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okay. i need to talk to someone and none of my friends can really help. my parents are divorced and i dont see my dad very often. i live with my mother who is an alcoholic and gets pissed off easliy. today my brother and mom got into a huge fight. she is now gone, i mean she just left. i called her and she said that she just needed to be alone. she hasnt returned yet, and i dont know what to do. i am only 14 and my brother 11. she is most likely going to come home incredibly drunk and when she is drunk life just sucks... i dont know what to do anymore because i am just sick of it. this isnt the first time she has just left......
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I suggest you talk to her when she is sober and tell her how you feel. If she really cares about you then she will go and find help. If there is any way that you can find a friend or another person in the family to stay with then I really strongly suggest that you do it. Living in an unsafe household at your age is not a good idea, especially since you are exposed to alcohol and its effects on a daily basis. So please try and find someone to stay with for a while. If your mom denies her problem and doesn't try to change her habits with drinking then you need to take action. It will be hard for you at your age to take the reins like an adult and face this problem alone but you may need to do it because her problem affects her life, yours, and your brother's life too. And since your mom isn't acting like a responsible adult, you need to. If she refuses to get help, go to an adult you trust and tell them your problem. Make sure that you have a place to stay and that you can find someone trustworthy to confide in. Good luck! If you need any advice just note me anytime!
~Sherah
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is there any chance you can live with your dad? if not, any family members or close friends?
good luck, send me a message if u need anything else
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Ummm, honey you seriously need some help.
Call your dad or another family member!!!! You guys need to be under adult supervision!
I know you may not like my answer but I think you should try to move back in with your dad because you need a reall adult that won't run out on you two randomly and get your mom into rehab. as soon as possible.
But call someone right now as you're reading this I don't care if its a friend or people I've mentioned above. Get you and your brother out of that house. Maybe even call someone and arrange fro him to sleepover.
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May i suggest asking Dr_Aggeklint this question.
I'm sure she would understand and give you the best advice.
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Well what i would do is go to my dads it would probably be much better there .. or call him and tell him what is goin on !! Hope that helps !!
kaitlyn jO*
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i know how you feel i see my dad about 4 times a year and my mom doesnt understand the way i feel about it, of course my mom doesnt get drunk all that much. i think you sohuld call your dad or a grandparent or even a really close friend or something and talk to them about how your feeling, because most likely they can help you. another thing is not to get your mom mad while shes drunk because when people are drunk you dont want them driving or fighting so try to just stay clam. if you ever need to talk just IM me and ill be here to talk to you vanna763
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You poor thing. :-( I know hwta it's like to have divorced parents, but my mom isn't an alcoholic. If you have any family members that you're close to, you should see them for help. Maybe stay with them for a while while your mom gets help for her alcoholism. You need to do something though, because for one, your mom can't control herself when she's drunk, and something bad could happen. I would suggest calling up your grandpa/grandma, or an aunt or uncle and ask to at least stay the night or for a little while. I hope my advice helped and I hope things get better for you. <3
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i know what its like to have an alcoholic parent. exsept its my dad. hes bad enogh to come home drunk on my birthday. if you need someone to talk to just e-mail me at salem_22_@hotmail.com dont be shy i'll be there to talk. I'm online everyday just about.
im 14/f
my name is joe
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I think you should call dad and see what he can do for you. I think maybe you should try and go live with him until mom gets her act together. You shouldn't have to put up with all that and neither should your brother. Maybe if you guys go live with dad she will open her eyes to what she is doing to you. Doesn't mean you don't love her but she isn't being a very good role model right at the moment. :)
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wow, im so sorry. my parents are divorced too and i dont see my dad very often, but i guess your a little worse off cause you have to deal with an alcohalic. my advice to you is to either:
a.)try and talk to your mom when she is sober, and explain to her how it makes you feel when she is drunk and how it makes you feel when she leaves. maybe do some research on how to recover as an alcoholic and tell her it would make you feel better if she slowed it down on the drinking.
b.)call your dad. i know that might seem hard to do cause you dont see him often but tell him whats going on and maybe try and find a time for just you and him to get together and just talk. maybe who knows...he can talk to her about it
i hope i helped, cause i really understand to some extent what your going through! if you need to talk more about it my IM is: imasuperstar673!!
Love, Gumby (( aka Mel ))
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ok well i think i will be really good at this question because i know exactly how you feel. my parents are divorced and my dad is an alcoholic. i dont live with him but my mom makes me go over there every weekend, it really pisses me off because 2 days out of the week do you think he would stop drinking to see his kids? no. I'm 15 and my brother is 13 and even tho hes only 2 yrs. younger than me, i look out for him and im here for him because i know what hes going through to and you should do the same for your brother to. if you think you have nobody to lean on remember that your brother knows exactly how you feel, it may help you feel better if you and him talk about it with your mother and tell her how you guys feel. and you should really try going over to see your dad more often because he still loves you alot and he would probobly listen to your problems to, it helps me out when i talk to my mom about my dad because shes here for me and im sure your dad will do the same.
*i hope i've helped*
-Sarah
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You really need to get anouther adult involved in your situation.Is there anyone who might be able to help you through this? You may be able to call alcoholic anonymous and ask them what to do with your Mom.I'm sure they have seen cases like yours and have ways of dealing with it. Depending where you live,there should be a 1-800 number that is free.1-800-245-1377 this is a New Jersy number.
Here is a site call youth yellow pages ,it has 1-800 numbers
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Hope this helps.
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Nobody should just LEAVE their kids and come back drunk whenever the heck she feels like it.
Not only can what she's doing affect her health but it can affect your little brothers health as well. Someone that young shouldn't have to live like that and if she goes too far, she can hurt him or he can hrt himself due to all the stress going on.
You shouldn't have to live like that. You should call a relative to come pick you up. Tell your mom where you are and when she figures out what her problem is, she can come and get you.
You should also have someone try to get your dad to get most of the custody for both you, and your brother.
Children shouldn't live like that and your mom is definitly wrong for doing that to you guys.
Pack a bag or something and have a relative pick you up. An aunt, uncle, grandma, grandpa, or family friend. Call your mom and tell her that you will be staying with this relative/friend until she calms her butt down!
This will help you get away from your mom and let her calm down. Then, she'll relaize what she is doing and figure that it's wrong to just leave whenever you want!
You know where I am if you need advice or want to talk. Also, you xan email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?
Good luck and I hope you try this! Trust me! It'll work!
Best of luck!♥
Hope I helped! ♥
♥ Kayla ♥
P.S. I am sorry but I have never been in this situation. I'm trying my best to put myself in your shoes and that is what I, seriously, would do! I'm sorry you have to be like this and I'm sorry that your mom is like that! I couldn't imagine life without my mom. I hope best of luck to you and remember, if you need me, I'm online all the time. LOL. Just email me or send me a question in my inbox! I'm on right now!
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Talk to your dad, any other adult you can trust, or call child-protective services (google search: [+"child protective services" +(your state)] (without the brackets but with the +'s) to find the phone number).
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Ok first off you need to let someone know what you're mom is doing. She has a responsibility to you and your brother. If she won't take responsibility, someone needs to. Try calling your dad or other adult family members. Tell them what's going on. Your mom leaving your alone is called neglect.
This number is for AlAnon/AlaTeen. They will help you understand what your mom is dealing with and tell you how to best deal with it. It's toll-free and they're available until 6 pm eastern time. 1-800-4-AL-ANON. If it's too late for you to call that number, you can also call 1-800-ALCOHOL. They're available 24/7.
The next number is a crisis line for teens and parents. It's also toll-free and completely confidential. 1-800-999-9999
This last number is for ChildHelpUSA. It's completely free and confidential and the counselors will help you in dealing with your mom neglecting you. Dial 1-800-4-A-CHILD and then press 1 to speak to a counselor.
With all of these numbers, the calls are completely free and confidential. You don't even have to tell them who you are or where you are.
I hope these help.
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Wow, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. If you're afraid to face her right when she comes home is there someone you can stay with, a friend, grandparent, good neighbor? (Of course you'll have to take your brother with you.) Or if you think you can deal with it just make your meals and try to stay busy. Though you may love your mom would you ever consider calling "Children and Youth" or Social Services?? They can help your mom get into rehab and provide you with what you need until she's capable of controlling yourself.
Good luck with everything
AG
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Ok, when your mother gets drunk, if she has ever, ever once hit you, this is a matter for the police. But the environment yu and your brother are living in is not one that you should have to grow up in. Talk to a relative or someone you could stay with. And your mother needs some help. She needs to go into counseling. Anything you and yur brother can do to get out of that house permantly, do it. Yu don't have to deal with this, it is not safe. Best of luck, i hope everything turns out fine.
PS-PRAY TO GOD!
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Tell someone. Your mom is very irresponsible, and is under no athority to take care of you. You may need to call in a relative, maybe your dad or the police because this can escalate into things worse.
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Is there anyone else who lives near you that you can stay with for the time being? You don't deserve to be around such an environment, and your mom needs to know that.
If you need someone to talk to, feel free to IM me or email me. I'm here for you anytime you need to talk. I completely understand what you're going through.
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you should really call someone like your grandparents or close relatives and they should get your mom help
i hope this helps you out a little if you need anything at all drop one in my inbox or im me anytime ♥
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