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hey im 15 yrs old..an everyone that i start to like or anyone random they just ask me to have sex with them!! Melissa what should i do about this problem i mean im onlii 15 yrs old..but i never did anything yet..but im just wounderin if u could give me some advice
well you should NEVER do anything your uncomfortable doing just to please others !you should wait til your older,find the right person and the rest will fall into place. you cant do things to make your boyfriend/girlfriend happy because then really are you happy? :/ so be wise , take my advice ;) if ya need to talk more my sn is teenqueen21711 - i hope ive helped ;) -melissa xoxo
ok I'm going out with this kid and his cuzin and everyone in school is telling me hes cheating on me with 5 other girls and I really love him even thought we just got together. And I kinda beleave his cuzin but I'm not sure if I should or not.Can you please help me.!.!.!.!:/
Confused.
The only way your ever going to find out is by asking your boyfriend. Talk to him. He might not even know about the rumors. Make sure you tell him to be seriou about this and to tell you the TRUTH !! I hope this helps. =) xox -Melissa
ok~ im 16 years old...im still a virgin, and hardly no one ever believes me...i mean later on they do but it takes awhile to kick in.lol...ok, well the thing is, i feel like i gotta have it now! idk if you know wut i mean, but i just get so sexually frustrated some times you know? i mean the only thing keeping me from it is i dont want to end up pregnant before i graduate...i know i should probably wait, but sometimes i dont think i can.lol...i know using protection is a good thing and i should do that, well i deff. am going to, but its only 99.9% full-proof...so yeah...help me out please!
I think you should wait ! Please don't make a stupid mistake most teens do. Your so young, and should just enjoy being 16 . Life goes by fast and before you know it, you'll be old enough to start your own family. And just think about if you were to get pregnant ! Your not ready be a parent yet. Thanx for asking
Melissa
ok~ i just started going out with this guy on july 8th. but i have liked him since we were both in 8th grade. we're goin to 11th now. i love him soo much and i would do anything and everything for him...i can tell him anything, and i feel great around him. he loves me for me, and is not just after one thing. hes my perfect guy. but...although i have tried to tell him how i feel i always think there is so much more to say, when there really isnt lol. but the thing is. his ex...jus broke up with him like one month ago to move to w.v...and she was the first person he has ever loved. i want him to be able to open up to me and turst me. im nothing like her and would never hurt him. i couldnt live with myself if i hurt him. but even though i tell him that, it seems like nothing works. wut should i do?
Spend lots of time with your bf .Sometimes you just have tell him the way you feel straight out. Be HONEST !
i am having trouble with the girl i am with. she will not have sex with me because of my size, and i am afraid there is nothing that will fix this problem. what can i do to convince her to follow her feelings?
well you should tell her that it doesnt matter what the size is . All that matters is that you two love each other and sex should be something that your both ready for. I hope I've helpd. ask anytime. xoxox- Melissa
i really like u a lot. u are so sexy and gorgeous. but i dont know how to tell u
AWW Thank you =) You can try telling me straight out .
Well I meet this guy(let’s call him e)in net 1 month ago and he is my bf now…But he hurt me twice coz of having sex with other gurlz bcoz he want me to be that gurl his having sex of…I couldn’t meet him coz im in the other side of the world im an Asian and he is an American. I already forgive him but what should I do, he didn’t know that I have a bf in real life(J) were gonna be 1 year on July 12 but I really like him coz I think his really perfect for me but in J side I don’t feel that we have any chemistry for each other now. I don’t wanna hurt J…plz help me!!!
jam~15~f
Hun, if you really like this guy then stay with him but dont put yourself in a difficult relationship.Try to follow your heart but dont make stupid decisions. I Think its alot easier to have a relationship with someone that you can see everyday or anyday just because they live near you. I hope Ive helpd. Ask more if you need to.
xoxo-Melissa
my sis thinks your pretty and called you her rolemodel by the way I like your coulumn
aww thats so sweet ! tell her I said thanx ! =)
Ok et me see how I can make this short. I have this bestfriend and he is so sweet! I mean I liked him since the first day I saw him. But He didnt know. come to find out on the last week of school he likes me to! So we dated for two days. Then I broke up with him. IT was hard to date him bc if fellt like my brother. And I mean I didnt like his reputation. So I broke up with him. Therewas 3 days left of school and everyone and him told me he was gonig to move to his grannies house to go to the same Highschool as me and live closer to me bc I moved. And i Just feltso bad. So on the last day I planned to tell hiM I was sorry and I wanted him back. Ididnt go the last day bc I moved. It sucked! well yesterday I talked to him on the phone and I found out hes going out with one of his ex gfs and he got her pregnant again. So I still wanna tell him but now I dont ant him to leave her. What should I do? plz I rate so high if yo even just give me a short answer Ill give you a 3-5 plz!
help!!!!!!
signed
~M~I~S~C~E~L~L~A~N~E~O~U~S~
| would have to say ask him if he wants you and if he does talk to his new girlfriend and see if she would still let him see his child if they break up.
I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
Well hun, If a boy likes you ,usally he will tease you call you names or he can be real shy around you . He might look at you and then like turn away real quick. if you dont want to actually talk to him, try writing to him on a note or talk to him on the computer. I hope everything goes well. Thanks for asking -Melissa xoxo
my friend and i are best friends and well this other girl came into the picture. well this other girl was my best friend and now that this girl came into the picture i was dicted!!
i would try to make pkan with the three of us but they would go behind my backand make there own plans!!
it really is upsetting
Try talking to your first friend to begin with because if you dont talk to her about how you feel then shes never gonna suspect anything is wrong. Thanks for asking ! =) -melissa xoxo
hey im 13 male and i like this gurl at another school whos friends with another one of my friends thats a gurl. weve only seen eachother twice and ahvent talked much but talk a bit online...i wanna get to know her better but afriad that if we end up liking eachother we wont see eacother taht much since she goes to another school....what should i do?
confused guy
well its kinda your decision on whether you want that kind of relationship but it might be a challenge since she goes to another school.If you really like her then I say go for it and hope for the best. Let your heart decide and dont have your mind hold you back ;) I hope Ive helped. -Melissa xoxo
How could you tell if a guy is nervous to talk to you???
I think if he doesnt come up to you right away but hes still looking at you. Sometimes a guy will stand there and think before he comes to talk to you. He might even just walk away. I hope these signs help you. -Melissa xoxo
In school, everyone always makes fun of me because of my flat butt...So I thot I would take this summer to improve myself. Does anyone have any instant exercises that can make my butt look toned and bigger? Thanks!
Honey dont try to impress others. Not everyone is perfect looking -it may seem that but its not true ! Its not a good idea to follow the crowd because then you become one of them. I know that my butt is not bootylisous LOL and thats because I enjoy what God gave me. If you really want to though try laying on the ground on your stomach and lifting one leg at a time. For each leg count to 10. I hope I've helped* -Melissa xoxo
Hey!
Ok, my 2 best friends, we'll call them 'Bailey' and 'Hailey'. We haven't done anything together over this summer, and I just called Bailey yesterday and said we should try to do something. Bailey automatically said yeah, Hailey can come too. Now, I know for a fact Bailey and Hailey have already hung out this summer. What can I do to just hang out with one of them at a time?
Thanks!
Tell them that you cant make plans with them at the same time. Make sure your nice about it . Explain to them that you both want to do something with them but only one at a time !*
I hope this helped you ;) Ask again if needed.
-Melissa xoxo
i need a good tined mostuizer that will get rid of redness, and a good like powder eyeliner that is good for a girl with dark brown hair and fair skin, also dark brown eyes, but my skin tone is very light for my hair, ( my hair is naturally dark and my mom won't let me die it) please help thank you soo much
Try baby lotion - it works good. umm Some good Eyeliner I use is Revlon . I hope I've helped
xoxo-Melissa W.
hey well this guy i like hugged me and stuff cause it was a bad day cause meh grandma just died and the bad part is that 2 of meh friends kept sayin it like over and over again "U should hug her now" and stuff but it lasted for like 5 seconds and my friend said he was smilin when he came to meh and wen we were hugging. . . how do i tell a good hug from a bad one? like oh im just doin this just becuz
please help me we graduate like in a few dayz
Thnks sooooooooooo much!
Aww Im soo sorry about your loss :( I think you could confront him about it and say well I heard people talking and saying stuff like you didnt really want ot hug me or something like that- Be honest. It will go a long way in life :) And say to him its ok if he didint want to hug you but to joke about death is not funny. i hope ive helped. ;) Ask anytime*
again if needed or refer a friend to me
There's this girl that I'm really deeply in love with, but she's still with this guy that's 20 yrs old, and she's 8 days older than me, I love her to death, and she knows it, we're both 17 and I don't know what else to do, because she says I haven't done anything wrong, and last weekend, she let me kiss her, even though she's going out with this guy, and now she's saying she just wants to be friends, I'm really confused, was it something I possibly did wrong? Or is it that she doesn't love me as much as she says she does?
Adam (Kate and Sheila's friend)
No No No you didnt do anything wrong except open up your heart to her -thats not worng thats love :) shes probaly really confused about whether who to like and where to go. Maybe shes having mixed feelings right now so just try to be a good friend to her and let her know you care. :) I hope Ive help * xoxo-Melissa
Ask anytime
I have recently been dating this guy named Nick and I feel he doesn't love me as much as he says he does. I just don't know what to do.He likes his x I think but I'm not sure how do I know If he dose or not? I love him more then anything and I get this feeling when I'm around him that I know he loves me and that we were ment for each other.
The key to the best relationship is honesty !*
Ok I hear you have good advice and I need to ask you if my bf is cheating on meI know he still likes his x girlfriend because everytime he looks at her he smiles he told me he loves me more then he loved her but I dont beleave him sometimes he said my friends are lieing to me to help this one boy get hooked up with me I say I love him and I mean it I have this werd feling when I'm with him and it's hard to explainand I'm only 11 and I do really really love him more then anything in the world he told me he loved me more then anything in the world like I did on an e-mail.But that dosen't bother me.
Soo please help me.
Your Boyfriend very well be still having feelings for his old love but maybe he's just trying to get use to the new way things are. Try having a serious and Honest* talk with him.Try telling him "you mean all the world to me"; and I want to know if you truly feel the same way about me ?". If you are still confused , dont be afraid to ask ;) I hope I've helped