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i have been writing songs for a while now. I only really actually wrote like 3 songs but its ok. What i need help on is i cant ever seem to make up my own rythmn. I would like the music from other songs and just fill in different words. I cant seem to "make" my own music. I tried to make up my own music but i just cant. Can someone please help!
thanks alot!!!! (link)
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Sometimes the lyrics inspire the music, sometimes the music inspires the lyrics. What I see a lot of people do is just mess around on an instrument, and if they find something that sounds good, they go with it and develop it. If they don't have lyrics that fit the music, and aren't inspired to any, they just keep what they've developed in the back and wait for a time when they have lyrics that would go good with that music.
Another thing you can do is try applying the emotion of the lyrics for the music. Are the words meant to be sharp and cutting, romantic, angry, et cetera? Should the beat be barely audible or hard and driving? Try reading (or even singing) the lyrics out loud and listen to how you read them.
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iim tryinq to eat healthiier ..i eat alot of fruit cause i feel like its not really eatinq at all.. is it fatteninq wen it addz up? (link)
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Fruits have a lot of sugar. Sugar means calories means fat, but there's a lot less sugar in fruit than junk food, so I don't think a lot of fruit is a bad thing. Just don't forget the green leafy vegetables - they have no carbs, sugar, or fat.
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My husband is the eldest, has three sisters. His mom is an only child, his father has several sibs. My husband and I both graduated college in four years, both work full-time, have been married 20 years, have two teenage children -- the only grandchildren -- and own a home and two breaking down vehicles. We consider ourselves middle class. We rarely go on vacation and when we do, it's usually to visit family and brief due to work and children's event scheduling. My husband's sisters have all graduated college eventually, taking 5 to 7 years, and have returned for schooling at various times, which their parents have always paid for. Two of them are married, only one of them works, the third works part-time and is getting married soon. All three of these girls continue to have mom and dad finance anything from vacations to dental work to their dog's surgery. We recently learned that my in-laws have been paying insurance, both medical and car, at various times for years for two of these adult women. When there is a plumbing problem, a car repair or a big vacation, these ladies have been going to mom and dad for financial support and receiving it.
When we have borrowed money, on two occasions in the past 20 years, we have offered to pay it back and been refused. But we never have asked for anything further and have not received anything further, either. We have had many emergencies that we could have used help with but figured it was our responsibility and not anyone else's -- we did not know that our "upper class" parents had been funding "the girls" in every little thing for years.
Recently talk has centered about their will and one of sis-in-laws was named the executor. This is fine, although a bit of a concern since she has financially never stood on her own two feet. We have been asked to name any property of theirs that we would like and I requested only one thing, a used but not antique nor family heirloom piano, and this is for my daughter who is quite the musician -- none of my sis-in-laws play any instruments nor do they have any children not even stepchildren. This one request was refused because one sister had already requested the piano. Obviously she must be planning to get a bigger house with her inheritance because there is no room in her current dwelling for anything that big.
Well, this has upset my husband to no end because he now is convinced that all those years we went on day trips and his sisters went on cruises and spent a lot of time on Caribbean islands that this was funded directly or indirectly (since they aren't responsible for themselves) by his parents. The parents have always made a big deal about having the same amount of presents under the tree for everyone, etc., but now are saying that their property will be divided four ways -- with nothing noted for their only grandchildren. This seems unfair to me on so many levels, especially in light that the sisters have long time been the recipients of uneven gifts of money and support for years, more than a decade after they had moved out of the house.
We are wondering what we did to deserve this. There has been no animosity, never any disagreements. I really wouldn't care except now my husband is very hurt and becoming a little paranoid about the fact that his sisters get their credit cards paid off by his parents while we paid ours off ourselves all these years even when it involved hospital bills for our children or other expenses.
Recently we discovered that one sis had complained to her parents about gifts they had given us ($25 checks) on our wedding anniversaries and for father's and mother's days and so now I guess mom is sending each of the girls something on those occasions to be equal. Yet we have always bought gifts for the parents on these occasions and the girls typically just send them cards only.
I don't want it to sound like I am being petty and greedy, but it does sort of come down to this. We thought we had a great relationship with my in-laws and now it feels like they have been favoring the girls over their son and will continue to do so. I doubt my husband wishes to consult an attorney or anything that might damage his relationship with his family, but he is very hurt and we don't know how to express this to his parents. They are in their 70s and both are very smart and active; we hope they live another 20 years! (link)
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This is something your husband needs to bring up to his parents. If he doesn't know why they are doing this, then he should ask and talk about it with them. I don't think any kind of legal action is the way to go - even if they were to will everything to their daughters, I doubt that you or your husband would be able to do anything to change it.
Anyway, I think that it's probably more an issue of a misconception or misguided judgement than either or both of you doing anything to deserve this. Just talk to them or have your husband talk to them. Or if you need financial help, ask for it, because maybe they only give if asked.
I do want to say, though, that I have more respect for someone who doesn't ask for financial help unless needed than the person who asks whenever they want it. So hats off to you and your husband.
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i need help. how can i make my face look nicer, clearer by saturday ? ... its wednesday today. oh HOME REMEDIES ONLY PLEASE!!! i dont have time to go to the store (link)
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Make sure you keep your face clean and that you don't touch it except when cleaning it. Don't eat sweets or things with a lot of oil. And don't try to pop any zits
If you keep your face moist (facial moisturizer), that will probably help as well.
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i wear glasses and i dont want to take them off when i make out
what do i do is it possible to make out with him if you wear glasses? (link)
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Yes. If he doesn't wear them, then it will be annoying, and you'll need to clean them afterwards because the oils from his face will get on your lenses. If he does wear glasses, there will also be a lot of clanking noise.
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how long do u have to keep it on? (link)
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I've never used it myself, and I don't have anybody right here who can answer that. I'd imagine it could be as much as an hour, maybe, but probably not. Just leave it on until the hair is light enough.
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does peroxide work for dieing ur hair. and would it work on arm hair. (link)
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It does work, just not as well as the stuff you can buy - it takes longer, and bleaches the skin, too. I imagine it would work on the arm hair.
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is it possible to make out with a guy if you wear glasses (it would be helpful if people who wear glasses answer this) (link)
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It's very possible. If you forget to take your glasses off, and the guy wears glasses, they just clank a lot, so it's best to take them off. If he doesn't wear glasses, yours could just get annoying.
If it's just a kiss or few, leaving the glasses on is fine. If he wears glasses as well, they'll probably still clank, but I wouldn't get embarrassed. It's kind of funny, actually.
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Is Limewire legal? My friends have been telling me it is, but I'm not so sure. (link)
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The application is not illegal. Using it is not. What you use it to do can be.
Obtaining copyrighted materials for free without the expressed permission of the owner of the copyright is illegal. In other words, downloading music and movies is, in general, illegal.
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I'm trying to lose some weight, and I haven't noticed any results. I havent been eating much and I've been exercising everyday for a while now. Is there any way to increase my metabolism? Good diets? Exercises? Anything helpful! Thanks~~~ :D (link)
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Eating too little won't do a whole lot, really, except deprive you of the nutrients you need for your metabolism to do its thing.
The rest is quoted from one of my previous responses, so ignore the parts that don't apply to you:
"Drink water. No soda, only 1 cup of 100% juice per day (and no roll-overs - if you don't have one on one day, you don't get 2 the next), and try to not eat very many carbs (rice, potatoes, carrots, sauces, sugar, grains, et cetera). For bread, keep away from white and only have some that looks at least "tanned" (whole grain, wheat, et cetera). Meat, green vegetables, and water are your friends; other vegetables, fruits, and milk your buddies; grains and juices your acquaintances; and munchies, sodas, and juice drinks your enemies.
A person should drink half their body weight (measured in pounds) in fluid ounces of water per day. Less water than this reduces your metabolism. More than this won't increase it, but, as long as it's not terribly more, won't be unhealthy. What that means is that you take your weight and divide it by 16, and that's how many fluid measured cups of water you should drink per day. I don't know how milk and juice effect this amount, but you shouldn't be drinking more than 2 cups milk or 1 cup juice a day anyway.
When there's the option of walking or biking vs driving, try to do the former rather than the latter. If you do a lot of watching TV, try to get up and be busy during commercials, or pause the movie every 15 minutes or so and walk around.
Do not purge - this will do tragic things to your body's chemistry, not to mention throw your health right out the window. Good looks are not worth sacrificing your health - a healthy woman is far more attractive than one who is annorexic.
Beyond that, about 1-2 hours per day of just walking or jogging or whatever should help. Just make sure that you don't count anything that's less than about 30 minutes - 15 minutes excersize does almost nothing. 30 minutes excersize twice does less than an hour excersize, but only very little. Although, there are those who argue (including myself) that 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes in the evening is better for your metabolism than 1 hour at either."
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WHY D0 ADVICENT0RS CALL IT FEEDBACK.. ME AND MY FRIEND WERE JUSTTALKING AB0UT IT AND WE D0NT KN0W ! THANKS IN ADVANCE ♥ (link)
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Feedback - The return of information about the result of a process or activity; an evaluative response: asked the students for feedback on the new curriculum.
Basically, it is the response to the advice. We feed you advice (feed as in provide or give, not shove down your throat), and you feed back to us a rating about our advice.
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ok.this is something i've always wondered. when girls aren't around what do guys talk about?. haha i know its a gay question. but i've just always wondered that. ill rate you a 5 =) =) =) (link)
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My coworker responds "f*&k, I dunno, I don't talk about nothing. Dudes will just be chillin. ... Say 'Ho-bags. They talk about ho-bags.'" Another coworker just talks loud. Dunno what he's sayin, he rarely stops talking - I kind of have him permanently droned out.
Anywho, it really depends. Lots of guys will talk about women, sex, sports, and things like that. Some guys just like to debate, though some need alcohol to do so coherently (in their own minds anyway).
Me, I talk about the same stuff regardless of who's around - anything, everything, and nothing. Could be music, relationships, cars, anime, role-playing, whatever... just whatever comes up. And, yes, sex does come up sometimes, just more as an academic discussion, not mindless objectiveness. Is that even a word?
Anyway, there you go.
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ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!! (link)
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I'm the same way, just inverse (I'm a guy, most of my friends are gals). The deal is, you are flirting with them, just not with any kind of intentions beyond just having fun.
See, with me, I flirt with my friends, but just as friends. When I have a gf, I still flirt with them, just less. And I don't mean anything by it, really, just having fun. I can do this because I know where I stand with them. Note though that I don't flirt with people who like me unless I like them as well.
If you agree with what I've said, I think you should tell your bf that you realize that are actually flirting with them, just that you didn't realize it was flirting because you don't mean anything by it, that's just how you are with your friends.
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On june 13 and june 15 i had sex wit my bf. we had used protection n everythin. then i got my period on june 19...it last bout 5 days and it was a heavy flow..meaning it really was my period n nothin lik "spotting". newyz i havnt had sex since june 15th but now its been 34 days and i havnt had my period. usually i have it around 30-31 days...could i be pregnant? (link)
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It's /possible/, just extremely unlikely if you use the protection properly.
Some women will still have their period during pregnancy - and ex of mine had a 2 year old daughter when I met her, and she had her period the /entire/ time she was pregnant.
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Ok... a few questions about pregnancy
When you are pregnant you don't get your period... i knwo that.
Is it true that after giving birth you have your period for a month?
After giving birth how do you track your period? Will your cycle fall on the same days it ususally does or do you start a whole new pattern? Is there anyway to predict this new pattern? (link)
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I can only respond to part of this - a misconception. Some women will still have their period during pregnancy - and ex of mine had a 2 year old daughter when I met her, and she had her period the /entire/ time she was pregnant.
As for the rest, I've no idea. Just wanted to mention the info.
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Hey, i NEED help. i really like this guy. but he has a girlfriend. but he made a move on me. i dont know what to do. i think i do have feelings for him. but i dont know what to do. Should I tell him how i feel? or should i just be close friends??????
Thanks...* (link)
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Some guys (like me) are just really flirtatious. If I'm in a committed relationship, I still flirt with people I'm comfortable with, just not as much as if I were single.
If he is trying to pick up on you, tell him you're only willing to be friends right now, maybe more later. Trust me when I say you don't want a guy to break up with someone to be with you, regardless of who he is. 'cause it'll happen again when he's with you and likes someone else.
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okay. i need to talk to someone and none of my friends can really help. my parents are divorced and i dont see my dad very often. i live with my mother who is an alcoholic and gets pissed off easliy. today my brother and mom got into a huge fight. she is now gone, i mean she just left. i called her and she said that she just needed to be alone. she hasnt returned yet, and i dont know what to do. i am only 14 and my brother 11. she is most likely going to come home incredibly drunk and when she is drunk life just sucks... i dont know what to do anymore because i am just sick of it. this isnt the first time she has just left...... (link)
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Talk to your dad, any other adult you can trust, or call child-protective services (google search: [+"child protective services" +(your state)] (without the brackets but with the +'s) to find the phone number).
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I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much. (link)
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*raises a glass* to your morals *sips and sets the glass down*
As far as the moral issue goes, tell him you are not willing to go beyond kissing, and stick to it.
However, regarding your personal issues, I really don't think you are ready for a serious relatinoship. It is so very true that you must love yourself before you can love another. I had to learn that the hard way (though in my case, it made me blindly accept without considering things first). I would suggest you tell him that you think he's a wonderful person (and everything else), and that you really want to go out with him, but that you aren't ready, and explain why. Ask him if he will be your friend for a while longer, and tell him you want to go out later, when you are able to do so.
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Okay when i was 13 i got drunk and had sex and he didnt use a condom. I got pregnant and told the father and he moved an i had my baby girl. Now im 15, every time i tell a bf i had a baby they end up breaking up with me. There is a guy who ive been dating for a lomg time now and he said hed be with me through all of the obsticals...well this is a huge obstical. Should i tell him i had a baby or say it is my mothers and tell my mother to go along with it till i tell him? (My mom had me when she was sixteen so she is young) (link)
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If a guy is going to say "I'll be with you through anything", you tell him, and he breaks up with you, he obviously wasn't telling the truth.
Something really important to realize is that the truth is the truth and you are who you are, no matter what. If you hide things from people, they will only like you for the person you project, not the person you are.
I say tell him, and be ok with the idea that he may not be ok with it. And tell him that you are. Because do you really want a guy who isn't going to love you for who you are?
"I know this will probably be a surprise to you, but I have a daughter, she's a year old. I made a mistake, and this is just what is. If you aren't ok with that or you want to break up, I won't blame you, I just don't want to have to hide her from you." Something like that.
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When I would sit in the tub for like 30-60 minutes, I would notice that the water would get gritty and then I would rub my skin and it would come off!!!!!! Then there was a lot of DIRT or something on the sides or the tub when I got out, is this normal!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Thanks in advance for helping me (IF YOU DECIDE TO BE RUDE THEN I WON'T EVEN RATE YOU!!!!) (link)
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It's just dead skin. Unless you stay in for hours, but even then I don't know as I've only ever soaked for an hour.
It's dead skin, sweat, and dirt. If you like to soak, I would suggest doing baths the way the Japanese do - wash, rinse, then enter the bath. The only difference would be shower, rinse, draw a bath, and soak.
Besides the exfoliating soap, they make other things to replace wash-cloths. One of them is something I don't know the name for, but it's a poofy thing made from a net-like material (there's one in the picture here: http://www.blusphere.com/Store/ViewProducts.aspx?sku=702770&dept=59&=&pagestart=0). There are also exfoliating cloths and gloves.
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