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Me, my friend, and my lover
Okay, I'm 14 years old, a male, and I am a homosexual FYI. I lived with my mom until her drug problems escaladed and I had to move with my grandparents. During that time, I became friends with this guy who I am friends with but am totally not attracted to whatsoever. I stayed there for a few months and we signed up for summer P.E. together and everything was going good. Then, I moved with my mom again and I became friends with this other guy who I am totally attracted to and I guess that kinda boosts his personality. I ended up blowing my other friend off and dropped out of summer P.E. to be with the guy I like/love or whatever. Is it bad I kinda ditched my best friend even though its my life and I should be able to do what I want and if this other guy makes me happy that should be the only thing that matters right? Anyways, my summer P.E. friend calls and says I blew him off to be with Ronnie and smoke drugs which isn't entirely false and he hangs up on me. Is it bad that I did this and what should I do now. Also, remember its too late to sign back up for summer P.E. and its also nice to know my summer P.E. friend is a republican and doesn't know I'm gay or anything like that. Please help me out of this bind.
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No, no, yes, and alright. Those are my answers to all of your questions.
Let me get this right... You took the time to ask this website these questions because your conscious is telling you that it is wrong to treat your summer P.E. friend the way you did. This friend told you this is wrong, and now you want either an affirmation that this friend is right for feeling "blown off" or you are right for doing what you want to do because it is your life and your are free to make your own decisions. Right?
Yes, it is bad that you did this to this guy but only because it appears that you never gave him a real explanation. He feels rejected. Republicans have feelings too. (Please don't judge him because his family is republican. You are apart of a minority group that gets judged all the time, so stop the hypocrisy now when you are young enough to be impressionable).
Don't lose any sleep over this. Just tell him that when you are spending time with this other guy alot. If he wants to hang out with you guys, let him. But be honest. If he doesn't want to hang out with a homosexual, your problem is solved and he becomes the biggot, not you.
Also, it is unclear how close of "friends" you are with this newer guy and what does it mean that you "kinda boosts his personality"? Please answer my feedback anytime.
I'd love to help you out more. I think we have alot in common.
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tell him that you'll hang out with him the whold week that summer pe is do't konw wwat else to tell ya that was pretty shallow of you
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x3 mari
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yes its very RUDE of you to ditch your friend.just b/c you like this other guy doesn't mean you ditch your friend.you should apologize to your friend like you mean it!!!!!!!!!!!! :(
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for one thing eeeeewwwwwwww.But you shiuld have not done that.And and if I wer him i would like to know that you were Gay and tell him your sorry.
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Yes , I think its kinda bad. Just because you found a guy you are attracted to doesn't mean you don't need other friends too. Not every male in your life is going to be homosexual nor all your relationships. I think you should apologize to the young republican and be friends with him. Friendship is based on having a good time together and not attraction sexually. So, if you found him to be a good friend then I think you need to try and renew the friendship. If you think he will have a problem with your being gay then keep it to yourself until you feel you can trust him with the info. :)
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First of all, try not to bring politics into this. People can form opinions, then actually experience the issue and change their opinon. Explain to your friend that you know blowing him off was wrong, and that you really regret it. While you can spend time with Ronnie, don't forget to spend time with your friend too.
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I think you should be as honest as you can with all people involved.
Explain to the guy you like that you feel like you've been neglecting your other friends. That way he shouldn't feel offended when you start spending more timne with your other friends.
You should apologise to the friends you say you have neglected but don't feel you have to come out unless youfeel completely comfortable with. It is important to note that friends worth having will accept you and like you whatever your sexuality. Coming out is scary,particularly to conservative people, but it's worth it for the feeling of liberation and honesty once you've done it. ( I came out as Bi last year and everything was fine)
Why not try suggesting that you spend time with both groups of people simultatneously?
I hope that helped a bit.
*Girlwithamansname
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Well, ditching your best friend like that was a shitty thing to do, he might have only signed up for that PE course because he knew you were going to. But fact of the matter is you do have to do what YOU feel is right, and you want to do with your life. Although you should probably apoligize to this friend of yours and try to find some way to make it up to him. Hard feelings are never good, and they may come back to bite you in the ass someday.
Good luck!
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yeah man that was kinda mean that you ditched him and quit the summer class. you could just tell him that you decided it wouldnt fit into your schedule and your really sorry that he felt like he was ditched. hopefully yall can get your friendship back. but you need to be the one to say sorry. if you say it genually, and he still doesnt forgive you, then thats when you shouldnt feel bad.
its cool that you found another guy though. but tell this old friend that he's the reason you ditched him. yano? it sucks but some people might freak out about the fact that ur gay. (i think its cool though lol).
hope this helps a little- :)
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