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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


ps
(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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Okay, call me a loser but I like to read
I am a 14/f.
And I am supposed to be going to Books-A-Million today or tomorrow
Does anyone know and good mystery or scary books ?
please if yuo can, name more than one :]

-Thank you.

try "the husband" i think it's by daniel steel, but i'm not sure, it's not really scary but it's a thriller

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My friend's boyfriend is basically an allout loser. He treats her wicked badly, and makes her cry almost every night. It's to the point where she has cut herself because of him. She constantly asks if he still loves her or not, and he says she's wicked annoying. Which I understand, but he doesnt need to upset her like this. She says she relizes he treats her this way, yet she does nothing about it. How can I make her stop all this. I honeslty cant take it, its to the point where even i get upset about it. What do I do?!

something like this sounds like it is going to take some tough love for her, take it from someone who used to cut, many people don't understand why people do it, but i know that i've never done it over a boy, if she loved herself enough then she'd know when she's with someone who isn't good for her, she should understand that most people don't change so odds are he's going to stay like this for a long time, she needs to just break up with him and find someone who'll treat her the way she deserves to be treated

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Im 20 years old, im engaged and getting married this july. and im a virgin. i am TERRIFIED of the thought of having sex. my fiance says he will respect my feelings, but it just really scares me. i dont kno what to do. i love him so much, and the idea of sex, like connecting with someone because you love them so much is nice. but im terrified of the what happens. i know that probably sounds ridiculous to a lot of people, but i could really use some advice.

Thanx

i still remember the first time i had sex, it was a little scary but i did it with someone that i loved and it was ok, not scary at all after things got started. just don't do it until you know you're ready or else you'll regret it, a lot of people that i know regret their first times because they weren't ready or the did it with someone that they didn't feel much for, so as long as you know that you're ready then you'll be ok. you will be happy, and fyi if and when the time comes for you to have sex just take it slow and it'll all be ok



and ps props on getting a man who respects your wishes about sex, you don't find that much very often so you obviously got yourself a good man, i'd say keep him

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Ok well me n this boy have been friends for about a year now and he asked me out like 2 weeks ago.. i said yes so were officially gf and bf.. well anyways he acts like when i touch him hes gunna puke or somethin like when i hug him he ussually never hugs me back and when he does its weak.. and he never makes the first move... hes also been talkin to his old gf and im startin to get upset and annoyed can u please give me some advice?

you've gotta talk to him, that the biggest part of any relationship is communication...maybe you rushed into things with him quickly, if you could hug each other before you started dating then maybe you two are better off as friends, and if him talking to his old girlfriend bothers you then you should tell him that too...hope i helped

shay

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Ok well me and this boy are goin out n he is not that physical.. like if i go to hold his hand he will just stand there, well hell hold my hand back but he never holds my hand or when i give him hugs he just stands there and my friends say he looks like hes uncomfortable with me hugging him wat should i do?

talk to him, find out if he's uncomfortable with being physical in any ways, let him know that you want to make him happy and to tell you if he is uncomfortable with anything that goes on in your relationship...hope i helped

shay

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ok so pretty much i text like 4 times a day, and w/o plans for verizon, thats 10 cents a text right? so thats like 12 dollars, so what are some possible plans i can have if i text mainly to verizon and i want about 100 texts a month. whats the CLOSEST thing to that?

you may want to try the $5 plan, you get 250 messages, i suggest that

shay

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i know you can call anyone in verizon for free, (IF YOU HAVE VERIZON) but can you text people for free too? thanks in advance

hey i work at verizon, the $5 text package has changed, now it's $5 for 250 messages, and $10 for unlimited to verizon customers and 500 to any one else like sprint or cingular...any other cell questions feel free to ask

shay

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My BF still speaks to his ex-gf. She lives in a different state but they chat on MSN. They were together over a year. I guess I'm a pretty jealous person, but I actually don't believe in being friends with your exes. I'm not friends with any of mine (I don't hate them though) It's causing me a lot of worry and upset because they've broken up and got back together several times and I'm afraid its going to happen again. would it be unreasonable for me to ask him to stop speaking to her? when i asked him how he felt about her, he said they won't get back together because she no longers likes guys... but I dunno. Doesn't sound very convicing to me. What should I do?

thanks

your first mistake would be to tell him tostop talking to her, it's been my experience that when youtell a guy to stop talking to a girl then he'll either keep talking to her more or break up with you, just tell him thatyou're not comfortable with it or even ask what kind of things the two of them talk about, if he cares about you then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. it's ok to get jealous but if it gets to far you may end up losing your boyfriend, and fyi it's ok to still be friends with an ex, especially if they were together for a long time. i was with my ex for two and a half years and he and i are still close friends. they may still have feelings for each other but he's with you now and not her and that's what you've got to remember...

hope i helped

shay

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ok so last summer i got a haircut rite? it came out HORRIBLE, too WAY TOO short! i was so embaressed. so i went to a professional place and it got even worse. i was ALWAYS getting made fun of and i hated it. well the past school year i whore my hair up every single day! now i want my hair to grow really long but since the last haircut i got was a year ago, i dont think my hair will grow. i dont want to "get a trim" cause i want it to grow! should i just snip a tiny bit of hair off myself? please help!

don't cut your own hair, trust me it always ends up worse, try garnier fructis they have this line called "long and strong" it's supposed to help heal split ends, which may be why your hair isn't growing, and it is also supposed to help your hair grow out too. hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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ok i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago.. my bf had a condom on and everything but all i keep thinkin bout is me gettin pregnant.. im not showin any signs like.. gettin sick or things like that.. i cant really remember when my last period was so i guess i cant really go by that.. but i keep like totally frkin out! when do the signs start to show.. and if u use a condom what r the risks of pregnancy!!! please help me

odds are if you used a condom and you know it didn't break, you'll be fine but what you could do is go to planned parenthood and they will give you a pregnancy test and it's 100% confidential

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im really thinking about having sex, yes I know I have thought about everything and I want to. I was wondering that what it feels like to a women 5'4 115 lbs. so like what exactly does it feel like? and like what are the best positions for having sex? if there is anything else about sex that you think i should know please tell me


i know this is a stupid question but i wanna know


ill rate high

sex is different to everyone, who you have sex with will reflect on what it feels like. when i had sex for the first time it was with another virgin so it was different than it would have been had the guy i was with not been a virgin. i do reccomend however to have sex with someone meaningful and don't do it with some random guy that you don't have feelings for.

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ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!

i think you should talk to your parents about possibly adopting her it sounds like you've got agood home environment and you care about her a lot, ask your parents if it would be possible and then explain to them (your mom would be best) and tell her that you just want to help your friend to find a good home

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my gf Sandy and I are close..in her point of veiw. I dont like Sandy at all. But Sandy REALLY likes me. People want me to kiss her..but i dont want to.I just want to be friends. Besides..my friend Jack likes Sandy i think..so Jack gets mad at me. and if i break up with Sandy people might get mad at me. But i really want to break up with Sandy. Its hard to break up with her to.. because we talk on the phone all day and stuff. I really dont like her.

if you don't like her and you're not happy with her then you shouldn't be with her no matter what otherpeople think, you deserve to be happy and if jack likes her so much then he should be with her not you

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13/f

ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away?

yeah, if he's your bud then no doubt you've got him on your buddylist so just IM him and talk to him that way plus there's the phone and when you get your license you can go visit him

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i have brown light hair i want to dye it blonde with lemon juice would i look better blonde

i've got brown hair and i highlight it, i think it looks good, try highlights first and see how that looks and if you like it then do the whole thing

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ok so..i broke up w/ my bf cuz his friends threaten me and fight w/ me and stuff and i just couldnt take it anymore..and now i think it was a bad idea to break up w/ him..wat should i do?

talk to him and explain why you broke up with him and tell him that you still care a lot about him

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hey this i a very weird question to ask you guys out in public but my bf and i want to start having sex. But idk if he wants my "pussy" shaved or not and im not going to ask him because it would be awkward. What do you think i should do?

most guys like it shaved

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wats the easiest way to break-up with a guy without saying "lets just be friends"?? or getting someone else to do it??

just sit him down and tell him how you feel, if he's in love with you then there's no way to do it without hurting him, all you can do is tell him the truth and hope for the best

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Hi, Im 15 female and Ive been wanting to go to Kings Island *a big amustment park in my state its about 45 minutes away from my house* and the person I want to drive with is a 17 year old male and a 15 year old female. The 17 year old male would be driving but my mom wont let me go because she doesnt know him and hasnt seen him drive. Ive already asked if she could meet him and then even drive with him but she wont go for that. Can anyone give me any advice on how to convince her to let me? Thank you.

i doubt it, most parents are very stubborn

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Okay... this is hard for me. Because my boyfriend travels and works... and he's going to be leaving on Sunday for twelve days. When he gets back on the 24th, he'll be leaving the next day for two weeks on a vacation to Florida with his family. I want to do something special for him tomorrow... and he's under a LOT of stress b/c his car just died on him today when he got home from Alabama. I just want tomorrow to be a fun day for us and I want him to be able to remember it. Anyone have any ideas at all please help. I'm 15/f he's 18/m!!!

i recommend this: take your boyfriend on a picknick (pending weather) and watch the sunset together, make him a card or something just something that he canbring with him that tells him how much you care for him and how much you'll miss him.

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