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So, I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I live in Ontario, Canada. I LOVE giving out advice. All my friends come to me for advice because:-I tell them the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
-I don't sugarcoat things. If your relationship is doomed, I'll tell you. I won't say "just talk to him" or stuff like that.
-I don't judge. Well, I do judge a little bit, but who doesn't. But, you can tell me you just had sex with 309573458346934584357 different people, and I'll still love you none the less.
-I'm just a normal person, and I probably go through the same everyday crap that the rest of you go through.
So yeah, feel free to drop me a line. As far as I know, I've never screwed someone over with my advice!
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My boyfriend is so strange. I had been on welfare for a long time and he used to tell me that he thought I had potential and that I should be working, and that he didnt want me to live off the system. Well I finally got a good job and now he is acting almost jealous of me. When I told him I was really happy and everyone was nice he just said sarcastically "oh it's working out for you". He has a job and makes a lot of money so I don't know why this would bother him.
Does anyone have any insight to his behavior?
Guys like to be in control of money situations, and kinda feel inadaquat(er, spelling?) when their girlfriend is making money, especially if it's more than them. He may just be jealous that you've got a good that you you're really happy with. Plus, he may just feel like since you're making your own money, you don't need him anymore, financially that is. He may just want to be able to control you with money.
I dunno, those are just the things that entered my mind with reading your question. I think you should bring it up in converstaion sometime, when you are both really calm and relaxed, and let him know that you would really appreciate it if he was happy for you. I think you know what to do from there. Good luck, hun!
-Siobhan
So I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is a wee bit older. He's 25.
We've been going out for about a month and he's a great guy to me - he buys everything (not just dinner, like he asks if there's anything I want in stores etc.), he opens doors, he always says the kindest things to me, and yes he's great in the bedroom.
But I've just been wondering lately if this is the best time for me to date someone his age. He's so perfect but it's kind of difficult when I get the weird looks from friends and classmates about dating an older guy. He hasn't met my friends yet and I don't even know if his friends know about me. The whole age thing is just kind of throwing me for a loop.
So, do you think I should keep pursuing this relationship with the chance of getting hurt or just let it go for now with such big differences?
P.S. Remember that I'm only a senior in high school, still dealing with stuff like homecoming and prom. He's already out in the working world...it's a tough choice...
I think that if you're so unsure about this relationship, you're obviously having doubts. So, I say you should listen to your intuition. He does sound like a great guy, but at this point in your life those eight years make a HUGE difference, but in ten years from now they won't, because you'll be out of school, working, and looking for someone to settle down with.
Things will work out if you just follow your intuition (how cheesy)
i just got my period and i am using tampons cas the pads feel like diaper's : ) and it said something about only using they when your flow is moderate what does that mean? and how many times a day do you get your period??
thanks ill rate 5's ♥
They say you should only weird it when you flow is moderate or more (you're bleeding a lot) because if the tampon is too big and has too much absorbancy that isn't being used, chemicals get released and you're at risk for Toxic Shock Syndrome, which happens when you wear a tampon for too long, or don't use the right absorbancy.
I think you're a little confused about having a period, you have it for 3-7 days at a time, you don't get it a number of times during a day. If you find that your periods are shorter/longer than the time I outlined, don't worry, since you're just starting you're probably pretty irregular.
Hope I helped!
Okay, so my mother is allergic to everything except like...20 items total on this planet, and is extremely against all forms of chemicals such as nail polish and hair dye.
HOWEVER...
My roommate got a free salon-type-thing from her boyfriend, and on it, it says you can bring a friend, so we kinda decided she was bringing me...Lol. So we're getting our hair done this weekend.
I'm thinking
Thinned, re-layered, Cut a liiiiiiiiittle longer than shoulder length (or exactly shoulder length, not sure), side-sweeping bangs.
Now here's the hard part.
I kinda wanna get highlights. I'm thinking brownish red highlights 'cause I do have red in my hair.
My mother, however, would MURDER me if she saw highlights in my hair or knew that I borrowed my roomie's shampoo to see what effect scent had on my hair.
What do you guys think I should do? Should I get highlights anyway and beg them to make them as not-noticeable as possible? Or forego the highlights and possible making-worse of hair until I'm far away in grad school?
Should I ask them if they have temporary dye so I can see what they look like?
Opinions, please. ^_^
If you have a roomate, you don't live with your mother right?
Highlights really aren't that big of a deal, because sometimes you can barely notice them, and it's not like you're dying your hair an extreme colour.
And your mother wouldn't be coming in contact with the highlights, so what does it matter?
Anyways, good luck with it, and I hope the highlights turn out gorgeous!
-Siobhan
OK there is this guy(lets say his name is X) who is going to ask me out. I like him a little bit but theres this other guy(name:O) I like love. I dont kno if the guy I love likes me but we are best friends...Should I say yes to X or wait for O...b/c if O doesnt like me I dont want to be alone b/c I said no to X...What should I do?
Go for X, don't wait around for O because you might be missing out on something really great.
Ok, well my choir instructor told us that we needed to record ourselves singing. So I did. For a while, I thought I was a good singer (soprano, especially since I got myself in an advanced choir a lot of people have told me I have a good voice. So I recorded myself passionately singing The Witches Chorus from Verdi's "Macbeth" and the recording sounded terrible! Awful! I've never heard myself on a recording before and I don't feel very good. Does this mean I have been a terrible singer all along, or does everyone think their voice sounds bad on a recording?
Of course it doesn't. I have the same problem. Everyone always sounds worse on recording, believe me. You wouldn't get accepted into a prestegious choir if you sound horrible
im a 16/f and i went on a tubing trip with my team this past weekend and i hung out with this really nice guy. we were together the whole time. we were constantly all over eachother and he held my hand and talked with me the whole time. well people who saw this misinterperted the situation and now everyone thinks i like him. well no ones paying any attention to what he does cause he has a gf...which i didnt know when we were together. he is a really sweet guy and he was so easy to talk to. the thing is that im starting to like him. i see him everyday at practice and he always grabs my waist and gives me small hugs. my best friend keeps telling me that there is no way that he doesnt have feelings for me since he held my hand the whole time and he kept asking me to get on his tube with him. is there anything i can do in this situation to get people off my back and is there any way that he likes me? (even if he has a g/f)
Well, people are always gonna think what they want to, so if they think you like him, let them think it, because it sounds to me like you do.
The thing that worries me is how he already has a girlfriend but he's all over you? If I was in your position I wouldn't exactly trust him to not do the same thing to another girl. But I'm sure you know what you're doing, I just want you to be aware that he may not be the most faithful guy.
Good luck hun!
-Siobhan
14/F i am really confused rite now i have this boyfriend who is id say about 3 years older than me [ 17 ] hes a senior im a freshman & hes not a virgin and whatnot and i am . . we`ve been goin out for almost 5 months and hes starting to hint around that he mite want to mess around or somethin and the whole idea really makes me nervous considering hes my first real relationship & considering hes had more experiance than me and i am absolutly clueless . . hes never asked anythin be4 and im afraid that if maybe i dont do anything he mite break up with me . ? or something but i think its more of the fact that im nervous . what do you think i should do?
- confused & clueless
You should be confident that even if you were to say nno, he won't break up with you, or else he's not the right person. If it feels right to you you wouldn't be here asking for our advice, you would just kinda know it.
Anyways, if you do hesitate, and he gets kinda pissed, that's a surefire sign that he might not be a keeper. But five months IS a long time to wait for sex, he could have just gone to a easier girl and got it on a first date, so he may be a bit more sensitive. Just be careful hun!
-Siobhan
I have a very low self confidence...are there anyway to improve my self confidence?....thanks!!
Even just by faking self confidence or joking about how hot you are, can lead you to believe that you really are good looking, and you'll really feel more confident.
How can I make my school uniform better? I'm a girl, no make-up or jewelry, and no rolling the skirts. Trust me, I know, I've tried it. Any ideas? And I go to a catholic school. Is there anything I can do? To add to it, or anything?
I used to know a girl who went to a school with uniform, and since socks are technically underwear, she would wear really cool stalkings and knee highs, and they were all crazy colours and really fun, you should try that.
ok this will be long but please help me out here....
Last summer my mom and I went to canada to visit her best friend (scince high school)she has two sons. we had a good time and stayed over a night. and then we left I never really knew the dad but i said hello cause he had known me scince i was born.
so we left and about six monthes later we got a call from linda thats her name, and she said that her husband had died and that it was a car accident and that he didn't suffer but we were all sad and i was too and i thought that maybe they would come to visit us but for a long time they didn't
Then about five monthes later she calls and says she is coming down with her kids who are ages 17 and 14, and they will be staying near our house and will come to visit us and im so scared because i wont know what to say and what to do. What if they start to cry how do i act what can i say to keep their mind off of the subject?
and what are good conversation starters i feel so bad for them but it will be terrible if i just come out and say it!
someone please help me ill rate a five for good advice.
Hopefully they'd have moved on by now, but it still may be a touchy subject for them. So try not to bring it up.
If they want to talk about it because they need some one to talk to, then let them.
But just relax, and make them feel comfortable. If you worry about it, they'll probably pick up on it. Just treat them as if nothing ever happened, and you should get on fine.
Good luck!
-Siobhan
Hey all. I would love to start a new club...maybe even two because my middle school doesn't have a lot of clubs and the clubs that are available aren't really good. I would like to start National Junior Honor society and/ or Dance Company where we travel to places sometimes to perform or watch broadways, take dance lessons and stuff like that. I was thinking that the money from the fundraisers we organize in the National Junior Honor Society will go to the fee of the trips (transportaions, hotel, etc.). Does anybody know how long it will take to get these clubs developed, and how can I spead the word to get people to join? Thanks!
I think the first thing you should do is bring your ideas up to a teacher who supports you, or who is related to these fields of interest. Make posters and get the word out there. The best way is word of mouth. You're going to need to have everything very well thought out before you present your ideas to the teacher and then the principal. Have every single detail figured out.
Good luck!
-Siobhan
I seriously need some help.. last night my little sister (10) must have gotten a hold of some scissors because my hair is completely chopped... the night before last I colored her hair green (shes a bleach blonde) and I guess she did that to get me back.... WHAT DO I DO?!?!! my hair is so short and uneven... it was down by my lower back...any help would be appriciated!
Definatly get yourself to see a pro, or at least a friend who you trust with scissors and try to salvage what you can.
ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!!
Stay with our your friends, because you'll need them in the future. Your boyfriend sounds incredibly insecure and very jealous. This could become a serious problem if you intend on staying with him in the future. Talk to him, let him know that you only have eyes for him, and if he stills acts up and accuses you of flirting with your friends, dump him.
-Siobhan
ok.this is something i've always wondered. when girls aren't around what do guys talk about?. haha i know its a gay question. but i've just always wondered that. ill rate you a 5 =) =) =)
Well, I know at work, even when I'm the only girl there, the guys pretty much only talk about chicks they've done, or chicks they'd like to do. It's pathetic really.
I'm 14 and I'm one of 3 people in my grade that doesn't have a cell phone. I'm constantly out with my friends and they don't like me to call home on their phones cus it uses there minutes. *They didn't mind at first but when I have to constantly call home they got frusterated* My parents want me to call all the time when I'm out. I've tried explaining to them all the reasons why I need one, Like how they want me to call home and all that but they still say you dont get one till your 16 like your brothers. Well, im not my brothers, im more responsible, but i tried to tell my parents that and they wont believe me!
What should I do?
You should prove to them that you're responsible. I prove to my parents that I'm responsible by getting a job, managing my own money, being able to run the store that I work at by myself and everything, so now they trust me to leave the house with me alone for the week.
But, you don't need to go that far to prove how responsible you are. Keeping your room cleaned all the time and doing dishes and helping out with dinner and getting good grades once school starts again. If this doesn't work, well, then show them what could happen if you don't have a cellphone.
Good luck!
-Siobhan
Ok, here's the deal. I have this boyfriend I have been with since 7th grade. We know each other very well, and are really comfortable around each other. But last winter his parents split up and he got mixed up with the wrong crowd, started doing drugs, starting ruining his life in general, and not to mention ruining our relationship not only as a couple but as I see him. He started blowing me off, not calling, not keeping promises, point blank..doing drugs. So we broke up for awhile, and I met this really great other guy. We talked about everything, and it evetually lead into a relationship. He was really laid back and we had lots of good times together. But to be honest, i couldn't open up to this kid as much as the other one. I was very standoffish and I couldn't like him to the point where I wanted to be more than just friends. He was very sweet to me and would do anything for me. He was the total opposite of what the other kid was, my old boyfriend is very protective of me and gets jealous and mad vey easily. so that was just what I needed. So, a few things happened, I cheated on this kid with my old boyfriend, and I needed to break up with him. I feel like such a bad person because he is such a good guy. After awhile, my old boyfriend went to Florida to figure out who he was and get more self respect for himself. While he was down there he would call me every single night. I was the only thing he had to hold onto. Now he's back up here, and I've hung out with him, but I'm not convinced he's changed and I don't want him to go back to his old ways. I am in love with this kid because we basically grew up together, but in some ways I feel like I made the wrong decision. Sometimes I feel like I should have gone with the other kid. I need some GOOD advise because I have been thinking about this for a long time.
PLEASE HELP, thank you*
I think you just need to be honest with yourself and the people that you've involved yourself with. You should let boy #1 know that you really do care for him, and even though he'll hate you for it, you should try to push him (just a bit) to getting better. Or try to get him to ask for help, but don't go and get help for him, because he'll feel betrayed.
Don't go back to the second boy if you don't feel that much for him. It's not fair for him or yourself.
Things will work out.
-Siobhan
OKay, my BF is way smarter than me. Perfects on any test and he doesn't study. I use to be known as the really smart kid but i kind of fell back because i didnt care if i was the TOP ya know? well now it seems he gets frusterated when i get a B or don't understand something. its almost like i'm to dumb for him. i really like him but i feel so inferior and when i do/say something dumb he just gives me this annoyed look. what do i do?!
i rate ^^
Have a chat with me, and tell how it makes you feel when he looks down on you and acts like a total asshole. I know it'll be hard to bring up the courage to do so, but once you open your mouth, there's no going back. But it's for the better.
If you tell him, and he's pissed, or he doesn't change. Drop him like a hot brick. He's clearly not worth your time.
I have an anger promblem,i mean i get mad at the litte things.And its hard to stop ,all my friend know i lose it fast.But i've been getin to fights more and more with friends.And they say i need to be clam and stop getin mad.I've tryed siting in my room in the cornor with music on.It works for a bit but,after that i go crazy.
Have any ideas ?
It seems like you need to get yourself someone to talk to. Go see a school counsellor, or if you trust your parents enough, maybe mention something to them. I don't really know of any methods to use, I just think you should talk to someone who professionally deals with this kind of thing before you really hurt someone you care about.
My ex girlfriend won't stop trying to talk to me and still wants to be friends, even though I have told her multiple times I do not. I haven't really told her this to her face, but I do post it on my website which I know she visits regularly. She even offered to take me to the movies. I know this sounds immature and stupid, but could you help me?
Thanks,
-Dr.Socko
It's simple, you just have to be straight with her. Don't do any of this childish posting it on your website business, just tell her straight to her face next time she's brings up going on a date or something.