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my friend's dad rapes her and abuses her!!
ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!
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Of course you should tell someone. This can emotionally scar her forever. If he does it once, he's going to do it again. It might get worse. Tell your parents right away. It'll be hard for everyone, but you have to be there for her. She's probably going to get mad at you, but anything is better than this. By helping, she'll eventually figure out that you love her and will be there for her any time. Love and support from all her friends will get her through tough times.
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i think you should talk to your parents about possibly adopting her it sounds like you've got agood home environment and you care about her a lot, ask your parents if it would be possible and then explain to them (your mom would be best) and tell her that you just want to help your friend to find a good home
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okay this is really serious y0u have to tell y0ur parents because what if he does more the next time y0u shouldnt keep y0ur promise on this one ... this is a really serious problem y0u at least have to tell y0ur parents or the cops because this can really hurt y0ur friend ... omg just trust me on this y0u have to tell someone!!
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Yes I think you could tell your mom. Let her help you decide where to go from here. Some secrets are better not kept to yourself and this is one of them. Your friend needs help. It should never happen...not even only once. She doesn't have to put up with that kind of treatment and shouldn't put up with it just to keep changes from happening. :)
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ok you better tell someone. i mean if it keeps going like that, it will eventually lead to suicide. i am dead serious... so please please please tell one of the trust worthy adult whom you can trust, and take your friend with you when you tell that adult, i mean she might get mad but talk to her reasonably...
about how you dont want her to suffer anymore, and you cant bare to do nothing when she's hurting like that and that you are trying to help her. and if she gets help, there wont be no more physical and sexual abuse. but only love and new parents who will love her as if they were her real parents... or even better, i know this usually dont happen but if your family is financially ok and stuff, talk to them about making her their foster kid.
so you go and do that As soon as possible and hope this helped =)
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hey hun, i know it will be hard but you need to tell someone, the police, your parents, a teacher at school that your close to. yes you promised but what would you rather have happen? her dying or getting really hurt or her getting a little mad at you? my friend told me that she cut and i told my mom and my mom called her mom, it was hard for me because i promised but i know i did the right thing and it feels good to know that you were right.
hope i could help!
- xO
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i know you want to keep your friends secret but you need to tell someone. it's not fair to your friend that she is being raped and abused. i know she may be mad at first but when she is older and looks back on it she will be so glad that you were there to tell someone and save her. things could get worst as she gets older so it's better if you tell someone right away.i think also that since she was adopted its even more important to tell someone. her father may try to adopt another child once she is old enough to move out and he may rape and abuse that child as well.
i hope i helped
~dejaune~
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you should tell and sdult it dosent have to be your parent kjust someone you trust. becasue if you were such a goof griend you wouldn't make her suffer.
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i think you should tell some kind of couselor so they can talk to her..your parents (not saying they are bad or anything) are also average humans and they could take matters into their own hands and make matters worse...it happens. no matter how much it happens, it just shouldnt. the benefits of telling a counselor are: they cant tell anyone, they can actually do something about it, if it was your parents your friend would be a bit embarrassed around them (i would be!) hope this helps! <3
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Hey
i think you should tell some one cuz no kid should ever get something like that done to her
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Well..i think that the right thing to do is tell someone that can help..because if it was you would you want to be living hell like that? Since you guys are close and everything the best thing is to help her. If she doesnt like you for a while for telling someone, just tell her that you just saved her life..because you never know what can happen to her if you dont tell.
..I hope I helped
:heart:Leah
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You have done the best thing asking for advise you friend is frightened and desperately crying out for help, she has placed her trust in you and in these circumstances you need to tell an adult you are a child and cannot carry this burden, Your friend will be better off and recieve the best of care if this comes to light as she will be looked after and she will thank-you one day this needs putting to a stop or she will remain misserable and this could happen to her again and again you are a good friend or you would not be asking this question and you care very much waht happens to your friend, You really will be doing the best thing if you tell an adult.
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ok what i would do is tell your mum but tell her that you want help but that you promised your friend hat you wouldt say anything. dont let her go through with the pain of having her rape her again. just now i wouldnt tell like he police because children tend to over exagurate things mabey its not as bad a s it seems but for just now talk to YOUR mum she'll help you and her throug this
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well i know it isn't fun what she is going through with her dad i would tell somebody cause it is really bad what she is going through nobody should have to go through what she is going through but before you tell somebody i would talk to your friend and say i'm only telling people to help you and so you don't have to go through what you are going through and i am doing this for your own good and i really care aboutyour safety because that is what freinds are for i would first tell your parents then if that doesn't work then call the police and tell them what is going on and they will report it as "child abuse" but talk to your friend before you take any type of action if your friend gets mad at you you are telling somebody out of the careness of your own heart because you care about your friend and her safety she didn't want to tell anyone but she told you because she is really close with you personally i think she would be very happy and thankful that you are getting help and that she doesn't have to go through the horrible thing she is going through.
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watch full house telling is the right thing to do
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PLEASE, tell someone! I know it's really hard to break a promise, but like you said, you were half asleep. Now wake up and do the right thing. This is very serious. She doesn't realize how dangerous and serious and emotionally damaging it will get if she let's it keep continuing. Of course she'll be mad at you, but I think deep down inside she will be relieved.
Think of it this way, wouldn't you rather have your friend be mad at you forever and safe than have her like you and be raped and abused by her father? Which would you prefer? So even if she was mad at you forever, it's still the right thing to do. I'm sure she won't be mad forever though, because you guys are friends and she will probably eventually realize you did it because you love her.
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If someone is being hurt, then it's time to break the promise. At first your friend might be mad (I was definitley mad when I heard someone told guidance about me cutting and stuff) but then I was glad that the person told because now I was able to get it all open and get help.
She might be mad at you, but she'll eventually forgive you. If you were being hurt, but you were afraid of something such as being taken away from your family then you wouldn't want anyone to tell, but do you really want your friend to suffer like this? She told you because even though she denies it, she wants you to tell someone, or she just wanted to vent, but you definitly should tell someone.
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when it comes down to being raped and abused....the rules of friendship go out the door!!! TELL SOMEBODY!!! seriously dont play around with that!!! i dont care if she was crying and begging on her knees for you not to tell anybody....you tell your parents and if they blow you off...get the cops involved!!!!
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definately tell someone so she can help and her asshole of a dad can get what he desserves. its only hurting her by not telling anyone. i bet the longest she will stay mad is a few days (she might noot even get mad) and then she will realize what you did was the right thing
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You need to tell an adult- immediatly! Your friend will be very mad at you at first, but she will realize it is for the best. She is in a very unsafe environment being abused and raped... you definetly cant keep this inside you. You are just a kid and you should never have this stress inside you.. if something terrible were to happen to her you would feel awful for not going to an adult- who could have easily prevented it! Now go tell your parents- your friend is in danger and needs you to get her help.. she just hasnt realized it yet!!
<3 Maddie.. hope I helped!
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