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Sex Phobia
Im 20 years old, im engaged and getting married this july. and im a virgin. i am TERRIFIED of the thought of having sex. my fiance says he will respect my feelings, but it just really scares me. i dont kno what to do. i love him so much, and the idea of sex, like connecting with someone because you love them so much is nice. but im terrified of the what happens. i know that probably sounds ridiculous to a lot of people, but i could really use some advice.
Thanx
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It sounds like you have a fear of sex which has really no backing/reason, which like your subject title suggests it's probably a phobia. First off, I'm sure you already are, but be thankful you have such an understanding boyfriend/fiance. As for the sex thing, the more you worry about it the more you're working yourself up about it; try not to worry about it, and if you can't stop worrying about it, maybe you should talk to a professional about it or if the idea of spending some money in therapy etc, at the very least I suggest you should send this question to [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) who probably can come up with a better/ more qualified answer than me and possible quite a few other people. Good luck and I hope you guys have a good wedding.
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i still remember the first time i had sex, it was a little scary but i did it with someone that i loved and it was ok, not scary at all after things got started. just don't do it until you know you're ready or else you'll regret it, a lot of people that i know regret their first times because they weren't ready or the did it with someone that they didn't feel much for, so as long as you know that you're ready then you'll be ok. you will be happy, and fyi if and when the time comes for you to have sex just take it slow and it'll all be ok
and ps props on getting a man who respects your wishes about sex, you don't find that much very often so you obviously got yourself a good man, i'd say keep him
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Hi. You probably shouldn't feel rediculous about this topic. Some people are ready to have sex at different times, such as 9 years old to 90 years old. Well, you know. Different ages.
You should not be ashamed, you will be ready when you are ready.
That is a really good thing that your fiance respects you, that is a good attribute in relationships. He will wait.
Don't pressure yourself to have sex when you don't want to, or are afraid to. Then, you might end up even more scared than before you did it!
However, you can (if you want) look up the facts of sex and what happens. Ask your fiance, friends, family, professionals. Maybe knowing the facts and what you are supposed to feel will calm you down. Fear is the unknowing. Get in the know!
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Okay so you have Genophobia which is the phobia of having sex or sexual contact. I suggest seeing a physcologist or doctor.
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alright well first of all, congradulation =) hope you guys have a long life together.
and to your sex phobia. you shouldn't be feeling forced to have sex. seeing has your fiance said he will respect you for it. eventually one day your gonna feel ready enough to make love to him and it will be very special. don't feel like your weird because of it, it's a comman fear. just wait till it feels ok. that's all i can tell you.
hope i helped and congradulations again x3
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