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Q: My friends story:

It started off in a friends birthday
My friend lets call her Happy
She is very bright and the person that makes you smile, friend
She wanted to see if her friends would noticed if she was gone for a long time
She called this a game to her to see if they were friends that would worried for her
She went outside and hid somewhere, where no one would see
She waited for minutes and then she heard people yelling and my friend Happy knew that they had started hitting the pinata already
Happy still waited for them
Then a few minutes after the hitting of the pinata stopped she went back inside
By the time she went inside they already sang the birthday song to the birthday person
Happy went to a seat and just sat
2 minutes later her friends started to leave the party and Happy was like ok bye and she went home and just cried the whole day

Did you think her friends were her friends ?
Thanks for reading
I just want to see if they were really her friends

just because 'Happy's' friends didn't notice she was gone for five minutes doesn't mean they don't like her. it was somebody else's birthday party. all eyes were probably on the birthday girl. it isn't like the day was centered around Happy and nobody acknowledged her. so i don't think she should worry about it.

Q: I'm thinking about fasting for a few days, because I have a friend that does it, and it sparks my interest, and I really want to try it.

Can someone explain it to me? And give me some tips and tricks to stay on it?

i would definately not advise you to try fasting. your friend, who is fasting, is probably developing an eating disorder and trust me, you don't want to start developing one to.

Q: ok so i need some advice. im 16 and a junior, and a straight A student. two weeks ago i did very bad on my test and my grade dropped to an 82%. now, i would be happy with that grade because honestly i dont think you should be measured by the grades you get and i know im a good student and all. my dad however is sort of insane when it comes to grades. if he sees any grade lower than an A, he goes crazy and basically grounds me. no car, no friends, no life. seriously im getting really sick of it!!!! i have an 82, which is a B and a B is actually above average, but NO, its not good enough for him. idk what to do? seriously if i get a B on my report card for him its the end of the word. so what should i do? how shud i talk to him? (trust me ive tried everything). Should i talk to my teacher to see if i can raise my grade!??? What if i cant? i need some serious help!!!!

its only midquarter! you have so much time to raise it to at least a b+, a- or even an A. just tell your dad that you are going to work extremely hard for the next few weeks and do everything you can in order to raise your grade back up. and you'll never get a bad grade on a test again. you'll be fine. also, if your a straight-A student and you have ONE b. you'll be fine. you'll still be in the top 10% of your class and have a good GPA and thats really all that matters. you'll be fine!

Q: http://img340.imageshack.us/img340/5438/wallgm4.jpg

^how do you remove those little icons from beneath your wall?

you have to get rid of all of those applications that you have and then they will go away as you delete the various applications.

Q: hey there :)

umm. so i have to do nation history day ths year and im kind of excited about it but i dont have any idea about what to to do!

* The theme is CONFLICT & COMPROMISE.

the only thing i cant think of is the 3 compromises of the civil war (comprosmise of 1850, 3/5ths compromis, and missori compromise of 1820) , but thats boring and unoriginal.

1.does anyone know anything like edgy and intruging to do?

2._also were there any conflicts about fashion? bc i love fashion and it would be cool to do that.

any help would be greaty appreciated!

ok i did national history day i few years ago and i got second at state and went to nationals. you have to pick something original and that sticks out. if you can find something to do with fashion it would be great because you'd be able to really sell it and believe in what your talking about. as for the topic, your topic doesnt have to have the word compromise in it it can basically anything that had a problem and they overcame it. hope that helped

-mari :D

Q: im not sure.. but I checked online, and its true! well i think its mild..like it only affects me in my house, but still. like usually I have to check the doors if they are locked in the night, because during the night I fear that like some robber or killer could come in or something. That behavior started a few weeks ago. and somethings that have been going on for a while are that when I turn off the stove, I have to check that I completely turned it off, so it wont cause a fire. Also, I have to make sure the lights are completely off or on.. I guess I think it will make a fire if its in between, when the lights flicker. And something that has started since 6th grade is that I have to look behind me and check that nothing menacing is there or something.. and when my mom or dad goes out, I want to go with them, because my mind thinks that nothing bad will happen if I'm with them. like my dad has to work in a different state for a while, till my family moves in with him next summer. he's coming to visit next week, but i always worry. i was like crying when he had to go.. and along with that I have to check behind me, I also do double takes. I used to be afraid of the dark a lot when I was younger and it has slowly gone away but a little bit of that is still there. when i was afraid, in the night I'd turn on all the lights so it wouldn't be that scary, since objects look scary in the dark sometimes. and if that couldn't be enough, sometimes at school I'd be anxious.. I'd hate it.. in 6th grade it was the worst cause there was this guy I liked but I was really shy around him, and whenever I was around him I'd feel really anxious. Also at other times.. It would take sometime for me to cool off.. like its hard for me sometimes when the class is too quiet. I'd rather it be lively and stuff, hence the anxiety. also during big tests.. i always think of other things, which is annoying sometimes. which is why gym is my favorite subject, because I've never been anxious in it since I'm really competitive, and I'm much more outgoing and fun then.. when I want to be like that all the time. Its only with friends who know me, and people I don't know that I can truely be myself. Like some kids I know, but not really know, find me shy and all that, when I'm not really like that. I guess my anxiety kicks in and I think that I cant just change.. cause they'll think I'm fake or something. sometimes I break through and I can be myself, but on other times its just tense and hard for me to do. okay what else.. sometimes I feel the need to breathe in deeply. I've been doing that for a while now. so yeah this is a lot, and maybe my "supposed OCD" isn't just mild, or maybe it is. I really dont want to go to a special doctor or anything, and my mom doesn't think I have OCD.. she thinks because I think I have OCD, that thought makes me believe it and then I have the disorder. plus I don't want to be a burden since therapists and doctors don't come cheap. so i want a way to stop these urges and everything.. like self help to myself. thanks a lot.. just know that what you write will change my life for the better. =]

i dont think its OCD because ocd is like checking and re checking a certain amount of times and over and over again. sounds like your just scared of burglars or being alone whih a lot of people are. you just have to learn that everythings ok. also the being yourself part has nothing to do with it. im the SAME way like a lot of people who im aquaintancces with are like oh shes shy she never talks, but with y friends im totally out there. and also if i meet someone for the first time i can also be totally out there and have fun. its just something around those other people that you think they will jdge you. but if they judge you then you just know that they arent worth your time. so just try your hardest to let loose and just start conversations. it will be hard at first but it will get easier. as for te OCD thing, if you really think its getting worse and isnt tolerable you should see a doctor. hope i helped
-mari:D

Q: Does anyone know any love songs by some emo/alternative bands that is slow and kinda relaxing. thanks

i will follow you into the dark by deathcab is my alltime favorite

but also
let there be love by oasis
wonderwall by oasis
paint the silence by south

im spacing but those are all good
--mari:D

Q: hi, i'm fourteen and my boyfriends seventeen. we've been together for a little over a year.
i live in nj and he lives in virginia. we barely ever see eachother. so i want to send him a letter and make him a little cd with a bunch of love songs and such. and some about distance and blah blah(: he's into like alternative rock and things around that. like the pink spiders, sherwood, ronnie day, etc. the more songs the better. thank you so much

someone already said this but the mixed tape by jacks mannequin is like the perfect song to start a mixed cd with and its a great song too, i love it

other songs that would be good are
i will follow you into the dark by deathcab
paint the silence by south
honey and the moon
waste by phish
wonderwall by oasis
hey there delilah is perfect for distance

hope some of those work
--mari:D

Q: ok so im confused about the whole tagging thing on facebook.

what is it and what does it do to tag someone?

all answers are appreciated.. thanks!

to tag someone on facebook means that the picture you taged them in will be added into their picture collection and also that when anyone looks at the picture it will have their name on it. If someone tags you in a picture it will show up in your picture collection. Its pretty easy once you figure it out hope i helped
--mari:D

Q: okay so my boyfriend and i just started going out and i was @ his house with some people and i was gonna make the first move but like i didnt know what he would do. weve made out before wen we went out and were really comfortable. should i make the move next time?

yeah for sure make the move first if you feel like it. guys are nervous to so just because hes not necesarily making the first move hes not into you hes probably just not sure like you are. you should definately go for it making out is just fun it shouldn't have to be a big deal so dont hesitate just b e confident and have fun
-mari:D

Q: i am 15 and its getting to that time where im feeling pressured to loose my virginity i feel that i have to loose before all the girls get to expeirenced what should i do?

i know it feels like you HAVE to do it and you have to do it noww.
but really, in the long run people will respect you for not falling under the pressure of having sex with someone who means nothing. for now, just wait youve got plenty of time

marii

Q: My birthday is on March 10th and I'm getting a Coach purse for my birthday. I was thinking about getting this one: http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=9394&category_id=256 and I was wondering if it's a good price for Coach and if it's cute to buy..? Thanks soo much!

P.S: sorry about that other question, i accidentally deleted the link!

its definately cute and perfect for spring and summer. ive always wanted a multicolored one and for under 100 dollars. its a great price i think you should get it

marii

Q: This may seem like the preppiest question you have ever heard but I gotta ask it-How do you straighten your hair right? I mean like every time I straighten my hair it doesn't seem to be "straight enough" to my friends. i really need advice on how to straighten your hair right

first of all your straightener should be a nice ceramic plate straightener.
you also will want to use a product that will protect your hair from the heat. any hair care company probably makes those products.
after washing your hair either blow dry it or wait for it to completely air dry.
then make sure you straighten it in small layers from underneath to the top.
never try to straighten your full head of hair all at the same time.
after youve done all of the layers you can touch up any spots that are a little wavy.
make sure that you hold the straightener for a while on the tips of your hair to . this will give it an even straighter look
hope i helped

marii

Q: Ok well how many days is your period supposed to last?
Cause my sister said hers lasted about 5 days.. and mine only lasts 3. She said there was somthing wrong with me....do you think its true????
Or is that normal?

its totally normal for it to be three days.
your sooo lucky that its only three you hardly have to deal with it :]

marii

Q: i know your period isn't going to be totally red all the time and might be a little brown, but the past few days that i guess i've had mine it's been like totally brown. i've had my period since may, it's only starting to get regular i think, and usually it'd be more brown in the beginning and then get heavy and really red. is there something wrong? i'm not sexually active at all. thanksss

i dont think that anything is wrong.
a couple months ago that happened to me where it was alllll brown like no red at all.
i was super scared.
but then the next month it was normal again.
so, if afer this m onth its still brown, and other wierd stuff happens ask a doctor or a school nurse.

marii

Q: My so called "best friend" started slapping me about a few weeks ago. It's over the stupidest things, too! Like, I have a favorite lip gloss that I put on all the time in school. She hates it, so she slaps me really hard across the face for that. Sometimes it doesn't hurt, but one time she left a red mark on my face. I've tried slapping her back a few times, but she always blocks her face, so I just kick her.

She's also been acting like a bitch lately, like she'll be nice to me and then tell me to go away 2 minutes later. Today, I didn't hang out with her at lunch, and she called me a slut because the kid she likes was NEAR me. I'm not even friends with him and we don't talk! I don't understand what her problem is.

wow.
you should not be friends with her.
just think of it this way
obviously your way more mature and way samrter than she is for doing something that stupid.
if i were you i would stand up for myself and next time she slaps you yell at her or do whatever it takes o get the point across.
otherwise. stay away from her.

Q: Im 13, and theres this boy who ive liked from the first day of school, and on the second day, he just randomly walked up to me and started walking next to me and talking to me. He is kind of my friend now but he still doesn that sometimes...do you think these are signs that he likes me?

well probly or else hes ust wierd or very outgoing... but yes i would imagine he does

LOVE!

**~mari~**

Q: ok im 13/F and my school dance is coming up, it's on friday 9/30/05 and i really want to go and a lot of ppl want me to go but my friend Halle wants to come over my big nice new house cuz i moved in a couplle weeks ago and all,well me and her have been planning for her to come over for over a week now and i really want her to come over but i really want to go to the dance on friday.the dance is 7:00 to 9:30 and her mom won't drive her over to my new house because it's dark and she won't be able to follow the directions that my mom has or will be giving her. I dont know what to do,what should i do?¿?¿? can someone please help me i rate 5's on good advice.

just tell her that you have a dance she'll understand.....if shes your friend it shouldn't be a bd just have her come over on saturday!

LOVE!

**~mari~**

Q: omg please read this im going insane!
ok so i was messing around with my computer and the tool bar on the bottom of the screen just magically went to the right side of the screen! i hate it over there and i want to move it to the bottom! please tell me how to move the tool bar from the right of the screen back to the bottom! i rate 5s for anything that works!
LOVE YOU ALL WHO ANSWERS THIS CORRECTLY!

is it a mac cuz if it is wat you do is go to system preferences which should be in your dock click on it then select dock and it should say right just go to bottom

LOVE!

**~mari~**

Q: hey i can cheer really good and i already made my schools cheerleading team but im really bad at my jumps ALL OF THEM can you please give me some things that will help me with all the jumps but mostly the toe touch and ways to help me get a kartwheel please help fast

well maybe you should take gymnastics or... just practice A LOT

LOVE!

**~mari~**

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hey guys! I'm just your average 16-year-old girl. I love tennis, friends, shopping, reading, boys! I also love giving advice so hit me up with any problems/questions you have!