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Pregnant At 13
Okay when i was 13 i got drunk and had sex and he didnt use a condom. I got pregnant and told the father and he moved an i had my baby girl. Now im 15, every time i tell a bf i had a baby they end up breaking up with me. There is a guy who ive been dating for a lomg time now and he said hed be with me through all of the obsticals...well this is a huge obstical. Should i tell him i had a baby or say it is my mothers and tell my mother to go along with it till i tell him? (My mom had me when she was sixteen so she is young)
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i woudl tell him .. i mean i can understand why they are breaking up with you since you have a baby b/c they are young too and they dont want to deal with some1 who has that and they prolly dont want to bring them home neither.... telling him the truth is the best thing for a relationship
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you should tell him. if hes keeping his promise then he'll stick by you. if he doesnt then he wasnt worth it. good luck!
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If a guy is going to say "I'll be with you through anything", you tell him, and he breaks up with you, he obviously wasn't telling the truth.
Something really important to realize is that the truth is the truth and you are who you are, no matter what. If you hide things from people, they will only like you for the person you project, not the person you are.
I say tell him, and be ok with the idea that he may not be ok with it. And tell him that you are. Because do you really want a guy who isn't going to love you for who you are?
"I know this will probably be a surprise to you, but I have a daughter, she's a year old. I made a mistake, and this is just what is. If you aren't ok with that or you want to break up, I won't blame you, I just don't want to have to hide her from you." Something like that.
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Wow. You were young but i am very proud of you because being that young I dont think I could have done it. Anyway. I think that you should tell your boyfriend that she is your baby. If you guys have been together long enough for him to say he would stay with you through all your obsticles then if he loves you and wants to stay with you he will understand and be there with you through it. Reassure him that you guys arent getting married or anything.. and that you arent asking him to take care of your child but to still love you for who you are and what you have rather then running away. A guy who would treat a baby as his own deserves to be in a childs life. I was 16 when i had my daughter Kadence.. She is 2 now... and Ive been with a guy for almost a year now.. and he treats Kadence better then any real dad.. Just be honest with him sweetie... If hes the guy he will be there.. if not.. then you dont need him... YOUR child should come before any guy... She is your daugther. Dont play it out to be your moms child.
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i think you should tell him so there for you will know if he really is there for you no matter what :) i know it might be hard but i think if u tell him you'd feel alot less guilty becuz trust is a major part in a relationship. i hope i helped
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You definitely SHOULD tell him you have a baby. It is your responsibility, and if you want to be with this guy for a long time..don't you think you will get caught up in the lie later? You cannot lie to someone forever, especially about something this big! I think you should always tell the truth, and face the consequences! You need to find someone who will love you no matter what, baby or not. Always be honest, especially with boyfriends. If they really do love you, they will be there for you to support you and your child. Good Luck!
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OKAY i THiNK THAT iF HE SAiD THAT HE WAS G0iNG T0 BE WiTH HiM AND YOU FEEL U REALLY TRUST HiM THEN TELL HiM THE COMPLETE TRUTH ! HE WONT CARE iF HE REALLY LOVES YOU AND YOU HAViNG A BABY WOULDNT EFFECT ANYTHiNG TOWARD THAT !hope everythIng works 0ut !! G00D LUCK ! H0PE i HELPED ! ♥ ! X-0H
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i think you should tell him because the most important thing in a realationship is honesty and trust and if you dont be honest with him and he finds out he wont be able to trust you its best to be honest with him from the start
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Well...ask him what he would do if he ever dated someone who had a baby and then say because my mom had me when she was 16 and all the guys she dated dumped her because she had meand i thought that was rude...if he says he would dump them dump him right then and there... but if he says he would stay with them tell him that you had a baby when you were 13
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You don't have to tell him. In fact I'd probabaly better that everyone didn't know about your past mistakes. Because that's what it was, a dumb thing to do and now you're paying for it, but no one has to know. Go ahead, if your mom doesn't mind!
I applaud you for keeping your little angel!
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