I really like it when people ask me for advice, but unfortunatly most of my friends are gone this summer and don't have time to talk to me. And they hardly ever ask me for advice anyway. I need to find less secure friends. Lol. Besides, my summer may get a bit boring. I'm open to any questions, specializing in school work, photography and being a teen. And even if I don't have an answer, it's nice to know someone is as confused as you are.
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i want to become a doctor that delivers babies when im older but at age 16 i need a starting out job to make money. i want to work at jambe juice or cold stone or someting to earn a little cash. but i dont think those are the bestjobs for me if i want to be that kind of doctor. what should my starting out job be? i rate really high (link)
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Your first job rarely has anything to do with your future career. Your first job introduces you to the work scene and helps you get used to working with other people, following directions, assisting customers, etc. Almost any job you could get now will help you in the future. I wish I could work at Cold Stone...
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My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together. (link)
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If there's a lot of people there, he's less likely to treat anyone poorly. I would go to the party for your friend. If her boyfriend is really as bad as you say she is, she's going to need a lot of support. Try to have the two of you stay in a large group of friends. Don't let yourselves be alone with him. If you really think she should break up with him, you should tell her. If he does treat her bad at the party, find a time when you can be alone with her, and explain to her that she deserves better.
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So there is this guy i've been likeing for awhile now, and i know he knows i like him. But hes a ladies man and he flirts with all the girls we hang out with (oh by the way we hang out at the same place at school) anyways yesturday my friend was telling me that whenever he walks by me he looks at me like he want to start a coversation but doesnt know what to say so i text him on my phone (yesturday) and there is still no reply. I really like him and i really dont know what to do. I want to do something about it nut i dint want to sound desperate. Can someone give me ideas of what to do or explain to me if he is ever going to call or text me. Thanks (link)
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Try starting a conversation with him. He might not have gotton your text message because his phone needs new batteries or something. Go up to him and ask him how his weekend was. Or better yet, if he'd like to go see a movie with you. But be careful. If he is a ladies' man, make sure it's not another that's keeping him from talking back.
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this guy i recently broke up with wont leave me alone. he is making me feel really bad for him like saying without me he feels like there is no point to living. also he is constantly asking me out but i keep saying no. why wont this guy give up. someone please help me get this boy to leave me alone!!! (link)
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Tell him nicely that you still think he's a great guy, but you don't like him like that. Assure him that there are other s out there for him. Also, trying going around in groups, especially with some of your guy friends. He'll be more intimidated and less likely to harass you if there are a lot of people around.
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Okay, I'm 14 years old, a male, and I am a homosexual FYI. I lived with my mom until her drug problems escaladed and I had to move with my grandparents. During that time, I became friends with this guy who I am friends with but am totally not attracted to whatsoever. I stayed there for a few months and we signed up for summer P.E. together and everything was going good. Then, I moved with my mom again and I became friends with this other guy who I am totally attracted to and I guess that kinda boosts his personality. I ended up blowing my other friend off and dropped out of summer P.E. to be with the guy I like/love or whatever. Is it bad I kinda ditched my best friend even though its my life and I should be able to do what I want and if this other guy makes me happy that should be the only thing that matters right? Anyways, my summer P.E. friend calls and says I blew him off to be with Ronnie and smoke drugs which isn't entirely false and he hangs up on me. Is it bad that I did this and what should I do now. Also, remember its too late to sign back up for summer P.E. and its also nice to know my summer P.E. friend is a republican and doesn't know I'm gay or anything like that. Please help me out of this bind. (link)
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First of all, try not to bring politics into this. People can form opinions, then actually experience the issue and change their opinon. Explain to your friend that you know blowing him off was wrong, and that you really regret it. While you can spend time with Ronnie, don't forget to spend time with your friend too.
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Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now. Well I've stayed at he's house for the past 2 weeks straight, only been home 2x. My boyfriend loves that I stay there. He feels closer to me and he loves that feelings of having me around to make him happy and when he wakes up he LOVES to see my face sleeping next to hes..but ya whatever I have a problem though. He's little brother is really mean to me (only when he's friends are around) and he says I look like shit and I need to go home this isnt my house and im lazy and just bullshit. Plus he has a friend named trevor which is ALWAYS ALWAYS around him and he never leaves. he acts like its hes house and he tries to tell me to leave but i've been around way longer than him and I hate it soooo much, but im not going to go home because my boyfriend don't want me to..so what should I do about the other 2 guys and don't say "try to ignore them" cause trust me i have already tried that many of times. (link)
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Ever think that maybe your boyfriend's brother is jealous? He could think that his older brother is spending too much time with you and ignoring him. Try including him in some activities. Have the three of you see a movie together, your treat. As for Trevor, next time he tells you to leave, tell him that you're quite comfortable where you are, thank you very much, and leaving is not an option at the moment. Throwing in some large vocab words never hurts either. If your boyfriend's brother does warm to you, he could help too.
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I have a thing with the dark. At night if i go downstairs while everyone is asleep or upstairs in the rooms, im always scared someone is watching me. I dont go downstairs that often but i need help. Is it because im weird or am i going crazy. Please help.. 14 female..
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Everyone is afraid of something. It natural to be afraid of the dark because we can't see things. Humans are extremely cautious when it comes to things we can't see or understand. Don't be afraid to turn on some lights. Or bring a comfort object, like a pillow or a teddy bear. I know I still have to hug my squish pillow every night.
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I've worked for Walgreens for 3 years, for my third year I transferred to a different store close to my school, I haven't had much respect from my boss but I keep trying to make things work.
I got an internship in my field for monday-fridays, so I told my boss @ walgreens that I still want to work saturdays and sundays were ok but I want a day off since summer classes were starting. He said it'd be no problem and that I won't have to work any sundays.
My boss has been scheduling me full weekends for almost over a month now, between my internship and walgreens I haven't had a day off in 5 weeks! I got other responsibilites too such as school, budgeting money, laundry, etc. I have been trying to talk to my boss but he always just avoids or ignores me.
The catch is my internship ends at the end of the year so if I quit walgreens I'll definitely have no job. But my boss always seems to promise and agree to terms and never comes through. I think my reason for quitting is stupid, but I feel that walgreens isn't paying me the respect I've earned (seeing as all the people at this store only worked for the company about a year), and I can't make a single agreement with them 'cuz I have learned I can't trust them. Those reasons and the fact that I'm falling behind in everything else.
I can make it, I know I can, but it's making every lil thing in life harder than it should be. I couldn't even stop by my dad's to say 'happy father's day' because of my hectic work schedule, I feel I'm missing out on a lot but I'd hate to risk unemployment next year. (link)
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Start looking for other jobs now. If you know of a place that will hire you, start applying. Make sure they know what times you want to work. That way you have a job you can go to when you quit Walgreens.
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I'm going to the beach for the first time in years. What things should I make sure to bring? (like make-up, how many bathing suits, what bathing suits, and other stuff..) (link)
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I would bring 2 bathing suits, just in case. Make sure you're comfortable in both.
Sunglasses are helpful and cute.
Suntan lotion. SPF 30 is a good choice, because you can stay out for a while and still get some of a tan.
A beach towel.
Sandels.
A large shirt, incase you burn really bad.
Pony tail holders.
A book/radio/both.
Have fun!
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Im14, and recently my brothers friends have been calling me and asking my brother stuff like how old is ur sis and whats she like and stuff. and i like some of them like i think that they are cute. and my brother has been threatening them and he doesnt have many friends...should i talk to him? or pretend like i dont notice his friends> or what??
thanks. (link)
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Explain to your brother that you're getting older and deserve some space. But keep in mind that he knows these boys better than you do and is keeping them at bay for a good reason. Ask him why he won't let you, and trust him a little. Showing that you're willing to listen will show maturity. Works on parents too.
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Ok, well I give out alot advice my self, but I am unable to think of anything. My story is this: My friend is real big in acting. She does charity plays for small children. She is now pressuring me into going to a summer acting class but I can't go. I have to be free to watch my younger siblings. I want to go, but i also have my responsibility. I've talked to my mom and she says its completely up to me, but I don't know which to choose. If I decide to say no to the class how should I tell her with out hurting her feelings?
Thanks & Sorry if its a little long!
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If you don't want to go, don't. She'll understand if it's not your thing. Support her by going to her shows and helping her rehearse. If you do want to go, you should. You'll have a lot of fun. If you like the atmosphere but can't act, you can do what I did and sign up to do tech for shows. I love seeing shows but can't act. So now I'm employed by our school to do lighting for our auditorium and fine arts center. I get to see my theatre friends too.
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My neighbors enjoy loud music. They are generally good about turning it down when we ask, but lately they are obviously retaliating by being obnoxious in other ways (hollering, honking horns, etc.) One guy even came over and told my Dad that we should do our part and shut our doors and windows. Don't we have a right to fresh air? I don't want this to escalate, but I really find their loud music very rude. Does anyone have ideas of what to do without starting a neighbor war?
Thank you,
Amy (link)
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Ask them one more time, but if it gets to be out of hand, ask your other neighbors. If they're not lovin' the loudness either, then have everyone go over together. Seeing a crowd of people could make them more aware. If it doesn't, the police can break up long parties. I'm sure they could help with loud neighbors.
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ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!
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Of course you should tell someone. This can emotionally scar her forever. If he does it once, he's going to do it again. It might get worse. Tell your parents right away. It'll be hard for everyone, but you have to be there for her. She's probably going to get mad at you, but anything is better than this. By helping, she'll eventually figure out that you love her and will be there for her any time. Love and support from all her friends will get her through tough times.
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ok well last year in 7th grade was the most roughest time ever i could think of!! i was so liked at the begining of the year and people started making rumors up about me and i lost almost every friend....i also got beat up once well i didnt get beat up thats what everybody says i just got in a fight ok and i am just having such a miserable summer bc thats all i ever think about is next year how im not going to have any friends to be with and where im going to sit for lunch and all that ughh i dont know what to do and all my mom says is "i dont know what to tell you" all im really worried about it one person bc she was friends with all the 8th graders and all the 6th graders and shes mean to me and hates me and she could prolly get everybody else to hate me and shes tall and is friends with all the popular people and shes not afriad to come in my face and say crap to me [ITS HAPPEND BEFORE] =[ it just started out i was hanging out with the popular people at the beegining of the year [ i guess thats what i wanteed the most ] and i dont know what happend but they all started hearing roomers and crap and yeah i started to get bad grades and i almost failed 7th grade and all this crap ughhh im not sure if god made all them hate me for a reason? im just so confused=/ somebody please help me ive been going through this forever and i really really need some help please =(
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Be nice to others. Try to make friends. Join a team or club. But NEVER worry about what other people think. If someone comes up to you and insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable, just laugh it off. People who spend all their time making fun of others and putting them down feel really insecure. That 's theory is probably that if all her friends are busy laughing at everyone else, they won't notice her flaws. If she insults you, compliment her. Once she realizes you don't care, she'll find some other poor victim.
Hopefully now that you know how bad rumors hurt, you won't start any and will stop them if you hear them.
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ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?! (link)
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First off, congrats on being trustworthy. That's a great quality in friends and something everyone looks for. You'll go far socially.
However, sometimes it's just too much. If people keep coming to you, calmy tell them that you have a lot on your mind and as much as you'd like to help, their problems might add some un-needed stress. Suggest a diary. If they want input, suggest www.opendiary.com, where they can get input and advice as well as give it.
If your friends do have a huge problem, like, "I've been d," don't just sit there! This is a situation where you have to tell! Don't betray their trust right away, though. Tell them that they need to tell an right away. What happens if they get pregnant? If they still don't tell, call their parents. Explain that your friend asked you to keep it secret, but that you're worried. Your friend may be really angry at you for a while, but someday they'll be greatful.
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ok this is deff a question for the girls. its kinda stupid but wutever.. lets say your period starts on the 1st day of the month and lasts till like the 6th. the next month wuld your period most likely come towards the 1st or the 6th? thnx in advance (link)
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Not usually. If you just got your period recently, then it won't be normal for a long time. Eventually it will get to a pattern. But since months don't all have the same number of days, you period won't always come on on the first and end on the 6th. So don't be alarmed if it comes a lot sooner or later.
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Hey my friend and I have been friends for a long time. We promised to be best friends forever. Lately though, I feel as if we've grown apart. Just recently we have been going to different middle schools and we won't be meeting up until high school. We haven't been talking to each other much lately, even though we're out for summer break. How can I help improve our relationship? (link)
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Make plans with your friend to do something fun, like a movie. Or invite your best friend to do stuff with you and your other friends. The more connections your best friend has with your school, the more you'll get to see them. Try to meet some of their friends too. By staying in your own bubble, your friendship can become boring.
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ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away? (link)
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Of course you can still be friends! Think of him as a pen pal. If you want to keep things interesting, mail him a letter instead of writing an e-mail. It'll be more personal, and a bit more fun. You can also send stuff too, like a CD for his birthday. Make plans to get together every few weeks. You could meet somewhere in the middle and see a movie. If he knows you're planning on staying friends, he'll make the effort too.
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my mom has a plant that is big i think she should put it on side and replant it .but she wants to keep it in side should i do waht i want or just for get about it :( (link)
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You could explain to your mom that the plant would look better/be healthier outside. But if she doesn't take your advice, try to forget about it.
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ok i don't know why i feel so angry my x b f who was very rich had a party! Something my friend called a health party i personally think he had it to show off. I am really angry because he never invited me i really don't know why i am angry!! I think its because he once told me i was his bestfriend.He invited my friend because he goes to her school and i heard he invited 4 boys who are also rich and my friend said the 4 boys don't like him.Am i correct to feel angry i now think i hate him because i was always there for him and he was never there for me.What shall i do now? (link)
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Since he's your ex, he might be trying to show off and make you jealous. Explain to him that your upset, then try to forget about it. One bad move shouldn't destroy a friendship. If he knows you're still there for him, chances are he'll still be there for you.
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