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never been in a relationship.
Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.
I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.
Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?
I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.
Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.
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Honestly.. you shouldn't think somethings wrong with you.. have confidence in yourself.. guys love a girl with confidence. Also just be yourself.. there's nothing worse then trying to be someone you're not... don't worry, just let things happen on their own.. don't force a relationship. I know it's hard waiting but sooner or later you'll meet someone right for you. And I don't think that guy's are into the type of girls you mentioned, slutty/popular/stickthin etc., and the guys who are interested in those characteristics are mostly shallow guys ;). In the long run guys aren't attracted to slutty stuck up girls. Good luck.. be confident!! =)
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Your not unlikeable. Not all guys are into that blonde stereotype, do all of your friends that have boyfriends look like that? I didnt think so. Your not the same as anyone else, and their will be guys out there for you. They just havent came around yet. You a fishy in the sea, and their are many othr fishys out their, so just be patient. Talking to guys actually is a good step, most guys think its cool if a girl is brave, say by asking them out. Guys arent the only ones that need to ask people out, it must kinda sucks for them, thinking they have to. Go to a teen club or something, or a party, and introduce yourself to some guys. You don't have to change yourself for any guy.
Hope I helped!
-Brina
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Take it from someone who has tried: It's REALLY hard to like someone who thinks they are unlikable.
Think of this way: If you said "I think trees are pretty." and your friend said "No you don't." How annoying would that be?
Probably about as annoying and unappealing as your belief that you are unlikable and unattractive is to people who might find you likable and attractive…
(You would probably stop talking to that friend about trees. You might just stop thinking about trees altogether.)
I know that it’s really difficult to remember that you are a likable person when no one is right up there with two dozen roses and the inability to take their hands and eyes off you. That is exactly the reason that millions of people fall into AWFUL relationships; just so they have the proof from someone else that they are in fact likable!
Sadly, actually being likable is actually something that starts with inside of us, not with anyone else. I know it’s a cliché, but it’s also true.
So, are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty girls?
Of course not. Some are into redhead, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty girls.
No. Seriously. You already know that isn’t true. It’s *feels* true, but it isn’t
Just the same way it *feels* to you like you aren’t likable, but that isn’t true either.
It’s easy to blame it all on the guys (especially when you are a teen). Almost as easy as it is too blame all our own little faults (At fourteen I was convinced guys didn’t find me attractive because I wore size 10 shoes. That’s up there with one of the dumbest ideas I’ve ever had...)
I promise you there are far uglier, smellier, fatter and down right nastier people then you can possibly imagine out there right now who are getting loved and getting laid right this minute.
The only difference between you and them (besides the obvious that I’m not calling you any of those things) is opportunity and standards. Some people just get lucky opportunities when it comes to love and others don’t. Some people have basic common sense standards and some people will take any sort of ‘liking’ anyone will give them.
I promise you, someone at sometime, ‘liked you’. You are a human teenager. Unless you smell permanently of some sort of waste facility (and even if you do) some member of the opposite sex thought of you warmly at some point.
You are likable.
Everyone who could, has, or maybe does ‘like’ you, is just as scared and messed up as you are.
So you have to take a tiny little step towards being less scared and less messed up and believe, really believe, that it will happen.
Until you do, it won’t.
In the mean time, be the best you can be. Keep on being likable even just in the friend way. Don’t bet yourself up, but work towards an even MORE likable you. A lack of opportunity for a relationship can be a good thing if you take all this focus you have on yourself and your failings and turn it into something positive! Losing weight for example: Congrats! As long as you doing it and loving yourself, not hating yourself, way to go you.
That was very long and ranty. I hope it makes sense. It’s 4 am. I think I should go to bed now.
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i really don't think that you should think of yourself as unlikeable. or even SUGGEST it to yourself. so just stop that.
i don't know if you are unlikeable, i don't know you, but my guess is that you aren't.
are you flirty, along with friendly, to guys you like? and how do you know you've never been liked!? as you probably know, sometimes guys are silly and don't ask girls out for a number of reasons. you've probably been liked.
i know how you feel, with your friends in relationships. you get annoyed that you don't have someone to do things with you and just you.
but i think that it's better to not have a boyfriend than to be desperate. just wait. but be careful, becasue if you were asked out, would you say yes now just to say yes? you will get yours. people always do. plus, do you want the guys who are only interested in slutty girls? i would think that you would want to find someone worth being with.
you have a long time. & the more years of highschool that go by without you getting your heart broken, the better, don't you think?
on another note, you know the strange people who get boyfriends and girlfriend ans act like it's nothing? that they deserve relationships becasue they don't know they're strage? that confuses me. and then there are perfectly normal people, most likely like you, that just don't get asked out...anyway, i just thought i'd mention how that makes me frustrated.
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Honestly, I have a good friend who was never asked out/liked, but was actually very pretty and smart. All of a sudden, during high school she met someone amazing. They're perfect together, and have been dating for a few years, still going strong. I think it's a good thing you haven't had one, so maybe you'll end up like my friend! In my experience, it's the slow starters who really end up with amazing people and wonderful relationships. No rushing or searching! It'll happen for you out of nowhere.
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