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they would call me sarah, but it seems that people are afraid to address me by my name. i am a senior. i dislike a lot of things. i enjoy a nice hot medium mocha latte and smoke too many cigarettes for my own good. i have been in love. i love lights and colors. i am above the influence.


advice

anyone have tips on how to make mixtapes?

ex: (anything on the below)
1. would you prefer a CD or cassette tape?
2. possible themes
3. how to gather ideas for the title
4. album art

well, you should probably have an amazing music library to start!

1. then, cds are easier, but cassettes are classic, so it depends on the person and your type of friendship.
2. you could go with your favorite songs of all time,
or acoustic, or dance party, or songs that you have memories with.
3. i don't even ever give mine titles!
4. as for the album artwork for the front of the cd, you could design something yourself, or itunes has a feature that prints out things like that.

i hope this helped!
sarah.

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For christmas, im getting my boyfriend of a little less than a year sunglasses for driving, he asked for that, a cookie monster shirt as a joke, and a massage oil as sexyy. haha but i want to get him something meaningful and romantic. no rings or necklaces, he "doesnt do jewelry" and i got him a watch for his birthday. any ideas? thanks!

maybe a keychain, or you could have something sweet engraved on the back of a cool belt buckle.?

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ok i havnt had sex in 1 yr and almost 4 months, so im outta practice anyways but still,
i was never very experianced in screwing a guy while on top....
this guy i like now hates being on top and me i dont care either way yet im not so sure wat to do....
mostly when id be on top id lean forward some to where we'd almost be parallel and move back and forth, and sometimes in circles at an angle; sometimes id put my back to the guy and do basically the same thing, cept my face'd be at his legs instead of his face......
any one have any pointers?
or any other girl in control positions for me????

something else you can try is to sit up on him and move back and forth,
or to crouch over him, with your feet flat on the bed/floor and move up and down.
when you're kneeling over him try leaning pretty far forward and just moving your butt up and down, not in a rocking motion, but in a straight vertical motion.

something else that will feel really good for both of you is if he goes at it from behind. i know that that is the opposite of you being in control (:]) but it's not him being on top, and maybe he's prefer that.

good luck,
and if you need anything cleared up, let me know.
sarah.

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what are some ways to make the pubic area for a female smell good or at least fresh without douching or using prducts from the store or pharmacist? like any remedies or natural ways or possible ideas?

like the person before me said,
shaving really does make a difference.
and not just the top part, where the hair is most evident,
but /really/ shaving, all of it.
just be careful.
just like bad smells can get caught in your hair,
like cigarette smoke, or dog, pubic hair will hold smells from down there.
but after that, a shower usually will work for the day.
good luck. :]
Sarah.

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whenever I am talking with superiors while i am getting shivring?

you are most likely simply nervous.
nervous to make a good impression, to not seem silly or dumb, to say the right things.
do you have anything that's weighing on your mind that you've done that you're afraid that they've find out about?
not sure hon, just be calm.

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is it true if your boobs itch that means theyre growing?

they might just be sweaty.
my best friend and i were talking about this the other day,
i wish that it meant they were growing,
but it may just be the itchy hotness which is summer.

sigh.

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So last night i got fingered for the first time.. it didn't really feel good it almost hurt more than anything.. and it hurts to pee.. is that normal for the first time?


it is normal for it not to feel good, but it shouldn't really hurt to pee, it's not the same hole.
you should most likely be fine, but if it continues to hurt when you pee, give it about four days, then you might have gotten a urinary tract infection from bacteria.
but yes, it's normal to hurt.

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Well im young and i havent started my period, but i want to know hwo you know your gonna start, like i know you get cramps and moody but do you know when its a period cramp, or do you know the moodiness is from your period, like is it nothing youve felt before, like you can tell, i just wanna know if i will know for sure that "that is period cramps" or "that is moodiness from my period", i can tell, so please help me out , i wanna know, Thanks!


the first time that i got my period was Christmas eve when i was eleven, and i was just like, "uh, woah, when did this decide to happen, eh?"
there were absolutely no signs the first time, but then after about a year, i started getting cramps,
i'm seventeen right now and i think that i've only ACTUALLY gotten moody and pms for the first time this summer.
usually the cramps start when your actual menstrual flow starts anyway, and you'll be able to tell if they're period cramps just because they'll be where you know your uterus is and it'll just feel like bad muscle cramps in your pelvic area. you'll know.
maybe you won't get moody at all, maybe you'll get really moody,
but once you've had it for a while, you'll be able to know when it's coming, or about the time when you should expect it, so you might just be able to notice that you're more irritable than usual and link it to the fact that you might be getting your period.

ha, good luck with this. it's the most inconvenient thing in the whole world.

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Okay, this is really long but I'm in desperate need of help so please take 5 min to help me.

I'm 16/f and I screwed up big time and it took me too long to realize what I've done. Long story short, I've really hurt my family by lying to them, deceiving them, and hiding things from them since 8th grade (and right now is the summer after 10th grade). I realized that I need to get myself together and stop doing whatever I want to do without thinking that there won't be any consequences. I told my mom I was sorry over a million times. I wrote her a front and back 3 page note telling her the things I realized & the way things are going to be and that I'll change not just for the family but for myself as well. But I've done that in the past without really meaning it and my mom completely ignored the note and is still really mad at me. And to make things worse, she and my dad are fighting because of me, well not the root cause but the triggering factor is me.

I don't know what else I can do to make up to her. A sorry and doing household chores isn't working. I am going to cut off all connections from people who haven't been the best influences in my life and people that I snuck out with resulting in me hurting my parents.

Also, my mom strongly believes (which means that no matter what, I won't be able to convince her otherwise) that I am taking ballet and became a vegetarian because of a girl (who she despises) made me do so. As silly as that sounds, this whole big fight is mainly over that one girl. But the problem is that I've wanted to take ballet for 5 years now and the only reason I didn't was because of money problems. And I wanted to be a vegetarian since 8th grade because of the animal cruelty and the fact that I don't and never really liked meat in the first place. And this is all before I met that girl. But I can't convince my mom of that so I was planning to tell her that if it hurts her so much and causes her so much troubles, I'll give up ballet and take ballroom dance with a guy that my mom adores and wishes I'd go out with or take jazz classes instead (I need some kind of dancing for school) & I was going to give up my vegetarianism (as much as the thought of me eating meat makes me nauseous) which means that I'll eat whatever she cooks even if it has meat or animal broth in it but does not mean that I'll be eating meat/chicken/fish chunks out of the dishes (which I'm afraid to add on because she might think that I really don't mean giving up my vegetarianism).

This is how serious I am about wanting to fix all the problems I made. I really am passionate about ballet and vegetarianism. I know that I can't fix it in one day or anything but what else can I do?

I really am sorry, perhaps more sorry than anyone can ever be. I want to change and become a better person and stop causing my family so much problems but it's getting harder and harder. I miss my mom's voice and her laugh and her hugs and I just want things to go back to better times. I don't know what to do.

nothing is too late. you're only a junior in highschool, you've got time, be thankful for that, first of all.
next i'm going to let you know that i can relate to this. this past fall, (the beginning of my 11th grade year) i got in a bad place with some people had no repect for anything but drugs and various other illegal things. this wasn't #me#, but i was having a rough time with everything and needed something. anyway, i ended up getting caught doing a lot of harmful things, not speaking to anyone in my family who i love very much, for months, losing a lot of friends and being constantly supervised until i eventually cracked. they were rough times, i'll tell you.
what helped things get better, really was just talking. telling my mom why i was doing what i was doing. letting her in on what was going on in my head. i was just patiently pleasant to everyone in my family, even though it took every ounce of strength to not just give up and be miserable.

stop saying the words 'i'm sorry' and just start showing it. it WILL take time. when people say that it takes years to build trust and minutes to destroy it, they ain't talking out of their asses. when i was younger,
my mom used to say that i had a "trust bank", and girl, most of the time it had a negative balance.
try to be more involved with the family, show her why you believe in what you believe about meat.
if you think about it, even if she still believes that your friend was the one who influenced you to become a vegetarian, you're the one who is making the final choice to eat like that. and non-meat items really are healthy for you.

tell your mom what you said in your last paragraph of your question in a way that she'll understand.
everything gets better if you are a good person.
trust and respect are two of the most powerful and good things in this world, and if you can get them and give them, you won't be in a bad place.

i really hope that things get better for you.
if you every need to talk about anything or have any more questions, i really have been through a lot.
my e-mail is habieb_m1@yahoo.com.

hey, good luck.

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where can i buy 3D glasses at?

hey! here are some that might do the trick if you don't mind ordering them.!
otherwise, if you have a spencers in a mall near you, or some sort of novelty shop, check there.
otherwise, these are pretty cheap.!

http://www.3dglassesonline.com/how-do-3d-glasses-work/

http://www.rainbowsymphonystore.com/3dglasses.html

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well i really want to start doing some cool things with my hair. i basically always just have it down and straightened which gets boring but im terrible at hair. this summer im determined to get better at hair though. so anyway what im hoping for is some easy but super cool and hott things to try with my hair. like hairstyles and ways of putting it up and stuff. i have thin hair thats to my chest. i have side bangs as well. thank you SO MUCH and i need as many things to try as possible. some i would really like to be unique and orginal because i want to do something different but something that looks really good and pretty. something that stands out a little but in a really good way. thank you again!!!!!! :)

one thing that's pretty is to put it in a poof that starts BEHIND your bangs, instead of including them in it, then it gives it a little bit of a different look.
another thing is to put it up and use bright colored rolled bandannas as headbands.
you could try to get it cut a little shorter and put it in a pretty high ponytail that looks sort of punky.
or try to teach yourself to do french braids, it's not that hard.!
good luck.
it's too hot to have your hair down. :]

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oh kay so i need this to be defined
1. oral sex
2. jackin off
3. head
thx

www.urbandictionary.com

type the terms into there.
this website is all you will ever need.
really, it's amaze.

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Hi,i was wondering what age is a good age for kids to start dating? Im 14 going to be 15 (freshman in highschool) if that helps at all..thanks : )

it all depends on what you want to get OUT of dating. are you just looking for boy after boy to go places with? then just start dating whenever you have a crush on someone.
i waited until last summer to even attempt a relationship because i knew i wasn't ready until then. now looking back, i can see that i was still obnoxious. but i did find someone who i really like and we've been together for over a year, now.
your freshman year is about a LOT of change. you're going to find out a lot about yourself, and change. keep that in mind before commiting yourself to a boy, also. hours on the phone when you're trying to do homework is v. difficult.

have fun, okay?
-sara.

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Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.

I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.

Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?

I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.

Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.



i really don't think that you should think of yourself as unlikeable. or even SUGGEST it to yourself. so just stop that.
i don't know if you are unlikeable, i don't know you, but my guess is that you aren't.
are you flirty, along with friendly, to guys you like? and how do you know you've never been liked!? as you probably know, sometimes guys are silly and don't ask girls out for a number of reasons. you've probably been liked.

i know how you feel, with your friends in relationships. you get annoyed that you don't have someone to do things with you and just you.
but i think that it's better to not have a boyfriend than to be desperate. just wait. but be careful, becasue if you were asked out, would you say yes now just to say yes? you will get yours. people always do. plus, do you want the guys who are only interested in slutty girls? i would think that you would want to find someone worth being with.
you have a long time. & the more years of highschool that go by without you getting your heart broken, the better, don't you think?

on another note, you know the strange people who get boyfriends and girlfriend ans act like it's nothing? that they deserve relationships becasue they don't know they're strage? that confuses me. and then there are perfectly normal people, most likely like you, that just don't get asked out...anyway, i just thought i'd mention how that makes me frustrated.

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if a girl gets fingered would the guys like it if they shaved before?

in my experience, yes.
but when you shave, it grows back remarkably fast, if you haven't noticed, so would it be better to be fuzzy or prickley??
ask your guy.
if you were planning on getting fingered, then you should be close enough to just ask him.

ah, good luck.
-sara.

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14/f

ok my parents are way too over protective!!

but anyway, they put parental controls on the tv and blocked MTV and VH1, even though im going in to highschool now!!

is this unreasonable? and does anyone else's parents do this??

i really wanna know so i can stop being so mad about it and stop feeling so annoyed about my parents cause its really getting on my last nerve lol.

thanks!!

overprotective?
my parents refuse to even pay for all of the 'garbage' that's on cable tv. when you turn on our tv, there's a blue screen on which to watch movies.
not that i don't know what's on,
but MTV is silly, anyway.
and VH1 can be amusing, but really, it is just a time waster.
if they are resilliant in not letting you view these channels, give it a few weeks, and once you're just used to not watching it, see if you really do miss it that much.
i doubt you will.

(we also have a filter on our computer that not only gives my parents a report on every website visited, but blocks everything from pornography, to online poker, to words typed in search engines that COULD lead to pornographic websites. not to mention all of the health and helpful school sites that it blocks by default. pogo.com was blocked becasue of 'gambling.' i was really furious at first, but you just deal with it.)

consider yourself lucky.

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Soo, this year i want to be more outgoing, funny***, laid back. For myself, i just want to be happier. the thing is, i dont know how to be outgoing,funny, OR laidback! Honestly, i don't exactly know what they really mean or how to be them. How do i become these things? I hate being quiet,stiff,boring,and all of that. I'd justt like to say, i'm changing for myself, not anyone else. Any tips,help,thoughts,if you went through this?? 14/f, i'll be a freshman. thanks!


i think that most people have this freshman year changing stage where you need to find out who you are and you want to become who you want to be like and such and it's very frustrating.
i had this exact same problem, where i knw who i was, but i couldn't convey it to other people in school or at work.
i used to just watch people in the hall ways or talking in class and not even want to join in because iw as afraid of saying something stupid, or just becasue i didn't have any input.
eventually, i got comfortable with myself and started saying what i wanted to say. it was only becasue i was comfortable with myself that i got the confidence to do this. i started talking to a lot of new people.
in your question, you said that you didn't know how to be them.
right now, i want to tell you NOT to want to be them. i know who you're talking about, and it looks like they have a lot more fun and are happier than you. but are you happy with what you have? with your friends? becasue sometimes what's right for some personalities isn't right for another person's personality. it took me two years to understand that. that i was happy with my friends. i thought that i was just settling for what i had, but i realized that i was really happy.
i think you should just keep your eyes open, keep learning and it really will all fall into place. all of it. you'll learn more about yourself this year and the next then you ever have.
i promise, actually.

(and i doubt that there's anyone who hates highschool cliches more than me. i can promise you that, too. so don't just take it as one.)

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ok well I'm about to move in a school with a uniform and this girl told me to roll up my skirt or else..yeah.

I don't want to look slutty or anything but you know, there's always a good way of dresing, and then there's a BETTER way of dressing. I just want to fit in a little with the girls and not be so..nooby with the clothing thing.

How high is the skirt supposed to reach to? and when you roll it, do you roll it outwards or inwards?

If you don't understand what I'm going through, think of it as the girl in the Grudge 2, only if i remember how she did it I wouldn't be asking this question.

Thank you sooo much for taking your time answering this!

everyone rolls their skirt in my school. they're supposed to be about 2-3 inches above your knee, but the girls who make them 4-6 do look slutty. i think that you should make it the lengh that you usually would wear a skirt and then see how the other girls wear them and follow their lead.
to roll it, you just put it on and then fold in outwards once or twice.

i hope this is useful.
good luck with uniforms.
we have a love hate relationship. =]

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I feel so stupid for asking this but what does it feel like to fall in love or have a crush for the first time? Please don't say "you'll know when it happens.."


the person will fill your head whenever you have a spare moment to think about anything.
you will look forward to being with them more than anything.
you will get the chills becasue they are obsessed with you and you are obsessed with them.
even if they aren't perfect, when it comes down to it and it's between you and them, you don't care what anyone else thinks.
you will say i love you to them without thinking about it. it will just spill out.
you know the top of a rollercoaster, where it almost comes to a complete stop before it goes down the other side? and that feeling you get? it's a lot like that.


you'll love it.
-sara.

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Ok I read an article about you hymen and it says that it is like outside of your vagina, and I'm having problems inserting a tampon.

Does that mean that I'm having trouble inserting it all the way because my hymen isn't broken and it's in the way?

that may be it, if your hymen is still intact, then it can hinder you from inserting a tampon and you would have to break it to put one in.
it took me until this year to actually learn how to put a tampon in correctly.
all of the times before, it hurt so badly that i would give up.
it could be that it's not lubricated enough to actually go in and so the tampon would stick and then hurt. your vagina should naturally have some fluid, plus menstruation, but sometimes that isn't enough.
or maybe the way you're standing isn't helping.
try putting your leg onthe toilet seat or squatting a little bit.
that's all i can offer, but good luck!


-sara

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