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she won't stop slapping me!
My so called "best friend" started slapping me about a few weeks ago. It's over the stupidest things, too! Like, I have a favorite lip gloss that I put on all the time in school. She hates it, so she slaps me really hard across the face for that. Sometimes it doesn't hurt, but one time she left a red mark on my face. I've tried slapping her back a few times, but she always blocks her face, so I just kick her.
She's also been acting like a bitch lately, like she'll be nice to me and then tell me to go away 2 minutes later. Today, I didn't hang out with her at lunch, and she called me a slut because the kid she likes was NEAR me. I'm not even friends with him and we don't talk! I don't understand what her problem is.
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Okay....first of all how old are yall? I mean this chick is actin like she's in kindergarten and you used her "purple" crayon...i would knock the piss out of her! If she hits you...grab her and beat the hell outta her!!! Does your teacher not say anything to yall?? If you dont wanna fight in school just catch her outside of school one day and hit her...??!! But really how old is she??
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omg what the HELL.You havent done anything back to her to get your revenge??!?!OK heres the plan.Next time she slaps you CURSE HER THE HELL OUT!!!who cares!!If she was your best freind she wouldnt do this!!curse her out and slap her back if you have to!! OR you can walk up to her one day and just randomly slap her and go dont you ever slap me again bitch!It might seem like what im sayin is mean but come on SHE did this first and never thought that what she was doing is mean!You need to learn never to take anyone for granted and treat everyone the way they treat you.
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wow.
you should not be friends with her.
just think of it this way
obviously your way more mature and way samrter than she is for doing something that stupid.
if i were you i would stand up for myself and next time she slaps you yell at her or do whatever it takes o get the point across.
otherwise. stay away from her.
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She probably thinks it's funny. Tell her you've had enough and if she slaps you again your friendship is over. In other words, she's your friend, give her a chance to make things right. She might not think that what she is doing is hurting you as much as it is. Good luck.
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wow, she sounds really controlling and uptight, and over-reacting. i dont think that you should stay in this friendship. first, try talking to her about it. maybe she doesnt realize she's gotten so out of hand. however, if you takl to her (in a calm way, but stern) and she starts freaking out or slapping you, forget it.
hurting you and freaking out over little things is not ok, and not what agood friend would do.
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I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship with this person (you seem to be already doing that, if you're putting "best friend" in quotes).
Who knows why people change, but she seems to have done so, and not for the better. You absolutely shouldn't have to tolerate physical attacks (and that's what they are - it's long past the point of kidding around). The next time it happens, make it very clear, by yelling into her face if you have to, that you won't accept it anymore. I'd follow that up with a week of not speaking to her at all. See if she gets the message.
The more subtle jabs, like the name-calling and what have you, are also things you shouldn't have to put up with. Put it to her point-blank: Is this the way she treats her friends? Does she enjoy hurting your feelings? Why is she doing this?
If her behavior keeps up, then start distancing yourself from her. You are under no obligation to maintain a friendship with someone who doesn't treat you like a friend.
Here's a piece of advice I almost never give, but I think it may be necessary in this case (bear in mind that it's up to you whether to follow it - it might just make things worse): If she slaps you again after having been warned not to, tell her that the next time she does it, you will respond with a closed fist. Then, if it comes down to it, make good on that threat. If she's hitting you hard enough to leave marks, then you have the right and duty to defend yourself.
If it escalates beyond that, get an adult you trust involved.
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The fact that your friend actually thinks it's okay to get violent over a choice of your's that's none of her business in the first place is COMPLETELY and utterly unacceptable. the more you keep hanging around her, the more you keep letting her make decisions for yourself, the more she'll think it's ok to keep slapping you. what can slapping turn into? pushing, shoving maybe. what can pushing and shoving lead to? punching. not saying that that's definitely what will happen, but the point is you cannot have any toleration for that. either stay away from her, or very very firmly tell her you're not going to tolerate what shes doing (and if she doesnt listen, then stay away from her). if anything gets worse, it's important for you to go tell your parents, and hers.
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