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I sort of feel bad
My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together.
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well i think u should do is talk 2 her and tell her how u feel but let it out easy so she like doesnt hate u....thats what i would do
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If you will wind up making all around you miserable then you did right by deciding to stay home. You will only make people mad at you if you go the party and start in on her boyfriend. :)
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If there's a lot of people there, he's less likely to treat anyone poorly. I would go to the party for your friend. If her boyfriend is really as bad as you say she is, she's going to need a lot of support. Try to have the two of you stay in a large group of friends. Don't let yourselves be alone with him. If you really think she should break up with him, you should tell her. If he does treat her bad at the party, find a time when you can be alone with her, and explain to her that she deserves better.
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Why do you let what other people do bother you. Think about this. What if someone out there hated you. I mean really hated you! What would you do about it? Would you change anything about yourself? Would you stop doing the things that they hate about you? Probably not, and neither will the person (her boyfriend) stop. So why let him control your feelings and whether or not you miss a great party. It's like letting him rent space in your head, but he's not paying you for it. YOu are giving him power over you. He's controling you and he doesn't even have to invest any time or effort. He can ruin your weekend by just being alive. Do you think he cares. Maybe he even enjoys it.
I think you have to work on letting go of things and people that you have no control over. Sure you can have an opinion about him and you are probably right. I am sure that he is a jerk. But who is the bigger jerk if you stay home while everyone else has a great time. This is a sign of maturity, and you have to mature sooner or later. Sooner will ensure that you have a more fun this summer. YOu will be a lot happier in life if you to learn to control anger, belive me he won't be the only jerk that you will meet in this lifetime. Just be glad that you recognize a jerk when you see one, (unlike your friend ) so you can keep from getting involved with them. . He will eventually get what is coming to him. Count on it. YOu don't even have to do anything....but being there to laugh at him when he gets what is coming to him might be worth it. I hope you change your mind and attend the party.
Michele
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i agree with another person who answered. You should go and show her bf that your having fun and surround yourself by a lot of friends. But b4 you go tell your friend about how you feel and maybe she can do something about it.
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if it was me i would go. i would go and keep AWAY from the guy...just hang out with your other friends. i would also call my friend and explain everything...about how you were thinking of not going but decided you couldnt miss out. Explain if you feel like things will gget out of hand you are going to have to leave early nd you hope she understands. just try going and having fun..if things start gettting crazy...leave earlt. if i were your friends i would be happy just with the fact you will try
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no, your right. when she asks why u didnt go tell her because that she and her boyfriend are stupid.
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well if u r rele gonna ruin her party then don't go, but if she is a good friend then you should go anyway. what you can do is just say hi to her in the begining and then try aviodin them and hanging out with your bf and stuff, i'm sure there are other people there. if he rele gets on your nerves then you can leave and tell the friend that you don't feel good.
-hope i heplped!-good luck!
--dorinflower55
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You did say that there are alot of people there so hang out with some of your friends and have a good time.
I think you might be missing out on something fun. I think that during the party you will be at home thinking "i should go - nah it's not THAT fun. Or is it etc. etc."
If he comes up to you, just say. "i'm not going to wast my breath on you. Your just a big wast of my time" and walk away. thats the key... just walk away I know it's hard. But if hes REALLY pissing pissing you off then leave. It;s no good to cause a scene.
your other friends and boyfriend will be there, so they will draw your attention away from them.
hope i helped
~kooka
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