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ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!!
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If you have always been this way with your guy friends then it is probably your basic personality and your friends and boyfriend's will accept you as is or say something to you. Your man needs to define (his definition) of flirting, for you and be honest in telling him what you think flirting is. Some of us girls have flirty personalities and sometimes we come off that way when we are nervous or when trying to make others feel comfortable. You cannot be expected to change who you are to make him feel better, because in the end nothing you do will be right. Our greatest friends and loves know who we are from the beginning and would not ask us to change (unless we are doing something that is harmful-example-smoking,drinking,...) If you work this out just remember if you slip up and go from flirting with one of your friends to more, he will never trust you and you other friends may not either. PS-Some men (and women) are huge gossips and some love to creat drama, especially when they know what pushes a persons buttons (like your boyfriends hangup with flirting) so watch out!
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I'm the same way, just inverse (I'm a guy, most of my friends are gals). The deal is, you are flirting with them, just not with any kind of intentions beyond just having fun.
See, with me, I flirt with my friends, but just as friends. When I have a gf, I still flirt with them, just less. And I don't mean anything by it, really, just having fun. I can do this because I know where I stand with them. Note though that I don't flirt with people who like me unless I like them as well.
If you agree with what I've said, I think you should tell your bf that you realize that are actually flirting with them, just that you didn't realize it was flirting because you don't mean anything by it, that's just how you are with your friends.
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Stay with our your friends, because you'll need them in the future. Your boyfriend sounds incredibly insecure and very jealous. This could become a serious problem if you intend on staying with him in the future. Talk to him, let him know that you only have eyes for him, and if he stills acts up and accuses you of flirting with your friends, dump him.
-Siobhan
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okay it seems like your bf doesnt trust you enough! withought trust there is no relationship. you should talk to him and make sure he knows that you like him and you wouldnt cheat on him or even flirt withanyone. and that you dont realise that your flirting but you just are. also tell him you tried to not hang out with them as much but their your friends too.
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Ok, dont give up your best friends just to please your new boyfriend. tell him that these guys have been your bestfriends for years and you wont stop being friends with them just to please him because what he is doing is unfair.
he seems insecure, maybe he's been hurt before but tell you how you feel. explain that it would be like you asking him to give up his best friends, its just not fair. also explain to him why these people are your friends and just because they are guys, doesnt mean that your going to get with any or all of them. they are friends and nothing more.
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