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new yearr,new me
Soo, this year i want to be more outgoing, funny***, laid back. For myself, i just want to be happier. the thing is, i dont know how to be outgoing,funny, OR laidback! Honestly, i don't exactly know what they really mean or how to be them. How do i become these things? I hate being quiet,stiff,boring,and all of that. I'd justt like to say, i'm changing for myself, not anyone else. Any tips,help,thoughts,if you went through this?? 14/f, i'll be a freshman. thanks!
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i think that most people have this freshman year changing stage where you need to find out who you are and you want to become who you want to be like and such and it's very frustrating.
i had this exact same problem, where i knw who i was, but i couldn't convey it to other people in school or at work.
i used to just watch people in the hall ways or talking in class and not even want to join in because iw as afraid of saying something stupid, or just becasue i didn't have any input.
eventually, i got comfortable with myself and started saying what i wanted to say. it was only becasue i was comfortable with myself that i got the confidence to do this. i started talking to a lot of new people.
in your question, you said that you didn't know how to be them.
right now, i want to tell you NOT to want to be them. i know who you're talking about, and it looks like they have a lot more fun and are happier than you. but are you happy with what you have? with your friends? becasue sometimes what's right for some personalities isn't right for another person's personality. it took me two years to understand that. that i was happy with my friends. i thought that i was just settling for what i had, but i realized that i was really happy.
i think you should just keep your eyes open, keep learning and it really will all fall into place. all of it. you'll learn more about yourself this year and the next then you ever have.
i promise, actually.
(and i doubt that there's anyone who hates highschool cliches more than me. i can promise you that, too. so don't just take it as one.)
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well ive always been the outgoing type so I can't really tell you how to acheive it but what i can tell you is how you will feel once you do so itll motivate you i hope.
Since I am very outgoing it helps with confidence and it also makes it very easy to become social and popular. If you put yourself out there and show that you are friendly and aren't scared to start up a conversation with a random person around school or in your class they will respect you and think that is pretty cool. Since i am outgoing it makes me feel really happy because I know I am easily approchable. I think thats very important because you never wanna come off as being hard to talk to or unfriendly.
The key is to smile and look inviting and people will open up but you have to do some work! As long as you open yourself up to new groups, sports, activities, and people thats being outgoing right there! Just saying hi or introducing yourself to someone new its the first EASY step to becoming an outgoing friendly person.
hope i helped :)
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