if she says "Thats so rude take it back immediately" then say something like "you say stuff like that to me all the time." And the next time she says something horrible and down-putting to you, just say something that proves your point that she is quite rude to you. Don't do it all the time, other times look quite down heartened, but eventually she will come to realise that she has ben putting you down. After about a week, if she hasn't said anything along the lines of an apology, then maybe you should approach her again, just asking her if she realises that you get upset about it, and be really polite about it. Hope this helps, adios!
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write a (key-mean) letter. and until they respond with another letter or talk to you spend the night out do as little as you possibly can with them. dont let your grades slip, dont do drugs, or anything terrible. and if this continues you can always fall back on that. be like, " JESUS mother what the fuck do you want? i make straight a's, people my age overdose while i havent even tried drugs, and im a good teen. leave me alone." and slam the door
hope it works
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Ugh! Tell her how you feel if that doesn't help, go to a guidance counsler and tell her how you are feeling. Maybe she can help your family.
-Brianna
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Get another relative to help. Either an aunt, grandma, grandpa, or uncle (from your mom's side). Have them tell your mom how much this is hurting you. If they tell hers he'll probably listen to them. As for your dad, if he started because of your mom he will probably stop when she stops. I hope I elped! ♥ good luck
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I've had this problem before. What I do is whenever they start talking about me in a mean sense, I just leave the room. If you aren't able to do this, say, "Mom, I really don't appreciate you talking about me in that way, would you enjoy it if I did that to you?" If the problem persists, sit them both down and say that you need to talk and they need to listen because it's a big problem and then explain how they make you feel and that it's not a normal way to treat your kid.
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omg hunn.. I'm so sorry about that. I know someone that has your problem too. You need to sit both your parents down and tell them to listen to you first and not inturupt. Then spill your guts out.. it's ok if you start crying... it will show them how mush you were hurt. If they keep saying mean things to you.. just stop talking to them. i know that's not the best.. but they will start really truly missing you and maybe pay attention to your thoughts. Please IM me if you have any more trobles or if you just need to talk.. it's xo3maris3ox. Good luck!
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Your mom suffers from low self-esteem, and if she keep it up, you will too. (IF not already) She really needs to stop. Most likely she was raised the same way. Are you a witness to how your grandmother treats your mom? I went through this also at your age. It nearly ruined my life. It definitely had an affefct on the decision I made in my adult life, and I made alot of bad ones, because I didn't think I was good enough for any thing, or any one, or any job, or any dream that I had. Didn't believe I was capable of doing anything right. Boy was my mom wrong. And so is yours. It still needs to stop though, because you are stuck living there until you are of legal age. (I got out as soon as I was 18, and never went back) You might try saying this.
"DOes it make you feel better to put me down?" I hope it's helping you, because it sure isn't helping me!". Or say. "If you spoke to your friends that way (or your co-workers) you wouldn't have any!"
I hope this helps. Your mom needs therapy. Hang in there, soon you will be an adult and you can get out. You wil get positive feedback from your friends and co-workers and boss too.
Michele
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Tell her the truth say that you alway put me down which makes you feel bad, Say that your my mum and your ment to support me. Then see if she feels bad.
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My mom used to do that to me but then i was like, what is good for her isnt good for me and what my best is is all i can do that makes me happy, so at one point i wasnt even telling or talking to her.. that was maybe for like a week but i mean still, i hate to be down talked, and im sure everyone does. But all i can say is that sometimes you just have to ignore the impossible and get through it your own way. Not to whats best for someone else.
h.i.h. and good luck!
if you need to talk to someone about things that you cant talk about to other people feel free to IM me at n3thinbut0rdinry
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be rude back give them attuide
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It obviously sounds like your mom is emotionally abusing you. The sad thing is that she probably doesn’t even know that she is having this affect on you. I think its time you speak up and tell her all the emotional damage that she is putting you through . I understand that it might be a difficult issue to talk about, you have to make her acknowledge what she is doing and how she is hurting you. I guarantee that by communicating with her she will think twice before she is rude to you. If she doesn't listen to you try catching her attention by saying something traumatic....... The only thing that can make this situation better is if you all express your feeling on what is going on.....
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Ok, I know this sounds bad.. but just ignore her. Don't strive to meet her demands... Just let what she says slide down your back. If it is getting worse and you can't ignore her, talk to a teacher/ your grandparents. Parents HATE that. They think they are perfect parents until their moms/dads get on their backs.. So do something... Don't let your parents break you.
S
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Try talking to another adult about it like your aunt or grandma. See if they can say something. It always helps 2 have sumone 2 help tho. Maybe you should juss try n Ignore her or b lyk well mom ur wrong bout that. Hope that I helped!!!
~*Tori*~
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fucking stab her.
-hitler
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