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ok this will be long but please help me out here....
Last summer my mom and I went to canada to visit her best friend (scince high school)she has two sons. we had a good time and stayed over a night. and then we left I never really knew the dad but i said hello cause he had known me scince i was born.
so we left and about six monthes later we got a call from linda thats her name, and she said that her husband had died and that it was a car accident and that he didn't suffer but we were all sad and i was too and i thought that maybe they would come to visit us but for a long time they didn't
Then about five monthes later she calls and says she is coming down with her kids who are ages 17 and 14, and they will be staying near our house and will come to visit us and im so scared because i wont know what to say and what to do. What if they start to cry how do i act what can i say to keep their mind off of the subject?
and what are good conversation starters i feel so bad for them but it will be terrible if i just come out and say it!
someone please help me ill rate a five for good advice.
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Just start up a conversation saying, How are you this fine day? Its normal for them to grieve for their daddy. Give it time. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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since they are coming down and visiting you, try taking them site seeing and introduce to your friends so that way you can keep their minds off of their dad. If they start to cry, re ensure them that everything is gonna be okay and that you are there for them, even tho you dont know them that well. but try and make the best out of it and good luck to you and your family
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When my friend's mom died, I was shocked and gave my friend all the sympathy he needed, but within time, he moved on.
After five months of a tragic death, they are sure to have moved on by now. Just don't say anything about it, that is if they are that heart-broken still, and hope for the best. If they mention something to you about the incident, then just give them some sympathy. It's no big deal really.
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After five months, they've probably began to heal from their loss. If they do begin to cry, just hold them and be supportive if they want to talk. Crying can be very healing so I wouldn't panic if they do.
If you feel that you need to say something, a simple "I'm sorry for your loss. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here." will work.
I think the best thing to do is just carry on like you normally do. Sometimes getting back into normal activities is what it takes for us to heal. Just talk about the things you did before when you visited them. Try some activities that they haven't had a chance to try before.
Good luck.
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Hopefully they'd have moved on by now, but it still may be a touchy subject for them. So try not to bring it up.
If they want to talk about it because they need some one to talk to, then let them.
But just relax, and make them feel comfortable. If you worry about it, they'll probably pick up on it. Just treat them as if nothing ever happened, and you should get on fine.
Good luck!
-Siobhan
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